Constant questions and confirmation.

Hello all!

I'm seeking a bit of understanding and clarification on something that has been going on (and increasing) for a little while now. I'm not sure *when* this started but I noticed this around 3/4 of a year ago with my current partner. For anyone who has seen posts I've made about him, then you may know that I've been with this guy for almost 3 years and have known him since we were children. He's the youngest of 4, the only male in the household, and his sisters are all at least 11 years older than him (so he was pretty much the only child in his home as a preteen/teenager).

The situation isn't critical or a huge problem.. but it's putting a small strain on us as of late.

I'm not going to go into detail and write a wall of text about it. Without frills and bare bones: he keeps asking me questions on how to do something or where something is or how to go about something. I TOTALLY have no problem with answering questions and some of them are valid and sound. However, the amount of questions and the content of the questions are just ridiculous. He asks questions on things that he knows how to do and has done fine for awhile now. Like.. he'll ask where the toothpaste is before opening the drawer that it's always in, then ask where to put his toothbrush, and how he should position it. I know that sounds normal and just like I'm being a bitch about it (which yes, I am) but you would probably be the same way if every 5 minutes your partner asked a battery of 7 questions that were self explanatory.

It's been making me feel like I'm dating my little brother all of the sudden. I don't want to hold resentment and be annoyed with him, when he's normally not like this. But now it's incessant and I'm finding myself retreating to a different room and avoiding being in the same room. I value silence and peace, and we would always enjoy that together. Now it's just filled with babble and all that jazz. :/

Does anybody have some clarity or understanding in this morph of behavior? Is there another way for me to approach this in order for me or us to handle this or change this? I do love him and we're both very much in love. Everyone has their 'quirks' but this is very foreign to his personality. Our relationship is beginning to feel like more of a mother-child one than a partner-partner one.. and I've never found attraction in telling something what to do or how to do it.

Lmao this unintentionally turned into a wall of text!

I've already addressed it multiple times. Yet, after a few days it comes back and continues.

And yes he is a double Scorpio. He sometimes gets trapped in that clingy cycle. He knows I'll be annoyed at him and get even more clingy. It turns into a vicious cycle.

I try not to make it about myself - but he addresses me. I'll try that tactic though. I'll not answer him and stick out my tongue next time; he's used to me being very silly. 😛

Thanks everyone - I'll update on this and I'll let ya'll know 🙂

Remind him you are his WOMAN, not his MOTHER. No man wants to boff his mother. Then drop it.

"I'm kinda guilty of just getting up and doing it though, such things make me happy. N"

Think its that cancer moon?

:p

@Elly:

It's not so much of asking me to do something... but it's like when you first teach a child how to do something and they come back asking BS every 3 seconds. Except it's ridiculous instead of, you know - understandable. 😛

You are a very pushy person, and clearly present it in here .. surely in real life you must be a total bitch about it. No matter what is being talked about, you seem to know everything about it.

Throw being a Leo on top of all that .... and there's no doubt you are also very controlling.

Now, to topic ... all of a sudden he changes .. as in = he's getting tired of you knowing it all, so he does the perfect thing to a know-it-all .. he asked you every-fucking-thing.

Posted by Huntress

.... I'm finding myself retreating to a different room and avoiding being in the same room.

Ah peace for him now, you leave him alone ... now he can enjoy being in the bathroom by himself to brush his teeth ... surely the reason you were in the bathroom with him in the first place was to make sure he was doing it right according to you.


Because those people who aren't control freaks ... aren't even in the bathroom and let thier partners brush their teeth in peace

Posted by Huntress

He's the youngest of 4, the only male in the household, and his sisters are all at least 11 years older than him (so he was pretty much the only child in his home as a preteen/teenager).



Like.. he'll ask where the toothpaste is before opening the drawer that it's always in, then ask where to put his toothbrush, and how he should position it.

This is his space, he is left to peace in his own space since his siblings are all older .. you said yourself, he was practically an only child growing up.

So why the hell are in his face in the bathroom for?

In order for him to ask those questions, it means you are in his private space in the first place.

"Like.. he'll ask where the toothpaste is before opening the drawer that it's always in, then ask where to put his toothbrush, and how he should position it."



That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ was him being sarcastic, and mocking.


You know everything ... why did that innuendo fly over your head?

5...4...3...2.... Unsheathe The Claw.


Not that you need it ...but the Pride will attack if neccessary.

If the thread is for real
get him to a doctor.
sounds like some form of disorder
not enough blood getting to the brain
could be half a dozen different things but
get him in to a doctor have test run just to make sure.

Posted by james tate
If the thread is for real
get him to a doctor.
sounds like some form of disorder
not enough blood getting to the brain
could be half a dozen different things but
get him in to a doctor have test run just to make sure.

He actually brought that up to me that to me today, out of nowhere. He's been complaining of increased pressure to his head. The conversation shifted to the behavior stated in this thread. It's coming full circle now. Over the past half year or so he's mentioned to me decreased concentration in his college classes and lack of focus. It's frustrating him and he's pretty overwhelmed with feeling less capable mentally.

He doesn't have health insurance available through his job, but him and I go to a local health clinic that gives a sliding scale for state residents for patients to receive medical attention and intervention. Actually, he hasn't seen a doctor since he was a little kid. He's only just started going to a dentist (from the aforementioned clinic) regularly within the past year.

If it can be remedied through skeletal manipulation (cranio-sacral manipulation) then he has the option to see one of my professors who does some holistic Physical Therapy 'pro-bono'. If not then we'll look at the options together and he can decide what is best for him. That is all being said if it is a medical issue. We'll see 🙂 Thanks 🙂

Posted by Nala13
5...4...3...2.... Unsheathe The Claw.


Not that you need it ...but the Pride will attack if neccessary.

Can't respond to what is ignored and unseen. 😉 Ain't no thing but a chicken wing!

Love it and I love chicken wings !!!

You know I was having trouble concentrating. I went to the doctor. Turns out my vitamin levels were all out of wack. My iron was really low. They aid something about red blood cells not getting to my brain. Anyway, I have iron pills now and all is well. Hopefully, it is something simple like that.

Posted by LouLore
"I'm kinda guilty of just getting up and doing it though, such things make me happy. N"

Think its that cancer moon?

:p

Hahaha! This reminds me of a guy friend that IS a cancer and he is ALWAYS asking questions. I stopped giving him the attention because he kept texting me saying "Call me ASAP, its REALLY important that I ask you something." When I got back to him (thinking it was an emergency) he would ask me something like "Do you like sushi?"

AGGGG RAAA VATING....

Given it's not health related, it sounds like he got a little too comfy and you've gone from "girlfriend" role to "mom" role. Momma's boys are like that.