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1. Do you notice the energy when someone comes into

a get together who does not want to be there or maybe even

this person does not like any of the people there?

2. Do you assume that this person is evil or is the bad guy/girl

just because some may feel uneasy and upset that this person is not

having a good time (acting accordingly)?

3. How would you feel if he/she was handpicked to answer a question

in the spot light but instead of answering just smiles and says nothing

and is comfortable about the awkward silence 😂

Thanks God I don’t even know what you talking about...

Is this really happening? Where?

Posted by Gemitati

Thanks God I don’t even know what you talking about...

Is this really happening? Where?

that's one F for the class.

jk... I love youuuu 😄



now answer -_-

1 Yes and sometimes it sucks to pick up those negative vibes but I use it as a radar to stay away.

2 Not so much a bad or evil person but I stay away from negative energy/vibes as much as possible and think it's fucked up that some do whatever they can to ruin an event for others.

3 I assume they are being like that for attention and ignore them.

Posted by nanobot

1. Yes

2. No

3. I wouldn't care and would probably just ignore their presence all together. I would not understand why a person would begrudgingly choose to go to an optional social event where they did not want to be there nor like any of the people there

thank you

Have you gone to an event because you were kind of obligated to attend

and if so, did you notice of feel people not being fond of you?

Sorry it's kind of a negative question/thread

Posted by stope

1. Yes.

2. Most idiots go there. They get offended because 'pack mentality'.

3. Not sure.

thank you



Is it easier for you to not be affected/influenced by that? pack mentality?

why does it seem that most fall into the influence of that instead of going

with the flow of their own stance? energy? awareness? etc

Posted by justagirl

1 Yes and sometimes it sucks to pick up those negative vibes but I use it as a radar to stay away.

2 Not so much a bad or evil person but I stay away from negative energy/vibes as much as possible and think it's fucked up that some do whatever they can to ruin an event for others.

3 I assume they are being like that for attention and ignore them.

thank you

Do you know anyone who is maybe a friend who is uncomfortable with social events?

And if so, would you be okay with going to them and helping them feel comfortable?

Posted by Gemitati

Thanks God I don’t even know what you talking about...

Is this really happening? Where?

It's just in general.

thanks for responding anyway though. And hope you had a good birthday

I think I'm that person : /

But I just fake it and pretend I'm having fun so I don't ruin it for anyone else while I'm low-key watching the clock for the thing to be over.

Posted by Aju

Posted by justagirl

1 Yes and sometimes it sucks to pick up those negative vibes but I use it as a radar to stay away.

2 Not so much a bad or evil person but I stay away from negative energy/vibes as much as possible and think it's fucked up that some do whatever they can to ruin an event for others.

3 I assume they are being like that for attention and ignore them.

thank you

Do you know anyone who is maybe a friend who is uncomfortable with social events?

And if so, would you be okay with going to them and helping them feel comfortable?

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Can I count myself? lol I am not a fan of large events, so I tend to stick to small groups.

But ya I could do that for a friend, I think because of dealing with anxiety myself, and it would also help me.

Posted by MissScruffs

I think I'm that person : /

But I just fake it and pretend I'm having fun so I don't ruin it for anyone else while I'm low-key watching the clock for the thing to be over.

thank you



I've done this too.

But this last time, I just couldn't hide it.

Have you done this before? And did you notice

the mood or energy of the room shift around you?

🤗 sorry you dealt with this! I'm sure it's fine, I think you are also an introvert? We struggle in social settings.

I feel when it's Unintentionally done it's way different than someone that just has a negative vibe or does crappy attitude to kill a vibe, you can see/tell the difference.

Posted by justagirl

Posted by Aju

Posted by justagirl

1 Yes and sometimes it sucks to pick up those negative vibes but I use it as a radar to stay away.

2 Not so much a bad or evil person but I stay away from negative energy/vibes as much as possible and think it's fucked up that some do whatever they can to ruin an event for others.

