If so what did you do that made him fall for you above any of the girls he was talking to?
Any girl here tamed a player?
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Posted by Arielle83
I didn't talk sexual, I just was. I didn't talk about myself, so he would ask. I didn't need to hear from him every day or night, because I had a life. I didn't ask where our relationship was going, so it went day by day. I didn't question him about everything, so he told me the truth.
Now we are married.
Yep. Thats exactly the way its done.
Brilliant!
Posted by Arielle83
I didn't talk sexual, I just was. I didn't talk about myself, so he would ask. I didn't need to hear from him every day or night, because I had a life. I didn't ask where our relationship was going, so it went day by day. I didn't question him about everything, so he told me the truth.
Now we are married.
& that's what I call a bad bitch! Can she get a round if applause, bc she DID that! Much love.
Posted by Arielle83
I didn't talk sexual, I just was. I didn't talk about myself, so he would ask. I didn't need to hear from him every day or night, because I had a life. I didn't ask where our relationship was going, so it went day by day. I didn't question him about everything, so he told me the truth.
Now we are married.
Wha'? Was that puppy- eyed innocent-looking boy-next-door guy in your avi.......a player? LOL!
Posted by Arielle83
Some ppl want to be serious after the 3rd lay down.
I think you should be serious before the first lay down. To each his/her own I suppose.
Posted by Arielle83
I didn't talk sexual, I just was. I didn't talk about myself, so he would ask. I didn't need to hear from him every day or night, because I had a life. I didn't ask where our relationship was going, so it went day by day. I didn't question him about everything, so he told me the truth.
Now we are married.
Awesome advice!!
Posted by UndinePosted by Arielle83
I didn't talk sexual, I just was. I didn't talk about myself, so he would ask. I didn't need to hear from him every day or night, because I had a life. I didn't ask where our relationship was going, so it went day by day. I didn't question him about everything, so he told me the truth.
Now we are married.
Wha'? Was that puppy- eyed innocent-looking boy-next-door guy in your avi.......a player? LOL!click to expand
lol! right!
Any girl here tamed a player?
Was never desperate enough to try. Never will be. Too many good men out there.
Was never desperate enough to try. Never will be. Too many good men out there.
The big question not being asked is WHY would you want to "tame" a player?
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
Posted by rockyroadicecream
The big question not being asked is WHY would you want to "tame" a player?
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
Don't know about them being bitches, but pathetic fits better.
Posted by LetltB
Any girl here tamed a player?
Was never desperate enough to try. Never will be. Too many good men out there.
^ respect.
i don't think there's necessarily such a thing. however there is such a thing of you coming along at the right time when a man who was previously a playboy willfully decides to finally have a more meaningful relationship with someone he fancies. it's all about timing; and that is internal. if a guy isn't ready to part with his playing ways, he won't even recognize however cool or beautiful or perfect a girl is for him.
Posted by bloodflood
i don't think there's necessarily such a thing. however there is such a thing of you coming along at the right time when a man who was previously a playboy willfully decides to finally have a more meaningful relationship with someone he fancies. it's all about timing; and that is internal. if a guy isn't ready to part with his playing ways, he won't even recognize however cool or beautiful or perfect a girl is for him.
This is the realest thing that has been said here! Besides Arielle. This is so true! My friend who's a therapist always tells me that with men is less about you & more about timing. They could pass on a great woman who's great for him simply bc he isn't ready. & later settle for a good girl who may not be as good a fit as the first girl, but the difference is, he's ready now. I believe it happens all the time.
Not saying Arielle isn't good for her man, just a little example.
That's true.
No, because I never had any desire to. What do you get for doing so, a trophy?
I just find the "player" life style and mindset repulsive on a visceral level. I have better things to do than to housebreak a grown man.
I just find the "player" life style and mindset repulsive on a visceral level. I have better things to do than to housebreak a grown man.
Even players will meet the one person who makes them want to commit.
Don't take it personal.
Don't take it personal.
Posted by LunarMaiden
Even players will meet the one person who makes them want to commit.
Don't take it personal.
And it'll be the one girl that's different than all the rest.
I also agree with the timing factor. You just have to wait on them to grow up. 🙂
Once a player .... always a player
Posted by rockyroadicecream
The big question not being asked is WHY would you want to "tame" a player?
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
but it doesn't sound like she did anything at all she just "was".
^^^arielle
Posted by P-Angel
Once a player .... always a player
i don't agree. i think the "right" woman can settle a man down.
Posted by bloodflood
i don't think there's necessarily such a thing. however there is such a thing of you coming along at the right time when a man who was previously a playboy willfully decides to finally have a more meaningful relationship with someone he fancies. it's all about timing; and that is internal. if a guy isn't ready to part with his playing ways, he won't even recognize however cool or beautiful or perfect a girl is for him.
