krysrenee7
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80/20 Rule
Posted by krysrenee7
Do you agree with the 80/20 rule?
The 80/20 rule insinuates that no one will ever be perfect or 100% of what you want. They will have flaws. There will be things that you may not like about them forever. However, if they're 80% of what you want, they're worth giving a chance IF the 20% that they're lacking isn't deal breaking.
What I've noticed is that some people can be very selfish, never satisfied & have unrealistic standards. They'll be lucky enough to find an 80 or even a 90, but then start believing that the grass is greener on the other side, thus leading them to leave/betray their 80. What they don't realize is that the person they find later that they consider a 100 is really just a 20 in disguise. It's not until the lust wears off with their 20 that they wish they would've kept their 80.
There's no such thing as a 100. To believe that it's possible is to believe that someone is perfect. Impossible. Someone may be imperfectly perfect for you (which implies that they must at least be an 80 or less or more, otherwise the 'imperfect' part wouldn't fit in the same sentence). But no one is perfect.
Some of you may say, "Well why does it have to be 80/20 to be exact?" Well it doesn't. It can be 90/10, or 70/30 or whatever. The same concept applies. Since you yourself are most NOT likely to be a 100 to someone else, you should be fair in giving the same flexibility & compromise with your (potential) partner too
How many of you have ever looked back in hindsight & realized that you expecting perfection was a thorn in your love life? Or that others expecting perfection has backfired & been a thorn in their love life?
In agreement with everything you've said here..Great Relationship Analysis🙂
You've said something that I agree with.
Now, if you could transform your thinking on "double standards" ............
Now, if you could transform your thinking on "double standards" ............
Posted by CapTenn
You've said something that I agree with.
Now, if you could transform your thinking on "double standards" ............
lol sorry unfortunately, I still stand firm in my beliefs on double standards ---> They're not fair & no one likes them being hurled in their direction either. It's all fun & games when a stranger or someone you don't care about hurls a double standard at you, but ish gets real & offensive when someone you like, love or are close to, suddenly throws a double standard at you.
People support/justify them UNTIL that same double standards unfairly applies to them too. Then suddenly people are like nuuuh uh don't put me in that box!! Mmmmhmmm
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The 80/20 rule insinuates that no one will ever be perfect or 100% of what you want. They will have flaws. There will be things that you may not like about them forever. However, if they're 80% of what you want, they're worth giving a chance IF the 20% that they're lacking isn't deal breaking.
What I've noticed is that some people can be very selfish, never satisfied & have unrealistic standards. They'll be lucky enough to find an 80 or even a 90, but then start believing that the grass is greener on the other side, thus leading them to leave/betray their 80. What they don't realize is that the person they find later that they consider a 100 is really just a 20 in disguise. It's not until the lust wears off with their 20 that they wish they would've kept their 80.
There's no such thing as a 100. To believe that it's possible is to believe that someone is perfect. Impossible. Someone may be imperfectly perfect for you (which implies that they must at least be an 80 or less or more, otherwise the 'imperfect' part wouldn't fit in the same sentence). But no one is perfect.
Some of you may say, "Well why does it have to be 80/20 to be exact?" Well it doesn't. It can be 90/10, or 70/30 or whatever. The same concept applies. Since you yourself are most NOT likely to be a 100 to someone else, you should be fair in giving the same flexibility & compromise with your (potential) partner too
How many of you have ever looked back in hindsight & realized that you expecting perfection was a thorn in your love life? Or that others expecting perfection has backfired & been a thorn in their love life?