Soulmate Connection

I read somewhere that your Soul Mate is found in the South Node and Soft Aspects to Saturn? Can't quite figure this part out yet, but also indicated the following three aspects:

Sexual Attraction: VENUS/MARS
Intellectual Attraction: MERCURY/SUN
Emotional Attraction: MOON/MARS

I'm still an amateur and still learning, but is this true—

My sister passed on all her books to me and reading the other day on compatibility. The reading became overwhelming and couldn't quite understand; so I Googled and STILL didn't quite get it.

I only grasped the obvious Sexual/Intellectual/Emotional Attraction. We connected on 2 of the 3 Sexual-Venus/Mars = Leo and Intellectual-Merc/Sun = Virgo. The Emotional-Moon/Mars = Sag/Sag & Taur/Leo.

Since being intrigued with it all, I try not to let the astrology consume me. It does interest me tho when you meet someone new, but not pre-judge them on the Astrology Ideology.

Posted by Starfish225
"Sexual Attraction: VENUS/MARS
Intellectual Attraction: MERCURY/SUN
Emotional Attraction: MOON/MARS"


Those are all good indications, and just a few of many factors that could mean two ppl are soulmates..But the one thing that may tie the bind is Saturn. Saturn is a icky planet most ppl think. But its like glue for two ppl if they have this in thier relationship along with the other things that was posted. Soul mates are not just about being romantic lovey dovey and reading each other thoughts..Soulmates bring lessons, Sauturn is about lessons see where I am going with this.
SATURN is the real glue..

i dont understand how this works......is it your venus their mars....and so on and so forth......if they "match" —??

ok. so if saturns are the same planet?? what else is there to look at to be sure?

this is fun chart to play with...

http://cafeastrology.com/articles/signcompatiblitygrid.html

After taking a look at this topic, I did some looking around on the net. So in regards to the whole yin/yang connections (venus/mars, etc etc) We'd have to take a look at both for a better understanding. But for individuals like lets say you're a woman, you'd look at your mars for your mate. And for the guys, you'd look at your venus. But what happens with the reverse (male mars and female venus) I wouldn't know I would suppose it would mean the same thing.

Anyone able to shed some light? I find this very very interesting especially since for one side on one of my comparisons its a very big match while the other it's opposite signs and I'd like to know what it really means.

I am cancer en ex was cap

I am new here and looked up our sign. We have somethings incommen but i don't know if it means anything or wonder if they are important.

jupiter ---> both gem
Saturn ---> both pis
Uranus ---> both vir
neptune ---> both scorp
pluto ---> both virgo
True note --> both gem
Chiron --> both pis

Anyone who knows if it means anything?

I don't get this either.

When it comes to the venus/mars thing, my experiances tell me to trust the theory that says that women embody their venus sign, and men their mars sign. I have never been attracted to guys of either my venus or mars sign.

Regarding this soft aspect in saturn thing: my mate has a soft aspect to his mars and I have one to my neptune, but both his mars and my neptune are in scorpio. Is that a match? I mean, different planets, but same sign.

Posted by Lindaaaatje
I am cancer en ex was cap

I am new here and looked up our sign. We have somethings incommen but i don't know if it means anything or wonder if they are important.

jupiter ---> both gem
Saturn ---> both pis
Uranus ---> both vir
neptune ---> both scorp
pluto ---> both virgo
True note --> both gem
Chiron --> both pis

Anyone who knows if it means anything?

It means he's still your ex 😉

Posted by Lindaaaatje
I am cancer en ex was cap

I am new here and looked up our sign. We have somethings incommen but i don't know if it means anything or wonder if they are important.

jupiter ---> both gem
Saturn ---> both pis
Uranus ---> both vir
neptune ---> both scorp
pluto ---> both virgo
True note --> both gem
Chiron --> both pis

Anyone who knows if it means anything?

Those are Generational planets, except for Jupiter-- and

Jupiter will still stay in one sign for approx a year.

So you both were probably born around the same time.


You'll want to look at the personal planets...

Sun

Moon

Merc

Venus

Mars

... and their aspects to each other and the Generational

planets, first.

Posted by HappyCapper
I don't get this either.

When it comes to the venus/mars thing, my experiances tell me to trust the theory that says that women embody their venus sign, and men their mars sign. I have never been attracted to guys of either my venus or mars sign.

Regarding this soft aspect in saturn thing: my mate has a soft aspect to his mars and I have one to my neptune, but both his mars and my neptune are in scorpio. Is that a match? I mean, different planets, but same sign.

Thx Happycapper.

My venus is leo and his mars aqua. Dont know what that means...

AriesLady8, Thx for your responds, mine is 07/07/1965 and his 13/01/1966

I know AgentP911.....you're right....

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by Lindaaaatje
I am cancer en ex was cap

I am new here and looked up our sign. We have somethings incommen but i don't know if it means anything or wonder if they are important.

jupiter ---> both gem
Saturn ---> both pis
Uranus ---> both vir
neptune ---> both scorp
pluto ---> both virgo
True note --> both gem
Chiron --> both pis

Anyone who knows if it means anything?

Those are Generational planets, except for Jupiter-- and

Jupiter will still stay in one sign for approx a year.

