Ex family event?

So if you have been following my post I'm sure you know what has been going on. My ex suddenly decided to pack a bag Friday morning and has been gone all weekend to heaven knows where (I'm sure it is probably the female "bff") he was like my niece bday party is Sunday at 2 you're coming right? I was like ummmm I was invited? He was like you know my niece wants you there so yes. OK so you broke my heart, left me stranded all weekend made me miss work and you want me to be at a family event after you told your family everything? I love the little girl but idk if I should really go or just send her a gift.

He owes you NOTHING. Anything he gives you be it a ride to work, information about his life, etc is just crumbs he is tossing your way.

You need distance in order to move on. If it was me I wouldn't be going to the nieces party. I wouldn't be going anywhere that he is. I also wouldn't be living and sleeping in the same bed with an ex.

YOU NEED TO MAKE A PLAN FOR YOURSELF.

I agree I don't think I need to be there neither. I think this week I will just keep to myself until I move next Sunday.

Posted by Starrylady07
I love the little girl but idk if I should really go or just send her a gift.

Your focused on this question as if it's the biggest conundrum in your life, instead of the problem sleeping next to you in bed.

Posted by Starrylady07
I agree I don't think I need to be there neither. I think this week I will just keep to myself until I move next Sunday.

Glad to hear you have something in motion!! ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘

Ya I was really lingering with hope. I think this weekend really opened my eyes. I gotta love me I lost my self in my relationship with him and I lost my dignity when allow him to continue to reap the benefits of the relationship after the break up. I just wanted to be cordial because he's my means to my job.

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Posted by Starrylady07
Ya I was really lingering with hope. I think this weekend really opened my eyes. I gotta love me I lost my self in my relationship with him and I lost my dignity when allow him to continue to reap the benefits of the relationship after the break up. I just wanted to be cordial because he's my means to my job.

He doesn't seem like a reliable source to be your means to get to work.. Can you start planning a more secure means? Switch jobs to one you can be responsible of yourself?

Job = independence. That is number one. I'd make a list of how to tackle this and start crossing off. Emotions aside, you have to ensure your well being first.

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I put in my two weeks notice so this won't be my job much longer. I'm moving back home next Sunday.

Posted by Starrylady07

left me stranded all weekend made me miss work

bullshit.

You did that to yourself ... and you will continue to step in that same pile of shit, no matter where you're living so long as you don't take responsibility for your own actions.

this will be a reoccurring theme .... because, obviously, you are the type of person who acts helpless to a guy, with likely intentions of getting pity attention from him.

You're here, acting pathetic, in saying he left you stranded .. when that's not the case. You've been there two years, and even said in another thread that you have nobody and no friends, and attempted to blame him because you're alone in the world.


NO!!! that is all your fault. And so long as you fault someone else for your life choices ... you will step right in the pile of shit over and again.

You can cry and moan in here (and probably in real life) ... but, alls you're doing is seeking pity. You're not actually seeking dignity, and respect. You just want people to feel sorry for you for being a fool for letting this man run over you for two years.


I don't feel sorry for you ... I only feel sorry for real victims, not irresponsible people who refuse to exercise sound judgment skills.