Any girl here tamed a player? (Page 2)

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lisabeth
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Posted by starlover
Good for you Arie

I haven't and wouldn't even try to tame a player, those kind of guys don't interest me, i doubt all of them change much tbh



interesting topic/thread.

Im the same way. I don't want to bother. Players kind of scare me to be honest. I dont mind if a guy has had girlfriends in the past, a few of them,(like my husband and my last ex) but after my experience with one ex....they are really hard to pin down types. Granted, drugs and alcohol made him that way, but he had an "eye" for the ladies.

I believe that there are certain types of women out there that can do it though. And I congratulate them for succeeding.
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Posted by starlover
Posted by lisabethur8
a man who easily falls for a temptress/seductress...is a scary type of guy. You can't feel that he'd ever commit to you. They are too tempted easily.



Your *logic* :~)) is spot on here ~ why do women suppose men *get it out of their system*, how do they kid themselves that he will change ~ how can a man that has gotten off on bedding lots of women all of a sudden just be true to one

I find that a joke and difficult to believe
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it took awhile, Star. Remember, my first husband is a player. I was dumb as hell, but it was love to me back then. *shakeshead* we learn through experience and wisdom, and many women do NOT learn.
Maybe they just keep going after the proverbial bad boy cause it's "challenging" or something.

but i agree with you!!! after those experiences, I am too wary and scared as hell of those types. I remember how i felt all the time. Always crying and miserable. Its not a good feeling and you're always wishing he would change. But he won't.
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I've been away for a while. We had a death in the family. My husbands mum passed away from cancer, hence the length of time between replies on this topic.

@aquarius09 I'm not at all concerned, nor am I meaning to come off as over confident. I'm just coming at this from another perspective. I never attempted to "tame" my husband.

From his view it went like this (yes I sat and asked his side): he had a very hard divorce from his wife that dragged on for years and put him through emotional hell. He met a woman a few years later who he fell in love with who stomped on his heart and after that he decided it was easier just not to feel anything and look for physical fulfilment instead. He said everytime he took a woman home he felt for the briefest time that he was wanted and he said it felt really good to feel that way. He knew the women were using him as much as he was using them.

He then said along came me who was different. He said I was a beautiful caring person who made his emotional walls drop and he felt like he could just be himself with me. I wasn't after a relationship at the time. I had come out of a messy breakup myself and I was more than happy to just be friends! I had also heard of his "harem" and wasn't interested in being anyones mark on a calendar and let him know as much. He respected that but in the end there was only me he was interested in being with anyway.

Some (not all) "players" have their reasons for what they do.