3 I assume they are being like that for attention and ignore them.

thank you

Do you know anyone who is maybe a friend who is uncomfortable with social events?

And if so, would you be okay with going to them and helping them feel comfortable?

Can I count myself? lol I am not a fan of large events, so I tend to stick to small groups.

But ya I could do that for a friend, I think because of dealing with anxiety myself, and it would also help me.

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You can that's okay.

Would feel it to be fair if people saw you as $ ucked up for ruining an event

even though you might be obligated to be there and just uncomfortable?

Posted by Aju

Posted by MissScruffs

I think I'm that person : /

But I just fake it and pretend I'm having fun so I don't ruin it for anyone else while I'm low-key watching the clock for the thing to be over.

thank you



I've done this too.

But this last time, I just couldn't hide it.

Have you done this before? And did you notice

the mood or energy of the room shift around you?

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No, sadly I'm not that brave to take a stand. lol I always just grin and bear it.

Posted by elllle

Posted by Aju

1. Do you notice the energy when someone comes into a get together who does not want to be there or maybe eventhis person does not like any of the people there?

Yes

2. Do you assume that this person is evil or is the bad guy/girl just because some may feel uneasy and upset that this person is not having a good time (acting accordingly)?

Yes

3. How would you feel if he/she was handpicked to answer a question in the spot light but instead of answering just smiles and says nothing and is comfortable about the awkward silence.

Empathetic.

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thank you



wait. wow you would be..

you would have empathy but you would see them as evil ? noo

Posted by Aju

Posted by justagirl

Posted by Aju

Posted by justagirl

1 Yes and sometimes it sucks to pick up those negative vibes but I use it as a radar to stay away.

2 Not so much a bad or evil person but I stay away from negative energy/vibes as much as possible and think it's fucked up that some do whatever they can to ruin an event for others.

3 I assume they are being like that for attention and ignore them.

thank you

Do you know anyone who is maybe a friend who is uncomfortable with social events?

And if so, would you be okay with going to them and helping them feel comfortable?

Can I count myself? lol I am not a fan of large events, so I tend to stick to small groups.

But ya I could do that for a friend, I think because of dealing with anxiety myself, and it would also help me.

You can that's okay.

Would feel it to be fair if people saw you as $ ucked up for ruining an event

even though you might be obligated to be there and just uncomfortable?

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Well yes and no.

I wrote that with a specific person in mind who goes out of her way to let everyone around know she's upset over something. She basically throws tantrums and its intentional. We all walk on eggshells around her because we don't know what to expect.

If it was someone that is just awkward and uncomfortable, there is a difference and I'd say no it's not fair to be upset with them.

Posted by MissScruffs

Posted by Aju

Posted by MissScruffs

I think I'm that person : /

But I just fake it and pretend I'm having fun so I don't ruin it for anyone else while I'm low-key watching the clock for the thing to be over.

thank you



I've done this too.

But this last time, I just couldn't hide it.

Have you done this before? And did you notice

the mood or energy of the room shift around you?

No, sadly I'm not that brave to take a stand. lol I always just grin and bear it.

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thank you



I should probably just always do this.

It's unnatural for me to make chaos but its like...

because of the latest stress...I just, it has been hard to keep that wall up....

To continue to hide when things are okay when they are not.

Posted by Aju

Posted by Gemitati

Thanks God I don’t even know what you talking about...

Is this really happening? Where?

It's just in general.

thanks for responding anyway though. And hope you had a good birthday

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I don’t give much fuck about BDays and all this...I’ve been with people I care about and I’ve had a blast. Then I was back and saw all this parade on Dxp and it was really heartwarming...I do appreciate you guys. For years...lol

Thanks

Posted by justagirl

Posted by Aju

Posted by justagirl

Posted by Aju

Posted by justagirl

1 Yes and sometimes it sucks to pick up those negative vibes but I use it as a radar to stay away.

2 Not so much a bad or evil person but I stay away from negative energy/vibes as much as possible and think it's fucked up that some do whatever they can to ruin an event for others.

