Do men prefer wives that can cook?

Dear men,

How important is it for you to find a wife that knows how to cook or is at least willing to learn to cook for the sake of her future family?? I'm trying to stress to my daughter the importance of learning how to cook so that she will be able to prepare nutritious meals for her future family. She's still in her teens but told me she does have the desire to get married and have her own family someday so as a mom I am trying to get her prepared for that. She thinks she will just magically turn into a great cook once she gets married but I feel like I need to at least begin teaching her the basics so she won't have to start from complete sctrach later on. She can't even boil water on the stove. She thinks all kitchen appliances are scary lol

I think it's important for all people to learn to be self sufficient .. so learning how to cook is a good thing, because you never know when you are going to be a bachloress, and not have anyone to share in the daily chores, and cooking is one of those daily chores .. unless you choose to eat out every meal.


But, I disagree with the attempts to program your daughters mind with a label to suggest that it is her place as a female to be subserviant, so that a man might view her valuable.


It's your kid, do as you want .... but, this is the 21st century for christs sake. Women are working thier butts off trying to break the chains that they've been bound in for so long, in which dictates that they have to prove theirselves to men in serving the men, if they are to deserve value.

okay so shes not living at home whats she going to eat take out all the time.. A person I don't care who male or female shouyld be able to look after themselves and that includes finances, cooking , cleaning , working and saving there own money for there future,, She should learn how to cook now if not for her future family but for herself.

I can cook took me a few years to get good at it but now I can comfortably make anything i want to eat chilis, soups home made sauces pork/ beef roasts,Inow know how long to cook veggies. I,m not a fancy cook and don't bake but I can make aweso0me meals I just thing it's something that everyone should know. Plus she may long for some of the meals that you,ve made over the years and the best time is to learn the recipes is Now not when your 75 years old lol

I am teaching my duaghter to cook so that she will be able to feed herself, the same as I am teaching my son. As far as a future wife and her ability to cook... it's nice but it ain't gonna make or break anything. I know how to cook and I feed us all now anyway. I'm actually a pretty good cook too. If I were dating a woman who couldn't cook and wanted to learn, I'd teach her. That would make for some fun, easy date nights at home anyway.

Teach the boys to cook, too!! Why should it just be the girls?

To answer the question, I do prefer for a woman to know how to cook or at least try to learn for various reasons. My mom taught me how to cook when I was young. In today's world, couples need to be flexible. I'd love to prepare meals together with my mate. It's intimate. Not only that, but if we both have careers, then we can alternate who cooks on what night or we can both cook. Plus, I'd like to come home to a nice meal too.

according to my husband, of course. Saves us a lot of money and time, and it's so much healthier, you can get creative with food. Bread and meats can be saved in the freezer for a longer time, and even frozen veggies for emergencies. Much better to cook, whip up anything from breakfast meals to late night dinners and snacks.

Posted by ChantillyLace

How important is it for you to find a wife that knows how to cook or is at least willing to learn to cook for the sake of her future family??

Are you also stressing to her how important it is to find a man who will work his fingers to the bone to pay for her?


I mean, if you are going to use guilt as a means to get her to do something, then you might as well do it right .... you might as well teach her that two people use guilt on each other to get a benefit.

because the way I see your post, it says ..... you are telling her that in order for a man to approve of her as wife material, then she better learn how to feed his children FOR him ... so now you better also tell her to guilt trip the man into being husband material by having enough money for her.

Thank you for your contributions so far, everybody. And yes if I had a son, I would teach him to cook, vacuum, fold laundry etc as well. 🙂 It certainly is our job as parents to make sure our kids become self-sufficient. 🙂 Perhaps I am a bit old fashioned in thinking that all girls should know how to cook by the time they get married and have a family of their own. It's how I was raised. But I shouldn't force that idea on my little girl lol

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by ChantillyLace

How important is it for you to find a wife that knows how to cook or is at least willing to learn to cook for the sake of her future family??

Are you also stressing to her how important it is to find a man who will work his fingers to the bone to pay for her?

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No. 🙂

Let your girl do what she wants. Now a days it isn't that unusual anymore for girls to not know how to cook. And, as others have said, it isn't that difficult to teach yourself, especially if you look off recipes. Just because she doesn't learn how to cook with you, doesn't mean she won't be self sufficient with that in her future. She will learn when she wants to. And, if she doesn't come to you, first, then I don't think it's your place to force that upon her.

I don't know how to cook. Never have I met a man who even mentioned caring about such a thing. And if a guy did perhaps refuse me because I currently do not know how to cook, then I don't want that kind of guy in my life, anyway. If anyone measures me by my 'worth' or what I can do and know rather than my personality and who I am as I person, then I want them as far out of my life as possible. However, we're all capable of trying for the people we love, and I'm sure if she knew her guy would like a home cooked meal, she would try. Just as she should expect the same from him. I personally don't believe in a person completely covering one aspect. If I cook, he cooks. If I clean, he cleans, etc. I don't want a lazy, greedy husband. He will have to work just as much as I do.

Just remember that your daughter's life is hers, not yours, so let her grow as she pleases. : )

Learn how to cook so you can make healthy meals for yourself and you can save more money in the long run. I used to cook for my Ex all of the time not because he made me but, because I love to cook. It's one of the ways in which I express my love for people. Now, having said that my father taught me how to read a map, do Celestial Navigation, how to fish, and survive in the wilderness. He considered those true "wifin' " skills. lol.

Learning how to cook is about survival for oneself. Feeding others is secondary

Point being, I think your convo with her will be alot more effective if you teach her the value of cooking for herself so that she'll have the confidence to do so IN THE CASE that she were to end up with friends/family/partner who wanted that of her.

Second point...it's no secret that most men love a good cook, but teaching her that men expect that & implying that she somehow won't be just as good a person/woman/wife unless she learns how to gain that 1 specific skill is wrong & is kind of sexist.

If you wanna teach her values for her future family b/c a future family is something she actually wants (everybody doesn't wanna be or expects a suzie homemaker) then instill in her values like cleaning after herself, cooking for herself, being loyal, being honest, being independent for her own survival b/c nothing/no one is guaranteed.

If she learns how to do those things herself FOR herself, it'll only be natural that those skills/values will carry over into her future relationship

But it's important to 1st stress that it's about HER, not some future husband she's never met or may never meet.

It's dead wrong to teach a young woman that even a part of her worth as a woman lies in her ability to cook b/c that implies that her worth is meausured by what HE thinks, (as opposed to what SHE thinks) & that's wrong

Posted by ChantillyLace
Dear men,

How important is it for you to find a wife that knows how to cook or is at least willing to learn to cook for the sake of her future family?

It's definitely not a deal-breaker, though I have to say that I strongly dislike the adventorous Sag-type of chick who doesn't know anything about the real world or housekeeping. Like I know one Sag who tried to vacuum spilled vinegar... no biggie, but a major WTF moment in my life!

And not knowing how to cook and "being willing to learn" it's pretty much the same thing to me. If that's not your thing then stay out of the kitchen! I'd say a "non-domestic" woman is as appealing as a guy who isn't handy around the house.

As for myself, I like cooking but I'm not handy around the house. Double fail! 😛

And it's scary how many people settle for microwaves and take-outs. That stuff will kill you faster than cigarettes!

My aries boyfriend says she must cook.

I feel like an aries, being the manly men they are, would be the most likely to want a "conventional" wife.