So you both were probably born around the same time.


You'll want to look at the personal planets...

Sun

Moon

Merc

Venus

Mars

... and their aspects to each other and the Generational

planets, first.

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Thx Montgomery, i will look in to it.

Posted by Lindaaaatje

Posted by HappyCapper
I don't get this either.

When it comes to the venus/mars thing, my experiances tell me to trust the theory that says that women embody their venus sign, and men their mars sign. I have never been attracted to guys of either my venus or mars sign.

Regarding this soft aspect in saturn thing: my mate has a soft aspect to his mars and I have one to my neptune, but both his mars and my neptune are in scorpio. Is that a match? I mean, different planets, but same sign.

Thx Happycapper.

My venus is leo and his mars aqua. Dont know what that means...

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Think I should make myself very clear when it comes to this: I am a toootal astrology noob! What I wrote is only due to my own limited experiances and is not to be considered as "the truth." I think you got that, but I just wanted to make sure; I don't want to sit here and lead you astray. 🙂

I am myself trying to get some form of understanding of this. It's not easy. Astrology is a massssive subject, it seems. 🙂

I still don't get it. I have been in one (O-N-E) relationship where we were astrologically compatible(his moon, my sun) but it didn't work because I just didn't feel it. I have been in terribly astrologically mismatched partnerships and I have been really happy in those relationships for years. In fact, the love of my life is a huge astrological nono. The only good thing astrologically with our pairing is pretty much that we both have water moons and plutonian energy, and my plutonian energy I get from aspects and placements which are not personal planets. I do believe astrology can say a lot about a person's personality, but I think compatibility readings...well, let's just say I'm hugely disapointed and I'm wondering what the h**l I'm doing wrong. Sorry, I'm frustrated. Trying to figure out my next step on order to get this.

It can get quite complicated especially when you look at how you will both deal with various things in your life and relationship. You need to look at degrees and also aspects. Disclaimer: I am a complete noob at this too but have been learning bits and pieces here and there.

You might want to look at this http://www.new-astrology.com/index.php?page=comp2f<BR>
which also gives an overall compatibility value to any relationship.

Posted by jeane
It can get quite complicated especially when you look at how you will both deal with various things in your life and relationship. You need to look at degrees and also aspects. Disclaimer: I am a complete noob at this too but have been learning bits and pieces here and there.

You might want to look at this http://www.new-astrology.com/index.php?page=comp2f<BR>
which also gives an overall compatibility value to any relationship.

Question: I do like the layout and it's easily understood, so it could be a good way to learn how it works, but without birthtime or birthplace how can this be accurate?

Posted by HappyCapper

Posted by jeane
It can get quite complicated especially when you look at how you will both deal with various things in your life and relationship. You need to look at degrees and also aspects. Disclaimer: I am a complete noob at this too but have been learning bits and pieces here and there.

You might want to look at this http://www.new-astrology.com/index.php?page=comp2f<BR>
which also gives an overall compatibility value to any relationship.

Question: I do like the layout and it's easily understood, so it could be a good way to learn how it works, but without birthtime or birthplace how can this be accurate?

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don't know. certainly your guess is as good as mine. perhaps the ascendant is not being taken into consideration?

edit - actually here is what is says on the site

"This function uses only the dates of birth and ignores the place and time, so does not calculate the ascendants for the two charts. To obtain a more detailled comparison, start by creating both charts, then use the Match button."

actually there was another site that gave quite a detailed amount of information regarding the variables. will try to find it.

here is a good synastry chart.

http://astromatrix.org/Astrology/SynastryChart

Posted by LeoGal4Real
... South Node and Soft Aspects to Saturn? Can't quite figure this part out yet, but also indicated the following three aspects:

Sexual Attraction: VENUS/MARS
Intellectual Attraction: MERCURY/SUN
Emotional Attraction: MOON/MARS
...

Posted by ctom01
... yin/yang connections (venus/mars, etc etc) ... for the guys, you'd look at your venus. ...

Posted by HappyCapper
... In fact, the love of my life is a huge astrological nono. The only good thing astrologically with our pairing is pretty much that we both have water moons and plutonian energy, ...

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I'm one flakey Sagittarius and the only man who stayed in my life longer than 2 years, namely 16 years so far, has these aspects with my chart:

- my Jupiter conjuncts his North Node.

- his Mercury trines my Saturn
- his Saturn trines my Mars

- his Venus conjuncts my Mars.
- his Venus conjuncts my Ascendant

- his Mercury trines my Sun.

- his Eros conjuncts my Psyche

- his Uranus sextiles my Sun

I came to multi-placements Astrology eight years after we stared being involved. So we cannot talk about self-fulfilling prophecy.

In fact we are not a Family/couple cause our compatibility is a 50-50 story. We have lots of destructive aspects. Even in the Chinese horoscope.

Sorry, I should have read more closely before posting!

The second link I can't use for some reason. Maybe it's because I'm using my old computer with an old browser atm. Think I'm gonna use the old link to learn how it works until my new comp is ready to go.

