Where is the conflict coming from?

My chart:

Sun Capricorn 9.09 .|. Ascendant Scorpio 13.04
Moon Scorpio 18.05 .|. II Sagittarius 12.29
Mercury Sagittarius 17.17 .|. III Capricorn 16.22
Venus Scorpio 29.39 .|. IV Aquarius 22.13
Mars Sagittarius 23.19 .|. V Pisces 24.44
Jupiter Virgo 14.38 R .|. VI Aries 21.26
Saturn Aquarius 5.47 .|. VII Taurus 13.04
Uranus Capricorn 13.39 .|. VIII Gemini 12.29
Neptune Capricorn 16.12 .|. IX Cancer 16.22
Pluto Scorpio 22.06 .|. Midheaven Leo 22.13
Lilith Capricorn 27.42 .|. XI Virgo 24.44
Asc node Capricorn 9.48 .|. XII Libra 21.26

His chart:

Sun Scorpio 19.24 .|. Ascendant Cancer 21.24
Moon Virgo 19.42 .|. II Leo 10.24
Mercury Sagittarius 1.37 .|. III Virgo 2.54
Venus Scorpio 22.02 .|. IV Libra 1.46
Mars Gemini 11.01 R .|. V Scorpio 8.30
Jupiter Leo 13.04 .|. VI Sagittarius 17.46
Saturn Capricorn 20.41 .|. VII Capricorn 21.24
Uranus Capricorn 6.59 .|. VIII Aquarius 10.24
Neptune Capricorn 12.28 IX Pisces 2.54
Pluto Scorpio 17.48 .|. Midheaven Aries 1.46
Lilith Sagittarius 11.33 .|. XI Taurus 8.30
Asc node Aquarius 0.50 .|. XII Gemini 17.46

Everything tells me we are meant to harmonious - and we are. For about an hour. Then it all comes rushing back in. We used to be dynamic, but there is the constant feeling like I am being held back, and I have a horrible fear that I may end up hurting him with the bitterness that is stirring. I want adventure, an educational and fulfilling life style . He wants the pleasure of staying indoors, never wants (him or I) to leave the comfort of house and home. Chides my desire to be outgoing and pursue more in life. This is above many other issues, but it's the issue that stands out the most. Is there something in the charts that I'm missing?

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Drag him out of the house, problem solved!

Cue the incessant whining, most commonly:
"Why can't we hang out at home?", "That costs money.", "Can we leave now?", "I'm not in the mood for this.", "I'm too tired."

When I scheduled a vacation at a state park campground, it was "Why can't we just set a tent up in the backyard?" I originally wanted to camp beachside on the east coast. But I got tired of the complaining. I pay for the majority of these things with rarely a donation from him, btw. And still hear complaints. That's when it really gets under my skin. It's been three and a half years. I expected it to get better, that he'd gradually come out of this shell. But it steadily gets worse.

Thees?

Aries guy is there, we hung out for coffee, but I think we're better off as friends. Which is okay on his end too. I need to solve my own issues, and he is very busy with his life. I don't feel comfortable jumping relationships, especially not so quickly. Can't leave things halfway, it's not fair for anyone. We'll see what happens. I'm just happy he's not upset that I had disappeared for so long, it wasn't intentional.

It's rough because Scorp says he can try better to keep me, but I also think he needs to develop more as an individual, without me. And I'm a bitch enough as it is, I don't want to make him any more a cranky old man than he already is. We're teetering here.

Sugar - how the hell did I miss that? That might be an instigator, if so. Where he'd like to stay home and work on puzzles, mathematics, minecraft... etc. I always want to get out and do whatever there is to be done outside. All things which he isn't too interested in. Though I assumed it influenced my state of anger more, but those things are outlets too. The more I get out of the house, the calmer I am.

elle - I got your pm, I'll try and process a composite soon as I come back.

Oh also Sugar - I'm actually pretty relaxed most the time. And I'm pretty focused. At work I need constant challenge and something to do, but when I get home it's only on certain days that I really feel the need to keep moving. Full Moon days are the days I'm most pumped.