3 I assume they are being like that for attention and ignore them.

thank you

Do you know anyone who is maybe a friend who is uncomfortable with social events?

And if so, would you be okay with going to them and helping them feel comfortable?

Can I count myself? lol I am not a fan of large events, so I tend to stick to small groups.

But ya I could do that for a friend, I think because of dealing with anxiety myself, and it would also help me.

You can that's okay.

Would feel it to be fair if people saw you as $ ucked up for ruining an event

even though you might be obligated to be there and just uncomfortable?

Well yes and no.

I wrote that with a specific person in mind who goes out of her way to let everyone around know she's upset over something. She basically throws tantrums and its intentional. We all walk on eggshells around her because we don't know what to expect.

If it was someone that is just awkward and uncomfortable, there is a difference and I'd say no it's not fair to be upset with them.

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oh okay. thank you

yeah it's really just about someone who is just uncomfortable

and just off on their own because they don't want to be there.

then they are forced to be awkward so they make things awkward

for everyone else but just not saying anything when they are called upon

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Aju

Posted by Gemitati

Thanks God I don’t even know what you talking about...

Is this really happening? Where?

It's just in general.

thanks for responding anyway though. And hope you had a good birthday

I don’t give much fuck about BDays and all this...I’ve been with people I care about and I’ve had a blast. Then I was back and saw all this parade on Dxp and it was really heartwarming...I do appreciate you guys. For years...lol

Thanks

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🙂 🙂



no problem

Posted by Aju

Posted by Gemitati

Thanks God I don’t even know what you talking about...

Is this really happening? Where?

that's one F for the class.

jk... I love youuuu 😄



now answer -_-

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I honestly can’t answer. I don’t hang out in random places with strangers walking in. I am only dealing with friends I know for years and all this is foreign to me. Always been. Since I remember myself. So...I can only read responses...and I will.

Posted by nanobot

Posted by Aju

Posted by nanobot

1. Yes

2. No

3. I wouldn't care and would probably just ignore their presence all together. I would not understand why a person would begrudgingly choose to go to an optional social event where they did not want to be there nor like any of the people there

thank you

Have you gone to an event because you were kind of obligated to attend

and if so, did you notice of feel people not being fond of you?

Sorry it's kind of a negative question/thread

Not really, I mean I'm sure I have in the past. Nowadays, if I don't feel like going to something socially I decline the invitation or cancel later on, because I would think that not attending is actually more respectful than attending and having a bad attitude about it.

If it's a work obligation, then I will show up and fake it if I have to, to maintain being on good terms with my employer.

I met up with some of my boyfriend's friend group last summer when I was in Belgium, this was not technically an obligation but something I was fine with going to or not going to. There were a few women there who were very nasty and hostile to me on site, that I had not met before. I tried to smile and introduce myself among this group of women and my hand was not shaken, and I was just eyed up and down with stank looks. The remainder of the night was a lot of passive aggression, from them pulling their boyfriends away who were talking to me, to getting up from the table when I sat down, to making comments about me in Dutch that I was told about later, etc.

I can't remember a time in my life when I was met with such hostility from strangers as I have been met with by Belgian women in all 4 times I have visited. So yes, I kind of get what you are saying on some level.

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thank you. wow

so they were responding to you in that way because of your energy

(of not really being excited to stay or go)? Or this was just them being jealous?

Were you strong after all of that or did it take some time to recover from all of that rudeness?

Posted by elllle

Posted by Aju

Posted by elllle

Posted by Aju

1. Do you notice the energy when someone comes into a get together who does not want to be there or maybe eventhis person does not like any of the people there?

Yes

2. Do you assume that this person is evil or is the bad guy/girl just because some may feel uneasy and upset that this person is not having a good time (acting accordingly)?

Yes

3. How would you feel if he/she was handpicked to answer a question in the spot light but instead of answering just smiles and says nothing and is comfortable about the awkward silence.