YES!!! +100000000
Posted by fishinamaizePosted by P-Angel
Once a player .... always a player
Players only love you when they're playingclick to expand
They say, women, they will come and they will go
Posted by KittenLaRougePosted by rockyroadicecream
The big question not being asked is WHY would you want to "tame" a player?
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
but it doesn't sound like she did anything at all she just "was".click to expand
....
That wasn't directed at her, honey. Learn to read.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by KittenLaRougePosted by rockyroadicecream
The big question not being asked is WHY would you want to "tame" a player?
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
but it doesn't sound like she did anything at all she just "was".
....
That wasn't directed at her, honey. Learn to read.click to expand
The question was: Has any girl here tamed a player?
Was looking for genuine stories. Not interested in your your opinion Rockyroad, which is so often void of anything except self aggrandizing rhetoric. Maybe you're the one that should learn to read.
Now here I go again, I see the crystal visions
🙂
To "tame" any person, for any reason = finding the correct way to manipulate the person into being someone you want them to be.
So, if you believe you have successfully tamed a player, then the only thing this amounts to is .... you're a manipulator, who doesn't like/want the person for who he is/was. You're jus playing a game with him, to get him to maneuver on your playing field.
Really not any different than him ... the guy plays to get laid, the girl plays to get her feelings validated.
same game
Posted by starloverPosted by noname
nothing is more attractive than a decent person who does not abuse the power he has over others and who never take advantage of the weaker. there is nothing attractive about players. the interesting thing is they are usually ugly outside as well.
Wise words
Two types of men to avoid, always
1 ~ players
2 ~ married men
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yeah but these boards would be empty... 😄
lol
I was commenting on the subject overall, and she assumes I was criticizing Arielle.
...You can't read, either! :o
Do you feel better now that you've used "big" words to make you feel above me? I bet it makes you feel special. Go chase that player, honey. It'll bring you much happiness and joy. You didn't like what I had to say because it's not what you wanted to hear.
"I want to know if a player can be tamed" (possible implications that your vag is wet for some douchebag and your gut is telling you to run) You proceed to ask this question in hopes of your gut lying so you can chase a bad choice without guilt.
....Only to be met with very little success and more logical answers like, "it's a bad idea," and "players aren't 'tamed' unless they WANT to settle down or are ready."
So sorry that I pointed out the obvious in where women shouldn't still be attempting to "tame" some hopeless loser that isn't ready to settle down, hence the lack of successful experiences. Life isn't a romantic comedy. Your question alone is quite sad and depressing, actually. WHY would you want to tame a player?? They're self serving man children whose dicks are probably growing mold and mushrooms. *shudder*
I was commenting on the subject overall, and she assumes I was criticizing Arielle.
...You can't read, either! :o
Do you feel better now that you've used "big" words to make you feel above me? I bet it makes you feel special. Go chase that player, honey. It'll bring you much happiness and joy. You didn't like what I had to say because it's not what you wanted to hear.
"I want to know if a player can be tamed" (possible implications that your vag is wet for some douchebag and your gut is telling you to run) You proceed to ask this question in hopes of your gut lying so you can chase a bad choice without guilt.
....Only to be met with very little success and more logical answers like, "it's a bad idea," and "players aren't 'tamed' unless they WANT to settle down or are ready."
So sorry that I pointed out the obvious in where women shouldn't still be attempting to "tame" some hopeless loser that isn't ready to settle down, hence the lack of successful experiences. Life isn't a romantic comedy. Your question alone is quite sad and depressing, actually. WHY would you want to tame a player?? They're self serving man children whose dicks are probably growing mold and mushrooms. *shudder*
Posted by fishinamaizePosted by LunarMaidenPosted by fishinamaizePosted by P-Angel
Once a player .... always a player
Players only love you when they're playing
They say, women, they will come and they will go
When the rain washes you clean, you'll know
Posted by fishinamaizePosted by P-Angel
Now here I go again, I see the crystal visions
🙂
😄
Posted by fishinamaizePosted by P-Angel
Now here I go again, I see the crystal visions
🙂
😄click to expand
I keep my visions to myself
😛
Posted by Arielle83
I think my guy had his cab light on...but anyways...
