one size fits all

maybe I'm generalizing
but
why are women going for the fat guys?
are they a safe bet, or is that the norm.
is it a promise of comfort and wealth?

or is it
bigger is better so the men keep eating to get bigger?

Because fat people cook better?

Posted by xygeneration
Which part of the world do you live in? Serious question.

It depends how fat? You mean unhealthy, clogged arteries kind of fat?

Safe bet, no.

Plump i would say. I'm not so concerned about their medical condition.

There's lots of reasons to love fat people...

You don't have to worry about them 'sneaking' out.
I already mentioned the culinary skills.
Plus when they get mad they won't throw shit, we go bake cookies.

it lets the woman drop the prusuit of being a thin big tited sex image. If she has a fat man she can plant her ass on the sofa and watch it fill the sofa as she dumps in the bon bons.
being a body builder it isn't easy to maintain your body as you get older.

This concept is something I've thought about many times.

Men are the same with women .... it's nice to fantasize about a hot, sought after woman ... but, she isn't keepable. The risk of her cheating is high due to constant opportunity. While the ugly, fat woman will stand faithfully by your side because you're the best she can get.

And this holds true for female frienships .... women tend to befriend women who are uglier than them. Just like the whole concept of bridemaids wearing those ugly ass dresses is in place so that the bride is prettier.

And women are the same way with men ... if he's average, or fat (as you say) .. then this woman is the best he'll ever get in his mind, so he will remain faithful to eternity.

most people want the others around them to be uglier, so that they feel better .....

All fucking ego .... that is all.

Posted by caliberquick

Posted by LibraSid

You don't have to worry about them 'sneaking' out.

this isn't entirreelllyy true lol i broke up with an ex who had a big beer belly and he went and knocked up a bar hoochie within a month.

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I don't actually believe any of what I said. I just meant you'd be able to hear the floor boards creaking 😛

hope I haven't offended anyone
that is not my intention
I myself am attracted to plump women
however, I can't figure it out the other way around.
So, I have to give James Tate and P-Angel some credence.

however one could very easily fall for a Buddha

I generally like my guys a little heavier set. Perhaps it makes me feel more protected? Albeit, the heaviest I dated was at 275. But, I don't genuinely like people because of what they look like, heavy set or not. I like people because of their personality, and my only serious relationships happened to have been with people who were a little heavier, but who had intriguing personalities. And no, if they were skinnier, their personalities would not be much different. It's not like they're going after 'whatever they can get' because they're heavier, nor do I think they're easier to get with, myself, as I know both of them had/have many people who were jealous of me or would have liked to have been in my shoes (nor am I trying to get 'whatever I can get'). Maybe those concepts hold true for other people, though they would have to have low self confidence and other personality issues to act in line with those reasons.

Posted by Scenic
I generally like my guys a little heavier set. Perhaps it makes me feel more protected?

my aqua has said this before. I am a big guy. I have lost a lot of weight but am still just bigger than most men. I'm 6'2", 250, one size fits all things don't fit me, the hats, gloves, all of it is too small, size 13w/14 shoes, hell my hands are 8"... my family is BIG people. She is 5 foot nothing ans 110lbs, I call her 'fun sized'. She likes that she can't get lost in a hug and that I can pick her up and toss her around so easily.

one looks for some definition
in the torso
it's angularity and shapeliness
that's body language
and the poetics of the mind
expressed in the form

its our best seller!

there is nothing superficial about a beautiful body
that would be a contradiction

don't forget
beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I think people should starve themselves
at least once a month for a day or two.

Different stokes for different folks. Everyone has things they look for in a potential bf/gf, looks are more important to some people than to others. Some people like cats but can't stand dogs. Some people swear off alcohol, some can't get enough. The idea that one half of the partnership could "do better" based soley on body shape/size is the superficial part. I have dated women who are physically out of my league since I started dating. Personality matters, be fun, sweet, make her laugh, be consistant, and passionate about life, you'll find someone even if you are 'pleasantly plump'. Size is a deal breaker for a lot of people and many will not even entertain romantic thoughts, for others it doesn't matter.

Posted by dimitri
I think people should starve themselves
at least once a month for a day or two.

Starving isn't the answer. When you pick up eating again, your metabolism will be slower and will ultimately make you gain more weight. It really makes you further away from a goal of losing weight. People should learn to exercise, or if their daily calorie intake is generally to high, then to cut back to a healthy level. But starving is definitely not a solution to anything. Not to mention the first thing that would go, if you starve yourself, is water weight, not fat.

Posted by dimitri
I think people should starve themselves
at least once a month for a day or two.

Agreed ... and any day after a great big meal where you feel like your stomach got stretched trying to carry it all until it digested.

