Scaring a pisces man away?

Hi 😉

Soooo... 😄

I'm currently dating a pisces man.

We've been dating since three months now (have been on only 3 dates so far, but are in contact via text messages almost every day, exchanging beautifuly poetic letters and romantic fantasies).

There is extraordinary chemistry between us and definetly big potential.

We're currently "only" dating, neither of us want's to be in an exclusive relationship.

In the last couple of days his messages got fewer and shorter. It seems to me that he's ignoring me out of the blue.

I've asked him if he is feeling o.k., if I can help him in any way and offered my support in case he needs it (he just ignored the message).

I still send him a light hearted message every day, but I don't bombard him with messages (maybe he's just busy at the moment and I don't want to annoy him and respect his space).

Although, I kinda feel the urge to "clear the air".

I want to ask him what's going on. If he's just been busy lately, if there is a problem, if I have done something "wrong", if he's not interested anymore, or if he just needs some space in general...

I feel a really strong emotional, romantic and "best friend" connection to him (almost like a finally found soulmate), I miss him, I'd really like to see him again. And I actually want to write him exactly that.

But: I'm afraid of scaring him away if I tell him my feelings for him so bluntly. I don't want him to feel pressured to commit solely to me (which is not my intention).

He also told me once that he ended most of his relationships because one person got too attached to the other one (so that's also why I'm afraid of scaring him away if I tell him my feelings).

Do you think it would be better to tell him what I feel? Or to clear the air and ask him if there's a problem? Or to be patient and wait until he reaches out to me?

I'm used to him beeing a little bit flaky (I have no problem with that), but it's unusual for him to be so "absent".

I don't want to pressure him into anything, but I also don't want him to swim away 😄

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ME: female, age 25. #Sun in Capricorn, Ascendant Leo,

#Mon #Ven, #Mar #Jup and #Ura in Aquarius,

#Mer and #Plu in Sagittarius, #Sat Aries, #Nep Capricorn

HIM: male, age 37. #Sun Pisces, Ascendant Scorpio

(sadly that's all I know of his chart)

Well…I am not familiar with Pisces but here they are viewed as ‘RUN’ or ‘STAY AWAY’ and overall not recommended.

I see you have 12 years difference between you.

I would think man would be all over you wanting to meet you more often that I’ve owe months.

Stop wondering. If he wanted you - he would be there for you.

Men always find time for women they WANT!

Do not be a doormat and do not make excuses for him!

Go to groupovenus.com and read ALL the free reports they have. It will give you some clarity. Good luck.

Just ignore his weak self. Who needs a “man” like that anyway? 😒

Thanks very much for the replies everyone 😉

@alexscaries

We had sex on the third date, the first and second was without sex but loaded with chemistry.

@Lavemder-Haze

@GemiMay

"be direct or be with someone that actually wants you."

"If he wanted you - he would be there for you."

... Well, that's the thing, I know that there could be the possibility that he just has a stressfull time with his own life and that it maybe doesn't have anything to do with me personally. I'm sometimes guilty of ghosting people myself in very busy or difficult times of my life, so I know what that feels like. That's why I don't want to judge him immediately and accuse him of beeing not "worthy" enough for me just because he doesn't write me back a couple of days.

@LaLueur

"You both are just dating,not married so... "

...yeah, true. That's also why I'm not sure how he would react. I don't want to give him the feeling of beeing caged in.

But on the other hand, I just really have the urge to be direct and blunt about how I feel, and to just clear the air.

But again I'm afraid of creating a drama where there is none.

I still don't know what to do 😄...

you need to be the first to ghost

Posted by _Amygdala_

Thanks very much for the replies everyone 😉

@alexscaries

We had sex on the third date, the first and second was without sex but loaded with chemistry.

@Lavemder-Haze

@GemiMay

"be direct or be with someone that actually wants you."

"If he wanted you - he would be there for you."

... Well, that's the thing, I know that there could be the possibility that he just has a stressfull time with his own life and that it maybe doesn't have anything to do with me personally. I'm sometimes guilty of ghosting people myself in very busy or difficult times of my life, so I know what that feels like. That's why I don't want to judge him immediately and accuse him of beeing not "worthy" enough for me just because he doesn't write me back a couple of days.

@LaLueur

"You both are just dating,not married so... "

...yeah, true. That's also why I'm not sure how he would react. I don't want to give him the feeling of beeing caged in.

But on the other hand, I just really have the urge to be direct and blunt about how I feel, and to just clear the air.

But again I'm afraid of creating a drama where there is none.

I still don't know what to do 😄...

Stop fooling yourself and make excuses for the man who doesn’t want you enough.

And IF you ever ghosted people - you know you didn’t want them don’t you? So…stop this shit!

Posted by LaLueur

Posted by _Amygdala_

Thanks very much for the replies everyone 😉

@alexscaries

We had sex on the third date, the first and second was without sex but loaded with chemistry.

@Lavemder-Haze

@GemiMay

"be direct or be with someone that actually wants you."

"If he wanted you - he would be there for you."

... Well, that's the thing, I know that there could be the possibility that he just has a stressfull time with his own life and that it maybe doesn't have anything to do with me personally. I'm sometimes guilty of ghosting people myself in very busy or difficult times of my life, so I know what that feels like. That's why I don't want to judge him immediately and accuse him of beeing not "worthy" enough for me just because he doesn't write me back a couple of days.

@LaLueur

"You both are just dating,not married so... "

...yeah, true. That's also why I'm not sure how he would react. I don't want to give him the feeling of beeing caged in.

But on the other hand, I just really have the urge to be direct and blunt about how I feel, and to just clear the air.

But again I'm afraid of creating a drama where there is none.

I still don't know what to do 😄...

Who cares if he's feeling caged in after getting your goodies and not responding for day's smh

Just speak what you have to say,you have the urge anyway...if he feels that is too much to handle you're both not compatible. Don't focus on chemistry. Life gets so sweet when we focus on compatibility

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preach 👏👏

people chasing momentary sparks over real life connotations.

Posted by alexscaries

@_Amygdala_

One sentence "I had a great time on our last date, let's meet up again".

Sending paragraphs about feelings scares men away.

OR some men will ACTUALLY CALL YOU because they don’t want to type shit…😂

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Posted by Lavender-Haze

Wait he’s 37? Forget astrological placements. You need to run.

Nothing wrong with that, sounds like neither are looking for anything serious.

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Seems like she IS looking for the 4th date and he isn’t getting The Vibe.

Why TF people are sooooo dence?

"We're currently "only" dating, neither of us want's to be in an exclusive relationship".

Is that what you want? It doesn't seem so from your thread. If this is something he said to you, it translates that he wants to fuck around, not stick around.

Let him be and find someone who wants to be exclusive with you from the first time you dropped your pants for him.

A 37 year old man knows what he wants at that age I would hope. So believe him when he says he doesn't want a serious relationship with you. So its not your responsibility to monitor his emotions and demand of his time. Kinda defeats the purpose of him keeping you at arms length if you keep badgering him for a hug.

Let the guy have his space.

When he next wants to fuck you'll be the first to know. And if you want to fuck, hit him up. Otherwise leave the emotional chat for his gf or wife, that's not what he signed up for. Remember, you agreed to this. So reel it back a bit.