Bringing your friends around your S-O (Page 2)

I agree that every man whose around a hot girl isn't gonna cheat & vice versa. Even if that hot girl just so happens to be his girlfriend's best friend still doesn't mean that he'll fall to temptation, hit on her or take the bait if she hits on him. There's no use in feeling any jealousy unless something specifically was done or said to warrant that jealousy.

BUT I can't seem to overlook the very fact that constantly giving your man interpersonal access to other women can sometimes be a bad idea. Yes, the guy was gonna cheat anyways, BUT most of us didn't even know the guy was a cheater UNTIL he actually cheated. Sure, he may have cheated anyways, BUT there IS such a thing as pre-exposed environments...(A man that was never put in certain situations or environments may never cheat compared to the very same man put in certain environments/situations.)

I don't think putting up some boundaries is done out of insecurity or lack of faith in your partner. There is a HUGE difference b/c something that is just not good for the relationship b/c other failed relationships have set the example of why it's NOT a good idea (just like open relationships for example--alot have failed b/c they were, well open!) VS. simply not wanting your partner exposed to something/someone b/c of your own insecurities.

I think open relationships kind of work in the same way. They've backfired & caused problems for lots of relationships. And the same goes for the women who constantly expose their partners too much to their friends. This has backfired & caused alot of relationships to fail too, in more ways than 1. Not just on the cheating tip, but also b/c it allows others too much access/power into your relationship.

It'd be the same as if your partner's nosy mother was always around. Yeah, it's their mother so you have to respect her, BUT if she's got too much access, she might overstep her boundaries, forget her place or complicate things in the relationship. And this can happen to 2 people who are perfectly SECURE in their relationship, let alone 2 people who are insecure.

I think your partner should know & be around your friends just like you should know/be around theirs. BUT if your man always has a date night with you AND your best friend, that can become a problem. If your friends are around right before sex, during arguments, and/or when your relationship needs 1-on-1 time (just to name a few), it can ruin/complicate things.

I've been in a few situations when my friend's man hit on me. The 1st thing I did was get him straight; I let him know up front that I not only didn't appreciate his advances, but that I'd also be letting my friend know. It takes balls to hit on your own partner's friends! And when I told my friends, they believed me & appreciated me for telling them. I wouldn't dare wait for him to say something 1st or for him to lie on me (out of a guilty conscious) b/c then her chances of believing me would dramatically decrease! I don't play that!