Ex sex

Would you guys ever consider having sex with an ex? Ive been reading alot of online articles and they genrally say its a bad idea. The general consensus is women will get emotionally tied and the men enjoy more of the physical. Why out of all the women/men available would you need to sleep with an ex?

My ex tried to get me to engage in this the other day. I explained to him I dont have casual relationships.

Does this mean you miss you partner or you miss the intimacy?

i only have one ex and i wouldnt dream of hittin that again. besides HE would be the one who got hooked again. not the other way around.

I like you DMV.

I would think that it would be an area off limits too. I mean...you cant find anyone else to sex up? Do you think they have feelings for the person still? Or moreso going thru a dry spell?

Yes, if I knew I wouldn't see him again after.

^^(sorry CORRECTED POST):

lol..Its the Dryspell he and/or BOTH of you are having, especially since you're even thinking & entertaining the thought (hence your post.)

I have an ex Cap that has been pursuing me recently..While it may be tempting, cuz he could lay somethin' SERIOUS..I'd much rather start fresh with new Blood.

Remind yourself WHY you two broke up in the first place, and keep it moving..
~or~ if you think you're able to "boing with NO feelings" (NEVER possible..someone ALWAYS falls)..then go ahead.

Posted by coldwater
I like you DMV.

I would think that it would be an area off limits too. I mean...you cant find anyone else to sex up? Do you think they have feelings for the person still? Or moreso going thru a dry spell?

depends on the person and how watery they are. if i broke up with a venus in cancer or scorpio, fuck no would i ever have ex sex. its like opening a can of worms. water suns and moons would get no ex lovin. especially moon in scorpio, theyre just looking for the revenge/take down. venus in gemini or sag, all day everyday. maybe even stay away from venus in fixed signs all together.

i think that if it isnt related to convenience or not wanting extra numbers, its related to feelings. but seriously, there are plenty of men out in the world who just want to bang you and not want to know your favorite food.

I was just surprised he even tried me like that. I would think a single man would have no problems finding a woman to engage in relations with. I told him I am single by choice.

I have went through alot last year and decided to take a break this whole year for myself. Considering the fact that I wont even let him see me in person, it was just a shock.

Well hes a cancer sun but a gemini venus. I thought cancers were emotional and deep. I know they like the past so maybe thats the attraction. We do share pluto square venus together so maybe its that rearing its ugly head again. He went from texting me good morning beautiful to like saying theres nothing to talk about goodbye.

This mindset just had me curious.

Only if you plan on getting back together with them in a serious relationship.

Posted by DMV
depends on the person and how watery they are. if i broke up with a venus in cancer or scorpio, fuck no would i ever have ex sex. its like opening a can of worms. water suns and moons would get no ex lovin. especially moon in scorpio, theyre just looking for the revenge/take down. venus in gemini or sag, all day everyday. maybe even stay away from venus in fixed signs all together.

^^This woman knows what she is talkin about..VERY wise. My Cap's Venus is in Scorpio...he is literally BEGGING for a fix. Trouble a brewing. I just can't & wont give in. He will CLING.

Posted by coldwater
I told him I am single by choice. I have went through alot last year and decided to take a break this whole year for myself. Considering the fact that I wont even let him see me in person, it was just a shock.

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GO girl.. sometimes its necessary to take time to yourself and just BE BY yourself to LOVE and ADORE yourself.

Last month made my 2yr. Celibacy mark. Feels great. Bcuz, I'm just not into fly by night "Casual sex".
It wasn't easy..it still isn't..but you REALLY get a chance to assess your SELF worth and other ppl's worth & potential to be included into your life and "YOUR space"..ALOT differently than before.

Well taurusbelle looks like ill be right there with ya. I need this time to regroup and find myself again. I gave alot in that relationship for it to have ended the way it did. But it did end and well its ok.

Posted by coldwater
Well taurusbelle looks like ill be right there with ya. I need this time to regroup and find myself again. I gave alot in that relationship for it to have ended the way it did. But it did end and well its ok.

