Ugh I hate dating

My friend sign me in this dating site and the first guy I met was a lovely virgo guy, I was soooo into him, we went for coffee, texted me afterwards... Perfect. Then he went cold because of "work issues" so I went double cold and was left at that.
Went back to the site and met a capricorn guy who came at me super strong, went for luch, drunk waaay too much wine and end up fooling around but no sex, he left telling me he would text me when he arrived home and disappeared afterwards. I texted him after a couple of days saying it wasn't cool to disappear like that, he read it, ignore me so I left it as a stupid mistake and forgot about him.
Started talking to this cancer guy but I kind of friendzoned him but it was soo easy to talk to him that I kept getting to know him.
Talked to one of my friends about all of these and he said I should give the virgo another chance so I texted him how was him and he replied super strong and invited me to this super romantic dinner, however I was going on holidays for two weeks out of the country (which I'm still on). He agreed to keep in touch and he even texted me for valentines day which was on my holidays.
Back a little just when I was about to leave the country capricorn appeared out of the blue and drunk texted me demanding where I was which I replied "go to sleep" next day sober he apologized and admited he had been thinking a lot about me but when I asked for his disappearaning act he ignored me again. Two days later he drunk called me again and I told him off and ignored his calls, next day he apologized again which I read but didn't reply.
I really like the virgo but I feel he is not into me as I'm into him and the cancer guy is slowly growing on me but I don't trust him for some red flags ( he told me he was arrested 5 times from 17 to 21, he is 36 now).
My head is a mess, I need help!

What is your end goal a serious relationship?

I don't know why you're writing things off with the Virgo. He's in touch with you again and coming on strong. Feel that one out a bit more maybe.

What the Cancer did in his 20s is almost ancient history at 36. But if you're not down, don't worry about it. You aren't obligated to him (or any of these guys for that matter).

Drop the Cap. Those guys are fucking pieces of work when you come across the type like him. He's hitting you up when he's drunk because he thinks he can fuck you at some point (fooling around is the step before fucking, so he's like fuck yeah I'll keep hitting up this chick and eventually will get some from her). Not even a viable option anymore.

Overall, based on your blah vibe from the Virgo, not attracted to the Cancer, and the freak Cap dude, none of the above sound worth pursuing. You're fixated on them because of the here and now. You were doing fine prior to dating you'll still do fine if you choose not to bother with any of these. I don't know why some women feel like they have to decide on the options that are RIGHT THERE RIGHT NOW as if their life depends on it.

No need to impulse buy atm, you know? If none tickle your fancy, move along. You'll find other dudes.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I don't know why you're writing things off with the Virgo. He's in touch with you again and coming on strong. Feel that one out a bit more maybe.

What the Cancer did in his 20s is almost ancient history at 36. But if you're not down, don't worry about it. You aren't obligated to him (or any of these guys for that matter).

Drop the Cap. Those guys are fucking pieces of work when you come across the type like him. He's hitting you up when he's drunk because he thinks he can fuck you at some point (fooling around is the step before fucking, so he's like fuck yeah I'll keep hitting up this chick and eventually will get some from her). Not even a viable option anymore.

Overall, based on your blah vibe from the Virgo, not attracted to the Cancer, and the freak Cap dude, none of the above sound worth pursuing. You're fixated on them because of the here and now. You were doing fine prior to dating you'll still do fine if you choose not to bother with any of these. I don't know why some women feel like they have to decide on the options that are RIGHT THERE RIGHT NOW as if their life depends on it.

No need to impulse buy atm, you know? If none tickle your fancy, move along. You'll find other dudes.

I agree - don't settle. There's plenty of other guys and none of these sound like they're worth pursuing. Move on and date others.

@xtina no expectations no disappointments, I take it slow and see where it goes, I did fwb in my early 20s once and not a fan, so that is definitely out of the question

@taureye while the cancer is almost out of the friendzone (he really grew on me) I haven't met him yet so my guard is still up, we did made plans for mini golf once I'm back, so I will wait to meet him and see afterwards where he (and I) stand

@PV&Jellay got it, I really liked your straight to the point advice, I appreciate it.

@rockyroadicecream I'm a big fan of you! You are one of my favorite dxp posters so believe me when you talk I listen. The cap is out, for me silence is the biggest punishment, I rather you scream at my face than say nothing. So that I didn't even bother to acknowledge his second apology is huge. I liked what you said that I didn't have to impulse buy anything atm, I just have this feeling that if I keep my options open (the cancer + the virgo + other guys) somebody is going to get hurt in the long run and that could be avoided if I make a decision now, but maybe that is just my anxiety talking, so I will follow your advice instead and see where it leads me.
Thanks everyone else who commented, all is read and evaluated 🙂

Update (if anybody cares):

When I came back from the holidays (last Friday) I texted the Virgo that I landed back safe (he send me a text before my flight wishing me a good flight). That same day he went out with his friends got absolutely wasted and started drunk texting me that he was sorry that he couldn't see me because he was with his friend from out of country and missed me and was thinking of me a lot... at that point his friend got his phone and called me (both of this guys are 30 btw). I get that he is going through a big change in his work but this seem like a childish way to deal with things. However I played it cool like "everything's okay, I understand, don't worry, have fun with your friends". Next day nothing, and now is been almost a week from silence.

Next day, Saturday, went out with the cancer and while we got along well he shared his views of life and himself that really freaked me out such as he considers himself a corrupt man, and if the reward is high and there is a chance of get away with it he would do almost anything and so on. I talked to him afterwards on the phone and explain my reasons not to see him again (he had asked me out for next Saturday) and he didn't took it well. Anyway I made my choice and I'm sticking to it.

I think I'll take a little break from dating to regroup and start again new with somebody else, thanks again everybody!