A Cougar Stole My Man

I saw a rather interesting feature in this month's issue of Cosmopolitan. Please note that I'm sharing this simply because I find it humorous and am not implying in any way that one should take relationship advice from Cosmo.

Seasoned Predator
?When I first met Jared, 28, I thought he might be The One because he was such a family guy. We spent a lot of time with his parents and even their friends. One of them, a 46-year-old permatan [permanently tan] blond named Erica, was a coworker of his mom's. She seemed a little cold, but I thought maybe she just looked that way since her Botoxed face rarely registered expression. Still, I got a weird feeling when we'd be at a party together and she'd give Jared these big, possessive hugs from behind, as if she were his mom.
?About a year into out relationship, I got laid off and had to pick up two jobs ? one waiting tables, the other bartending. When I had to miss an engagement party for a friend of Jared's family due to work, he acted all pouty. I felt so bad, so I texted him sweet messages all night from the bar but never heard back once.
?When I asked the next day why he was MIA, he got quiet and, after a minute or so, broke down in tears. He said when he saw Erica at the party, one thing led to another and they started hooking up in a bathroom. I'd never felt so humiliated in my life, and though he apologized and sent me flowers, I couldn't get over it. Apparently, the coug's mission worked. They're now dating seriously.? - Aileen, 23

Mattress Mentor
?My 30-year-old boyfriend, Dave, started a new job about six months into our relationship. He logged in a lot of hours but said he didn't mind because he really liked his boss, and older woman named Lisa.
?In January, he had to go on a business trip to Chicago, and he ended up getting stuck for an extra night because of bad weather. He mentioned on the phone that Lisa was also on the trip, but it didn't raise any red flags. She was 47 ? what could she have over me?
?The week after he got back, he confessed that he'd made a big mistake: He and Lisa had gotten drunk at the hotel bar and slept together. I was shocked but tried to get over it ? I do understand the concept of beer goggles. But then I found out he'd introduced her to his friends after the fact. One of them said, ?She has a great rack, but don't worry, it's not real.? I broke up with him the next day.? - Sarah, 27

DO NOT LET THIS TRAGEDY HAPPEN TO YOU.
Cougar Skills to Crib:
Learn from babes who've been around the block.

Don't play games. ?Guys love older women's confidence and directness,? says clinical psychologist Nancy O'Reilly, PsyD, author of Timeless Women Speak of Feeling Youthful at Any Age. ?They don't insecurely grill a man about what he was up to last night.? And cougars don't create drama, says Ilona Paris, author of Hot Cougar Sex. ?They're too busy living their own lives to get caught up in petty behavior.?

Make it clear that you don't have ulterior motives. A cougar doesn't depend on a man for a paycheck or to father her kids, according to Valerie Gibson, author of Cougar. And for that reason, she'll let a guy know she wants him just for him?and maybe his body. In a world filled with husband hunters, this is music to a man's ears.

Stay in shape. ?Older celebs like Demi Moore prove that you can look hotter as you age by working out and dressing well,? says Jeremy Mape, CEO of urbancougar.com. So while you're downing beers, remember that somewhere, a cougar is downward dogging her way to a slammin' body.

Be uninhibited in bed. ?Cougars are more willing to experiment and aren't shy about being naked,? says Paris.

- Taken from the November 2008 issue of Cosmopolitan, p. 158-160

LOL-
I am kinda laughing- but I mean no harm.

The article is probably correct.
Let me describe myself- I need no man. I am in the age of "cougar"
I am confident and fun to be around from what I hear. I can walk into a place and turn heads from 20 to 100 yr old.

It is mostly about confidence. I am not stuck up and and very approachable. And I am flattered by the comments of "you are hot"-
My BF is 8 yrs younger. While he can keep my attention because he JUST HAS IT. He will tell me how HOOKED he is. I have asked what is it about me-HIS RESPONSE- you like pleasing me. AND yes I do, I think when we get to a certain place in our lives- we have figured it out. WE WANT YOU. WE DO NOT NEED YOU. WE GENUINELY WANT YOU. We dont worry about you taking care of us. We just want to have fun with you.
And SEXUALLY- we want to explore you. We are intune with what you like because we are enjoying you.
That is the difference and when you notice us- we appreciate it!
My BF- will tell me he hit a gold mine.

anyway- thats my take-

OLD BAG—

Do you think that the women they talk about are OLD BAGS? NOT SO...
I am in very good shape. You could not ever guess my right age.
look at these older women-

Christie Brinkley, Jacklyn Smith, Tina Turner, Nicole Kidman, Faith Hill, Michelle Phifer, Demi Moore- these women have big diferences in ages-

While I would not date a man in his 20's- I would date someone up to 12 yrs younger.

I know women younger than me that appear older. They act like they have no interest in anything but MONEY. "What can you do for me?"
The reason why some guys like older women- is because we are all about them.

AGE IS A NUMBER.

ladies, there is no need to get worked up. the article was not intended to insult older women, but rather suggest some things young girls can learn from them. and as they say, "some people age like wine." it's absolutely true that some women look better as they age. so if you feel young and beautiful and happen to get involved with a younger man, that's nothing to be ashamed of. never let popular conception make you feel guilty about something positive in your life.

to answer why a young girl would be threatened by a cougar...speaking for myself, i don't think i have felt "threatened" per se, but there have been a couple that made me nervous. the quintessential MILF if you will. because they had certain things that i knew i didn't...yes, sometimes i am lacking in confidence. i sometimes have trouble separating sex from emotions. i can be jealous and insecure...and i know that. i don't have the life experience yet to know how to better handle these things, whereas older women do. now if an older woman lured my bf away, i would not blame her for being so appealing. i would be pissed at myself, for not realizing that he wasn't that into me. but at the same time, it's not really fair for someone who has more experience to purposely try and lure a young guy away. i think that's playing dirty because you know your opponent is at a disadvantage. i'm not saying that all older women do this...not at all. just that the ones who do - the ones termed COUGARS - are of questionable character.

OMG greatbull, you just reminded me of something!!! ashley too by saying that girls can't rely too much on their youth. i have to post it soon, it's sooo interesting to me

watch everyone is like "uhh...and what was so interesting again?" but whatever, i'm still gonna post it sometime 😛

no S-D. 😛 you silly boy.

ok first I'm amazed how seriously these boards are taken - omg !

second what is the big deal ? girls date older men, but guys can't date older women ?

Hey! You don't have to be over the age of 30 to be sexually confident! I've had men dripping off my arms when I've been feeling good, even while my bf was there. All gathered around flirting with me because I was smiling anbd friendly. I'm open to trying anything, so that isn't only older women either!
And has anyone here ever actually tamed a cougar into a relationship? If you have you will know that older women are just as insecure as younger ones in some way or another. They don't reveal that to just anyone, but you can bet that if you're in a relationship with them, they will be asking where you've been, who with, is she pretty, how old is she?

Why Bull? Are you on the market? I wanna get married, as I need a washing machine.