This reminds me of this chick I met thru a mutual friend. She was interested in this guy that we work with who is the ultimate player. Tall, handsome, kiwi and he was so unassuming with the women because he is a sweetie, but he never settles, commits or makes anyone his gf. So this chick I met was all like "I'm going to make him mine. I'll make him change." My friend and I were just like "you don't know Dan." And then she goes "you don't know me." So sure enough she goes home with him that night and he does the old "see ya later". And sure enough she was calling my mutual friend wondering about Dan and if he's asked about her. UMMMM no he gets numbers every night and women throwing themselves at him everyday. She was crushed to say the least. However, I noticed he does really get infatuated with the ones he can't have or who don't throw themselves at him. I guess if it's easy players take it, but really they need someone to challenge them, someone different.
She made the mistake of thinking that sex settles a player.
Probably just the opposite actually.
But some women are too insecure to risk that.
I just say...Hello Playa..Meet The Coach. Roll my eyes and walk away.
I am not in the business of taming or changing anyone. PERIOD. If you want to play games still. Go play somewhere else I have better things to do. Moving on.....
I am not in the business of taming or changing anyone. PERIOD. If you want to play games still. Go play somewhere else I have better things to do. Moving on.....
Posted by Arielle83
its like you assume these men arent looking 4 sumthing real. Could it be that they acquire the role of player due to their constant disappointment or mismatch in women? So they are constantly looking 4 their ideal but experimenting with what is given, along the way?
^^^This is possible and have seen it. That is why I approach every "possible" encounter with someone as you show me who you are. I don't judge based on your pass performance as I know those behaviors, if are truly who you are will show themselves quickly and why I mainly take my time in getting to know someone.
They could just be the type who gauges via sex as opposed to oldschool courting. I've met people like that. Honestly I don't see anything wrong with it and I don't think it makes them any worse. Even if I don't have sex I've still been labelled a player because I do 'date' around quite often.
It's anyone's game when when that initial spark happens. I tend to think what follows are just societal justifications.
It's anyone's game when when that initial spark happens. I tend to think what follows are just societal justifications.
No.
And to be honest the phrase 'tamed a player' is offensive. They are people it is not one human's place to tame another.
They either want to be faithful to you or not. They are either boyfriend material or not. If they choose to lead a different life who are you to try and change them or 'tame' them.
If you try changing someone are you changing them for their best interests or yours? If a man is a player is it in HIS best interests for him to change or yours because that is what you want.
I think it is better to recognize your needs and recognize he cannot meet them early on and respect his choices.
Let his be his own man. Let him be his own master men have enough trouble taming themselves. Don't we all?
A man is his own master and a master has tamed himself, he is comfortable with himself. He doesn't need to lie or manipulate others.
I think men and women need to support each others journeys.
And to be honest the phrase 'tamed a player' is offensive. They are people it is not one human's place to tame another.
They either want to be faithful to you or not. They are either boyfriend material or not. If they choose to lead a different life who are you to try and change them or 'tame' them.
If you try changing someone are you changing them for their best interests or yours? If a man is a player is it in HIS best interests for him to change or yours because that is what you want.
I think it is better to recognize your needs and recognize he cannot meet them early on and respect his choices.
Let his be his own man. Let him be his own master men have enough trouble taming themselves. Don't we all?
A man is his own master and a master has tamed himself, he is comfortable with himself. He doesn't need to lie or manipulate others.
I think men and women need to support each others journeys.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
The big question not being asked is WHY would you want to "tame" a player?
Silly bitches and their obsession with unavailable men...
+1
Posted by bloodflood
i don't think there's necessarily such a thing. however there is such a thing of you coming along at the right time when a man who was previously a playboy willfully decides to finally have a more meaningful relationship with someone he fancies. it's all about timing; and that is internal. if a guy isn't ready to part with his playing ways, he won't even recognize however cool or beautiful or perfect a girl is for him.
Truth!!! +10000. Just to add to the timing thing: sometimes the present gf reaps the benefits of the hard work the ex put in to reform a player.
Posted by KittenLaRougePosted by P-Angel
Once a player .... always a player
i don't agree. i think the "right" woman can settle a man down.click to expand
Nobody can make anyone do anything. Nobody changes for another person. People only change when they want to. The only successful change that comes in a person is all thanks to the person who wanted the change themselves. This is where timing and maturity comes in.
Men are polygamous. No matter how infatuated or in love they are with a woman initially, at some point she will get boring and old, at which point another woman will appeal and how he goes to that other woman will show if he's changed or not. Such is life and the impermanence of relationships.
My main point is: it ain't over till it's over. On what grounds can one truly claim that they've reformed a player? Because they haven't cheated/strayed for 5,6, or 7 (insert #) yrs. Until the "player" hits his grave with clean record, you can't claim that you reformed him.
Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by fishinamaizePosted by P-Angel
Once a player .... always a player
Players only love you when they're playing
They say, women, they will come and they will goclick to expand
haha love that song!!
