Scorpio Woman/Aries Man...who has disappeared :(

I need some advice...with no judgements please! I'm a scorpio and have been seeing an Aries man since April. Met him last fall on my bday and really liked him, but he had a gf and I was really disappointed. He got in touch with me again for his birthday in April and we started talking. Still with the gf, very unhappy. They met at 19 and got pregnant 3mos later and have been together ever since, never married. He sleeps on the couch and they basically co-exist in the same house. We talked a lot about it since I was in a similar marriage and am now divorced. I tried to stay away from him (not very hard mind you) as I really liked him and I knew things would go father than talking. Well 4mos later...we're in a full-blown affair. He says he loves me and that he wants to spend his life with me. We spent a whole week together when his gf went away and we talked for hrs about our future and stuff. Well, when she got home,she came out and asked him what was wrong and he said he was moving out. That was Aug. 10th. He spent most of the weekend with me and then was going to tell his parents and their kids on Sunday. I was heatbroken for him as I had to do the same thing 6yrs ago and it was horrible but let him know that I would be there if he needed me. He txted me Monday to say he was still alive and that he loved me and it's good I will talk with you tomorrow. Tuesday He just answered my txt of "I miss you" with "Me too". By Wednesday I was going crazy. I had no idea what had happened with his family so I asked him to please talk to me and that I was trying to be strong but it was so hard no knowing what was happening. He said "I am sorry. I am trying to get my life together. I love you too." I told him that I was part of his life too and that he couldn't just shut me out and I was going crazy being in the dark. He replied "Right now I feel I have to do this on my own. Please bear with me" I kind of freaked out and asked for how long. He just said "Right now is not the time. I am working". That is the last thing he said to me on Wed. I did apologize later that night and said I understood how hard it was since I went through it and that I loved him very much and missed him and to not forget about me. I haven't heard from his since and I txtd him tonight but he didn't answer...do you think he's gone for good and just really needs a lot of time to figure things out. I truly beleive him when he looks me in the eye and says he loves me...

I think he just needs a bit of space to sort himself out. He hasn't disappeared, he's just working on stuff. I personally wouldn't consider someone had disappeared until they hadn't contacted me for a month!! Give him a week at least. I'm pretty sure he's be in touch.

I'm pretty sure he'll be in touch.

Jeez I need to put on my glasses before I type these posts.

You truly believe him when he tells you he loves you, but you are being so needy and insecure? I think I know why, but I will keep it to myself because you said you didn't want any judgements.

Yes you have been through this before. As a woman. Not as a man. He's going to see it, and handle it completely differently. Men don't have the same needs as women do. Settle yourself down, because right now you're sending out vibes and communication that are going to come across as the only person you are worried about is yourself, he's going to start to wonder why he jumped from pot A of sludge water, to pot B of developing sludge water...

^^^^^^^ + LOTS

my aries ex husband had an affair with another aries. i discovered it. he totally denied it. said the woman was stalking him. we were leaving the country anyway and so i let it slide cos i knew it would be over. i knew it would be over as soon as i found out about it.

we had been together 20 years and have 2 children together. i put the affair out of my mind for quite a few years and so did he, i thought. it was only when i finally ended the marriage and after 18 months of him wanting to get back together that he finally gave up and went back to her. they are now very happy together and i have to say, i'm happy for them both cos i believe they are soul mates.

but the gist is that he would never have left me for her all the time i wanted him around. his loyalty to me and the kids was greater than his feelings for her. he was not a natural cheat and i've accepted responsibility for my part in getting them together in the first place.

ironically, when i met the aries, we were both in relationships with others. i left the cancerian i was with but he had problems leaving his aqua fiancee and it took two years of back and forth before we were together. we were both very young then and so at least there weren't kids involved and i would never get involved with someone who is attached again.

doesn't really matter cos karma gets you in the end and it's interesting that our relationship ended in pretty much the same way it started...with infidelity.