This has been really helpful even without the latter link, so thank you. 🙂

Oh and my moon actually also get affected due to birth time(I actually thought I was another moon until I got my real time of birth from the hospital) so don't count on it to give you correct information. I like astro.com for that, personally.

We have for example two negative aspects as a double whammy between our charts.

1) Moon square Pluto
2) Venus square Pluto
Latter from zodioscope:
"The man/woman can understand the woman/man's feelings and her/his desires, unconsciously struggling to manipulate her/him. Love feelings are expressed passionately, yet in a cruel way. The deeper essence of his/her personality finds it difficult to identify with the woman/man's idea of love or her/his aesthetic feeling. The wish to taste the forbidden fruit is hampered by the woman/man's opposition which may provoke the man/woman to act in an insincere way."

And from Astrologyweekly:
"When Venus and Pluto connect like that, you are likely to experience intensely deep passions in this relationship. There could be swings from love to hate and back again. Each of you may try to control the other person's love and the way they express it. There will be possessiveness and trying to exclude any other people from the relationship. There may be "game playing" where you manipulate each other by what you reveal or don't reveal about yourself. There will be efforts to change the other person into what you think they should be.

Pluto will dredge up primal feelings from deep within, stuff from old relationships and from childhood even, that actually has nothing to do with this relationship...."

From Cafeastrology:
A very strong passion but destructive, to be avoided if at all possible.

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by LeoGal4Real
... South Node and Soft Aspects to Saturn? Can't quite figure this part out yet, but also indicated the following three aspects:

Sexual Attraction: VENUS/MARS
Intellectual Attraction: MERCURY/SUN
Emotional Attraction: MOON/MARS
...

Posted by ctom01
... yin/yang connections (venus/mars, etc etc) ... for the guys, you'd look at your venus. ...

Posted by HappyCapper
... In fact, the love of my life is a huge astrological nono. The only good thing astrologically with our pairing is pretty much that we both have water moons and plutonian energy, ...

I'm one flakey Sagittarius and the only man who stayed in my life longer than 2 years, namely 16 years so far, has these aspects with my chart:

- my Jupiter conjuncts his North Node.

- his Mercury trines my Saturn
- his Saturn trines my Mars

- his Venus conjuncts my Mars.
- his Venus conjuncts my Ascendant

- his Mercury trines my Sun.

- his Eros conjuncts my Psyche

- his Uranus sextiles my Sun

I came to multi-placements Astrology eight years after we stared being involved. So we cannot talk about self-fulfilling prophecy.

In fact we are not a Family/couple cause our compatibility is a 50-50 story. We have lots of destructive aspects. Even in the Chinese horoscope.

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Oh crap. Now we don't even have our water moons anymore, since I got my correct time of birth. But we may have gained other things. Hmm, I'll check.

So these aspects you mention are things to look for. Thanks, this is good stuff. 🙂 Where did you find this info? Maybe there's more...🙂

...and congrats to this great man! 🙂

"...and congrats to this great man!" + "Now we don't even have our water moons anymore"

We have both Moon in Pisces and Venus in Sagittarius. Adding to the list above.


"Where did you find this info?"
I have collected them from different sites. For example discussions on Lindaland. Indeed they have overlapping elements. If you look, the first aspects were already mentioned by OP. This is why I quoted OP and ctom01.

In summary AC, NN, Saturn, Venus, Moon, Mercury, Jupiter and Uranus (the order gives the importance) should be well aspected.

In a book about Lilith I read Lilith conj. SN/Sun/AC is also a strong factor. Yet Lilith/Sun is kind of paining codependency, often seen with Lilith of women. She often tries to leave and cannot complete it.

Somebody reminded me of the point that only conjunctions and oppositions matter in this discussion.
But I don't know what the orb must be.

For the general synastry (no focus on soulmate) they say:

"Orbs used for compatibility charts
??_Conjunction: 10
??_Opposition: 8
??_Trine: 6
??_Square: 6
??_Sextile: 4.5
??_Quincunx: 2
??_Semi-sextile: 1
??_Semi-square: 1
??_Sesqui-square: 1.5
??_Quintile: 1
??_Bi-quintile: 1"

From http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology_aspects.php.

"If you look, the first aspects were already mentioned by OP. This is why I quoted OP and ctom01."
Yes, I saw them, but the others were new to me. About the mars and venus aspects I'm a bit torn, since there seem to be different opinions on how to read this and I don't really get the soft aspects to saturn, but I'm working on it.

Thanks a lot - this is a lot of info! See you in a year or two. 😉

" soft aspects to Saturn"

I think it says if A can get along with B's sense of discipline and structure. Or not. ok, soft means A can. I mean I think soft means sextile, conj and trine. but IDK.

Posted by DwellingOnMove
" soft aspects to Saturn"

I think it says if A can get along with B's sense of discipline and structure. Or not. ok, soft means A can. I mean I think soft means sextile, conj and trine. but IDK.

I agree in soft aspects meaning conj, trine. I didn't know it included sextile, but now I do. About the meaning of it: wouldn't for instance a square to saturn make a dubble negation, so to speak, and make a soft aspect in comparison to the other planets? Hmm. Do you understand what I'm trying to say here? It's difficult to ecplain.