I have never been into players. I can't compete with others.
I am not attracted to that type of man I find it off putting. It kills passion.
But the interesting thing is just because a man is faithful does not make him a good partner you know.
With 'players' though its not just the other girls...it's any mind games. I hate that.
I am not attracted to that type of man I find it off putting. It kills passion.
But the interesting thing is just because a man is faithful does not make him a good partner you know.
With 'players' though its not just the other girls...it's any mind games. I hate that.
Loads of judgemental comments on here...but I'll put in my 2c.
My beautiful husband was a "player" when I met him. I wasn't interested in forming a relationship with him for that reason. He had a huge reputation and I was warned off him after I met him. We formed a friendship and were mates for months before we got involved and by then the other women had dropped off like flies. I didn't try to tame him, it just happened naturally because we built something together and I have no fear of him ever going back to what he was.
My beautiful husband was a "player" when I met him. I wasn't interested in forming a relationship with him for that reason. He had a huge reputation and I was warned off him after I met him. We formed a friendship and were mates for months before we got involved and by then the other women had dropped off like flies. I didn't try to tame him, it just happened naturally because we built something together and I have no fear of him ever going back to what he was.
Posted by earthonfire
Loads of judgemental comments on here...but I'll put in my 2c.
My beautiful husband was a "player" when I met him. I wasn't interested in forming a relationship with him for that reason. He had a huge reputation and I was warned off him after I met him. We formed a friendship and were mates for months before we got involved and by then the other women had dropped off like flies. I didn't try to tame him, it just happened naturally because we built something together and I have no fear of him ever going back to what he was.
I agree with starlover! It's not judgmental. In fact you or anyone who claims to have "tamed a player" is naive and taking credit for something that was never in your hands 🙂
How can you claim to have tamed a player unless you are that player yourself. Only a player can tell his tale.
I had a friend three yrs ago who had a reallyyyyyy good looking bf. He was one of those guys that I'd say 90% of women would fall for. As expected, he was a disgusting player. I wish I could post his pic. My friend was CERTAIN and COnFIDENT the way you sound in your writing style , that she had "tamed his philandering self". I had no reason to not believe her as I didn't see proof otherwise. After they broke up, one by one she discovered all his transgressions. LOL! One time we were having coffee and one of those many girls he cheated on her with came to us and told her. As proof, she even had sexy
pics he sent to her and the txt MSGs.
So my point is once again, it ain't over till it's over. Until your man is alive and well, it's a possibility. You don't wanna come back on dxp and eat your own words.
Every guy is a player until he falls in love .
So many great insights from all the ladies, damn it was a really good read.
I don't think Arielle is with a self proclaimed player. There are guys that are not players that serial date. A serial dater can change because he's actually looking for the right one.
There are players whose radar isn't on commitment at all ever and they will not expose their player ways, they are not honest about their behavior and they will not succumb to love no matter how right she is for him.
There are players that are very up front about their intentions. They will make it clear day one they are not interested in love, nor are they interested in being with one woman.
There are emotional con artist for example pick up artist who get a real high and thrill from bagging the hard to get women, the 10's, the women who have morals and values and self esteem and boundaries.
So many types out there...
As for taming a player well it all depends if he's truly a real player or if he's just a serial dater who likes to play.
A real player, I mean a professional pick up artist type of guy will not be tamed at all, if ever, he refuses to be domesticated, he will even marry and cheat and play all the while upholding the perfect image of a good guy.
A serial dater will allow himself to settle down with the woman who behaves in a way that keeps him on his toes, keeps him interested, a bit of a challenge, will not allow him to win easily and isn't phased by his behavior with other woman but will never allow herself to be played nor played with while he's figuring it all out for himself.
I believe a lot of women want to believe their man is/was a player that she tamed but those men were never truly real players because real players never stop playing, they settle down and they even get married and they secretly play, they marry for reasons other than love, it could be status, financial, a cover to use to lure in MORE thirsty women, it's a great way to lure in women that are attracted to unavailable men. Real players refuse to be domesticated and really don't have the emotional depth to be with any one woman for a long period of time. Ashley Madison is filled with these men.
Players are charming, some are very handsome and they are convincing but they are only true to themselves.
There are different kinds of players, for example a serial dater, a commitmentphobe, a pick up artist, some can be tamed down, the real players cannot and refuse.
I don't think Arielle is with a self proclaimed player. There are guys that are not players that serial date. A serial dater can change because he's actually looking for the right one.
There are players whose radar isn't on commitment at all ever and they will not expose their player ways, they are not honest about their behavior and they will not succumb to love no matter how right she is for him.