Empathetic.

thank you



wait. wow you would be..

you would have empathy but you would see them as evil ? noo

Sorry, I was multitasking.....#2 should be no

LOL

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oh haha



its okay.

Posted by alexscaries

Trick is to get there early. You won't be comfortable, but you won't be walking into a crowded room.

this is a good idea.

the procrastination is so strong though lol

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by Aju

Posted by alexscaries

Trick is to get there early. You won't be comfortable, but you won't be walking into a crowded room.

this is a good idea.

the procrastination is so strong though lol

It's about risk vs reward. I will put myself in uncomfortable situations if it is for family, friends or work.

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wow thank you



I agree.

1. Yes

2. No.

3. I'd assume that they were bad at handling their anxiety/enforcing their boundaries because they're at a social event that they don't enjoy

Like most things, depends on context.

I think there are variations of this. Have no problem w/it unless its like anger/judgment/rudeness that is really killing the vibe of the group. I find that to be one of the most offensive things....wish people like this would either be real enough to just leave, or have some social graces and be considerate enough to just fake it like everyone else....

Posted by Metatron

I think there are variations of this. Have no problem w/it unless its like anger/judgment/rudeness that is really killing the vibe of the group. I find that to be one of the most offensive things....wish people like this would either be real enough to just leave, or have some social graces and be considerate enough to just fake it like everyone else....

thank you

i know...

I suppose it is best to fake it..

make everyone else there miserable too..

would ruin first time impressions too

Posted by LittleStar

Yes and I usually purposely talked to them. I like pushing buttons!

thank you



uhhh lol

to push buttons ease their anxiety or frustration for being there?

Posted by LadyNeptune

Like most things, depends on context.

thank you

are you comfortable with social events?

or have you always been?

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

I would feel uncomfortable for that person and probably feel that hot blush feeling.

I'd like to be brave enough to do what Liz Lemon would do when a friend embarrasses himself.

LOL what in the world

thank you let me check this out

@Phantom_Limbo



😂😂😂 she failed....

but I would love to have a friend like that though.

lol i might start watching this show now

Posted by Arielle83

The person is shy and not evil.

They don’t like to talk or be put on the spot.

thank you

hard for some to see this for some reason

Posted by Denali

1. Do you notice the energy when someone comes into

a get together who does not want to be there or maybe even

this person does not like any of the people there?

Yes.



2. Do you assume that this person is evil or is the bad guy/girl

just because some may feel uneasy and upset that this person is not

having a good time (acting accordingly)?

No, I don’t assume they’re evil or bad. I don’t think people should be too upset either. They should be more understanding. Or maybe decide to not invite that person into group settings and focus more on one-to-one type of thing for future get togethers with that person.



3. How would you feel if he/she was handpicked to answer a question

in the spot light but instead of answering just smiles and says nothing

and is comfortable about the awkward silence 😂

I would find it amusing, but move on. Or somehow redirect focus.

thank you



"someone isn't being social ...making me uncomfortable! ...burn him now!"





How are you at social events?

Posted by Gobby

I find it EXTREMELY funny and ironic that companies go on about diversity, but almost all of them fail to even acknowledge diversity of the mind...

so true

Posted by PVAFDeux

Posted by Aju

1. Do you notice the energy when someone comes into

a get together who does not want to be there or maybe even

this person does not like any of the people there?

2. Do you assume that this person is evil or is the bad guy/girl

just because some may feel uneasy and upset that this person is not

having a good time (acting accordingly)?

3. How would you feel if he/she was handpicked to answer a question

in the spot light but instead of answering just smiles and says nothing

and is comfortable about the awkward silence 😂

1. Yup. Though sometimes this person is me.

2. Nope. I assume they are a kindred introvert spirit.

3. I'd find it hilarious and instantly want to friend them for giving no fucks about the expectation to answer.

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thank you



at that moment it always seems like you're the only one there that is an introvert...