How do you handle being put on hold--as in someone wants to date you but not right now?
Being Put On Hold
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass,that I really want, if it don't work out, I'll holla @ ya.
Posted by DeeG
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass,that I really want, if it don't work out, I'll holla @ ya.
This.
I wouldn't wait around. It tells me how little he thinks of me if he's willing to make me wait while he's busy checking out other chicks. No thanks.
And if it's more "I'm not in a place to be in a relationship right now" whether it be emotional reasons or just doesn't feel he can fit in time due to career issues, fine. Not going to wait around. There is a such thing as just bad timing for two people, but it's not worth putting your life on hold for. They're continuing on with theirs and neither of you know if someone will come along and whisk either of you away.
It's not worth putting your life on hold for circumstances that are not in your control.
Posted by DeeG
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass,that I really want, if it don't work out, I'll holla @ ya.
pretty much sums that right on up!
Posted by Ixion120
I take it all in stride...while they do their thing I do mine...only under special exceptions do I catch a case.
lol
Posted by Ixion120
I take it all in stride...while they do their thing I do mine...only under special exceptions do I catch a case.
you mean like put the beats on someone?
^agreed
BUT I'd probably either just forget about them and move onto the next thing... WHY waste time? Of course IF I find them extremely intriguing I may decide to prove to them they made the wrong choice but I hate when Someone has that kinda effect on me when they don't feel them same even if Im motivated. But hell at the same time if you don't see nothing better guess its so much a waste of time 🙂
BUT I'd probably either just forget about them and move onto the next thing... WHY waste time? Of course IF I find them extremely intriguing I may decide to prove to them they made the wrong choice but I hate when Someone has that kinda effect on me when they don't feel them same even if Im motivated. But hell at the same time if you don't see nothing better guess its so much a waste of time 🙂
Not so much*
that kind of thing/ line makes me want to staple gun ears to desktops...
Posted by feby16aquaPosted by DeeG
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass,that I really want, if it don't work out, I'll holla @ ya.
lol yepclick to expand
You get my pm??
Posted by LilliLou
that kind of thing/ line makes me want to staple gun ears to desktops...
Agreed. It's such a selfish thing to do- expect someone to put their life on hold while you fuck around and get your shit together.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by LilliLou
that kind of thing/ line makes me want to staple gun ears to desktops...
Agreed. It's such a selfish thing to do- expect someone to put their life on hold while you fuck around and get your shit together.click to expand
Yup! A very wise person once told me that if you mean a lot to someone it is amazing how quickly they can get their shit together when they want to
My opinion TMV is is at best a flimsy excuse.
Where did I leave my staple gun...?
Posted by TMV
How do you handle being put on hold--as in someone wants to date you but not right now?
How arrogant. o.O
I would make it clear that you are still on the market.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by TMV
How do you handle being put on hold--as in someone wants to date you but not right now?
How arrogant. o.O
I would make it clear that you are still on the market.
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Oh-- and with Lillis' staple gun for good measure. 😛
Good advice. Duly noted.
Not long at all. I only met this person about two weeks ago. I'm just feeling torn about whether or not to pursue and needed some perspective from outside sources.
How would I deal with being put on hold? Oh that's simple. I WOULDN'T deal with it.
If a person is truly interested in you, that natural instinct in them (the 1 that everybody has when they see something/someone they don't wanna take the risk of losing) would bring out the "Do what you gotta do" instinct that's also in everybody...i.e. if something is truly important to you, you're not gonna let them/those kind of opportunities slip from your hand if you have any control
Every man knows that if he doesn't snatch you now, he's taking the chance of another guy snatching you. Men who truly feel they've found a Gem won't take that chance or let that happen
That's a philosophy that's true in every other aspect of life too. If you really want something, you will let NOTHING (not problems, bills, other people, other women, etc.) stop you. And if you let it stop you, you didn't want it ENOUGH. And if you don't want it enough, you don't deserve it, especially considering there are 1,000 people who are competing & DO want it bad enough
So if a guy puts you on hold, it means he's not that into you
Being put on hold = You're a Plan E. Not Plan B. Notice I didn't say "Plan B" as the 1st opinion b/c a man that even likes you enough to make you Plan B wouldn't be dumb/arrogant enough to tell you that he's putting you on hold lol
If a person is truly interested in you, that natural instinct in them (the 1 that everybody has when they see something/someone they don't wanna take the risk of losing) would bring out the "Do what you gotta do" instinct that's also in everybody...i.e. if something is truly important to you, you're not gonna let them/those kind of opportunities slip from your hand if you have any control
Every man knows that if he doesn't snatch you now, he's taking the chance of another guy snatching you. Men who truly feel they've found a Gem won't take that chance or let that happen
That's a philosophy that's true in every other aspect of life too. If you really want something, you will let NOTHING (not problems, bills, other people, other women, etc.) stop you. And if you let it stop you, you didn't want it ENOUGH. And if you don't want it enough, you don't deserve it, especially considering there are 1,000 people who are competing & DO want it bad enough
So if a guy puts you on hold, it means he's not that into you
Being put on hold = You're a Plan E. Not Plan B. Notice I didn't say "Plan B" as the 1st opinion b/c a man that even likes you enough to make you Plan B wouldn't be dumb/arrogant enough to tell you that he's putting you on hold lol
How do you handle being put on hold--as in someone wants to date you but not right now?
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass
IN THE BOOK OF DATEING RULES IS THIS O.K.?
DO YOU BIRDS BITE INTO THIS?
Being put on hold= wait for me while I check out this other piece of ass
IN THE BOOK OF DATEING RULES IS THIS O.K.?
DO YOU BIRDS BITE INTO THIS?
I don't know that I would call it a cop out exactly. The context is that I met this person online. I explained straight up that I'm a walking disaster area in relationships, fresh from a hard breakup, and that my head is in a bad place right now. Neither of us are looking for anything serious so we've just been talking, but there's this great connection.
Half of me is screaming PURSUE! CHASE! Slap on some war paint and get charming! And the other half is like, no, get your game together first before you screw up someone else's life.
I'm reluctant to let go because this feels like a potential catch of a lifetime at the moment but there have been some good points made here about how it would be selfish to put someone on hold while I get my own act together. And it wouldn't be fair to expect them to put up with my mess either so I guess I just have to burn it and deal.
*shrug*
Half of me is screaming PURSUE! CHASE! Slap on some war paint and get charming! And the other half is like, no, get your game together first before you screw up someone else's life.
I'm reluctant to let go because this feels like a potential catch of a lifetime at the moment but there have been some good points made here about how it would be selfish to put someone on hold while I get my own act together. And it wouldn't be fair to expect them to put up with my mess either so I guess I just have to burn it and deal.
*shrug*
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