There are players that are very up front about their intentions. They will make it clear day one they are not interested in love, nor are they interested in being with one woman.
There are emotional con artist for example pick up artist who get a real high and thrill from bagging the hard to get women, the 10's, the women who have morals and values and self esteem and boundaries.
So many types out there...
As for taming a player well it all depends if he's truly a real player or if he's just a serial dater who likes to play.
A real player, I mean a professional pick up artist type of guy will not be tamed at all, if ever, he refuses to be domesticated, he will even marry and cheat and play all the while upholding the perfect image of a good guy.
A serial dater will allow himself to settle down with the woman who behaves in a way that keeps him on his toes, keeps him interested, a bit of a challenge, will not allow him to win easily and isn't phased by his behavior with other woman but will never allow herself to be played nor played with while he's figuring it all out for himself.
I believe a lot of women want to believe their man is/was a player that she tamed but those men were never truly real players because real players never stop playing, they settle down and they even get married and they secretly play, they marry for reasons other than love, it could be status, financial, a cover to use to lure in MORE thirsty women, it's a great way to lure in women that are attracted to unavailable men. Real players refuse to be domesticated and really don't have the emotional depth to be with any one woman for a long period of time. Ashley Madison is filled with these men.
Players are charming, some are very handsome and they are convincing but they are only true to themselves.
There are different kinds of players, for example a serial dater, a commitmentphobe, a pick up artist, some can be tamed down, the real players cannot and refuse.
Posted by tiki33
So many great insights from all the ladies, damn it was a really good read.
As for taming a player well it all depends if he's truly a real player or if he's just a serial dater who likes to play.
A real player, I mean a professional pick up artist type of guy will not be tamed at all, if ever, he refuses to be domesticated, he will even marry and cheat and play all the while upholding the perfect image of a good guy.
A serial dater will allow himself to settle down with the woman who behaves in a way that keeps him on his toes, keeps him interested, a bit of a challenge, will not allow him to win easily and isn't phased by his behavior with other woman but will never allow herself to be played nor played with while he's figuring it all out for himself.
I believe a lot of women want to believe their man is/was a player that she tamed but those men were never truly real players because real players never stop playing, they settle down and they even get married and they secretly play, they marry for reasons other than love, it could be status, financial, a cover to use to lure in MORE thirsty women, it's a great way to lure in women that are attracted to unavailable men. Real players refuse to be domesticated and really don't have the emotional depth to be with any one woman for a long period of time. Ashley Madison is filled with these men.
Players are charming, some are very handsome and they are convincing but they are only true to themselves.
There are different kinds of players, for example a serial dater, a commitmentphobe, a pick up artist, some can be tamed down, the real players cannot and refuse.
RIGHT ON THE MONEY GREAT POST!
Especially this
"Players are charming, some are very handsome and they are convincing but they are only true to themselves. "
I need to read your entire post once a day!
Posted by tiki33
So many great insights from all the ladies, damn it was a really good read.
I don't think Arielle is with a self proclaimed player. There are guys that are not players that serial date. A serial dater can change because he's actually looking for the right one.
There are players whose radar isn't on commitment at all ever and they will not expose their player ways, they are not honest about their behavior and they will not succumb to love no matter how right she is for him.
There are players that are very up front about their intentions. They will make it clear day one they are not interested in love, nor are they interested in being with one woman.
There are emotional con artist for example pick up artist who get a real high and thrill from bagging the hard to get women, the 10's, the women who have morals and values and self esteem and boundaries.
So many types out there...
As for taming a player well it all depends if he's truly a real player or if he's just a serial dater who likes to play.
A real player, I mean a professional pick up artist type of guy will not be tamed at all, if ever, he refuses to be domesticated, he will even marry and cheat and play all the while upholding the perfect image of a good guy.
A serial dater will allow himself to settle down with the woman who behaves in a way that keeps him on his toes, keeps him interested, a bit of a challenge, will not allow him to win easily and isn't phased by his behavior with other woman but will never allow herself to be played nor played with while he's figuring it all out for himself.
I believe a lot of women want to believe their man is/was a player that she tamed but those men were never truly real players because real players never stop playing, they settle down and they even get married and they secretly play, they marry for reasons other than love, it could be status, financial, a cover to use to lure in MORE thirsty women, it's a great way to lure in women that are attracted to unavailable men. Real players refuse to be domesticated and really don't have the emotional depth to be with any one woman for a long period of time. Ashley Madison is filled with these men.
Players are charming, some are very handsome and they are convincing but they are only true to themselves.
There are different kinds of players, for example a serial dater, a commitmentphobe, a pi
^ well-said! Bravo! +10000
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