Shrink that baby up ... so you can't hold as much to feel full.

I'm on board with you ... I get it 🙂

I think if a man is less attractive than his female partner he is still just as likely to cheat... if he is insecure because he knows his girl is a hottie he may seek out other women to boost his ego or prove to himself this isnt a one off etc...
re both genders there are other reasons a person will stray regardless of appearance.

I will not walk the planet
a fat man
nor cast a pregnant shadow.
The registry of complacency
will find me aMiss.
For I'll be sailing my
deodorant can
with sails made from my marquee shirt

Posted by ninjafish
LibraSid knows the deal. Dimitri is obviously losing out to sexy chubster guys. Again, I will reiterate that if I'm going to be "superficial" - and yes, the definition of superficial in this context IS primary concentration on aesthetic exteriors, dimitri su??per??fi??cial [soo-per-fish-uh—l][2. of or pertaining to the surface: superficial measurement. 3. external or outward: a superficial resemblance. 4. concerned with or comprehending only what is on the surface or obvious: a superficial observer., I would STILL opt for an attractive face over perfection below the neck. Fat can be dissolved without resorting to surgery, the face not so much 😛

(Again, love is the most important thing. I could still love someone with an objectively/socially-deigned "unappealing" face if I were in love with them).

Thanks ninja fish, that was refreshing and very educational.
You love them and I can't argue with that.

It's all about personality, charisma and confidence. Sometimes a chubby guy is much sexier than a hot looking asshole. 🙂

I went out with some girls once who are in their late twenties. The list of what they wanted in a man made me laugh! Hot, full head of hair, no beer gut, etc. I told them, honey, they may not look like that now, but when they get my age, they almost ALL look like that!

Posted by dimitri

hope I haven't offended anyone
that is not my intention

Posted by ninjafish

Dimitri is obviously losing out to sexy chubster guys.

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ninjafish turned out to be quite an asshole

Like Odysseus I was tied to the mast
navigating my way in my deodorant can .
I didn't hit the rocks
and steered myself through temptation.

Posted by truecap
It's all about personality, charisma and confidence. Sometimes a chubby guy is much sexier than a hot looking asshole. 🙂

I went out with some girls once who are in their late twenties. The list of what they wanted in a man made me laugh! Hot, full head of hair, no beer gut, etc. I told them, honey, they may not look like that now, but when they get my age, they almost ALL look like that!

NINJ
DO NOT GIVE THE RAT CREDIT FOR ANYTHING DON'T LET IT GET TO YOU WE ALL KNOW IT EXSCAPED FROM SOME LAB SOMEWHERE.

lol @ chubby chasers

Posted by dimitri
I will not walk the planet
a fat man
nor cast a pregnant shadow.
The registry of complacency
will find me aMiss.
For I'll be sailing my
deodorant can
with sails made from my marquee shirt

hahah @ casting a pregnant shadow

Posted by DMV

Posted by dimitri
I will not walk the planet
a fat man
nor cast a pregnant shadow.
The registry of complacency
will find me aMiss.
For I'll be sailing my
deodorant can
with sails made from my marquee shirt

hahah @ casting a pregnant shadow

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Laughable but true

Things are taken so much for granted
that some people aren't aware that they're
on planet earth.

hence: "one size fits all"

Posted by james tate
NINJ
DO NOT GIVE THE RAT CREDIT FOR ANYTHING DON'T LET IT GET TO YOU WE ALL KNOW IT EXSCAPED FROM SOME LAB SOMEWHERE.

if you are talking about me
she gave me a minus 3
i can't do any worse than that
but i will try

any way
women don't mind if the man has no self respect.

lol
on second thoughts, that hadn't crossed my mind
but I couldnt have said it better myself.

Lol, what!? I for one am turned off by fat guys...never dated one. I'm into the scare-crow look, very tall and very lean. I dont think being a chubby chaser has anything to do with comfort or whatever, maybe they just love the feeling of being with someone bigger. There's a little girl in every woman and she feels protected around people bigger than her, but how each woman expresses her "little girl" differs. I like tall men because that to me means manly, and im short...i ONLY feel attracted to larger than life men. A tiny little elf of a man just wont do. Thats just my take and lol again @ fat guys being a symbol of whatever. Hahaha

mans size is measured in spirit
not girth
when you can't see your shoes
you might think they're not dirty
and the hands don't work
cause they never meet.
"there's an incessant drone in one's ear!"
well that's life
my dear.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
The ringing(,) that is.

lol

Posted by dimitri
I think people should starve themselves
at least once a month for a day or two.

that would roughly work out to a total of 24 days of fasting in a year.
i was always good at maths.