You can do it. As long as your WILL and determination is strong. I'm rooting for ya.

Posted by coldwater
I was just surprised he even tried me like that. I would think a single man would have no problems finding a woman to engage in relations with. I told him I am single by choice.

I have went through alot last year and decided to take a break this whole year for myself. Considering the fact that I wont even let him see me in person, it was just a shock.

think about it from his angle. you represent the path of least resistance compared to a total stranger. contrary to popular belief pussy doesnt grow on trees and rarely falls into ones lap unless there is a money exchange.

so instead of wine and dine some new chick where he may be rejected, he is going to try u.

i think that came off harsh, not to say that you arent a great gal, but men are men. for some, when it comes to fulfilling a primal need...its the path of least resistance.

I think it would really depend on the situation, but generally it's a no.

My ex hit me up this time last year for some action. It was really, really tempting, but my gut told me to hold off. It'd been the first time we'd hung out as friends since the break up and I didn't want to chance him treating me like crap afterward. I'm all for getting some, but I wasn't about to be treated like some ho he picked up at a club.

He proceeded to treat me like the plague because he DIDN'T get any, so I felt even better for saying no. His behavior was really telling. I would not mind having sex like that again with the guy, but not with the potential bs involved. No thanks. Batteries come with less drama and heartache, you know?

Besides, how he treated me afterward was bullshit, even on a friend level. WHY would I want to entertain that bs??

I'm sure there are situations out there where ex sex works for the people involved. But general rule of thumb is a no. I think women would just have to follow their gut instinct on the situation.

I think alot of it is him wanting his cake and eating it too.

He kept wanting to be friends after the split. I was very abdamant about NOT being friends. He kept needing to come by my home and pick up his mail. The problem with that is he didnt wanna come unless I was here. Ive been very careful not to see him, so I always say im gonna be gone someplace. And who wants an ex just coming by their place?

Then he sends me a happy bday text and then says I miss you. I told him i miss him too.

I think i gave him an opening....

Then comes a pic. And well I was like telling him im confused as to why he would send me pic and he always uses the word "beautiful." This is the same verbage he used in the relationship so i find it inappropiate.

Then the proposition..

And I am guilty of thinking a man can find pussy on every street corner if that is what he wants. I guess ill have to correct that way of thinking.

I just slept with my ex last week. It was ok

I'm all for ex sex usually...


+ You know them, they know you. No time is wasted on that.
+ You're not adding to your number.
+ It's normally relatively uncomplicated...most of the time you know there's no way in hell you're getting back together - you broke up for good reason...you only have one common goal in mind.

🙂

no thats why i call them e"X"

Posted by sugaries
I agree with Taurbelle and DMV. I need to just stay on dxp. I don't have many strong, positive female friends in real life. I find sometimes I lower my standards bc everyone around me accepts crumbs and seems to be happy with it. I'm never going to be happy with crumbs. I want all or nothing.

@coldwater: my cancer ex propositioned the same thing...keep having sex after I ended the relationship.

im still a pupil

Posted by brianafay
I'm all for ex sex usually...


+ You know them, they know you. No time is wasted on that.
+ You're not adding to your number.
+ It's normally relatively uncomplicated...most of the time you know there's no way in hell you're getting back together - you broke up for good reason...you only have one common goal in mind.

🙂

I agree with Bri. It depends on the rationale. What if it is us who wants it? I'm a fixed sign so change is hard for me. I like the familiar. I would do it. Who knows where it might go.

I'm back in a realtionship with my ex right now. Thank goodness for growth.

Your right sugaries about those crumbs.....

I do think thats another reason why some exs feel that they can tempt you with the "ex" sex. I mean if others do chose to engage in it (previous gf/bf), then they expect the same kinda behavior from you. I guess if you are open to it, so be it, but seems to me a good discussion is in order.

The thought of not being good enough for a relationship but good enough for sex would just play over and over in my mind.

I've recycled old sex buddies but I'd never have sex with an ex that I actually was in a relationship with, for many reasons.

Posted by sugaries
I agree with Taurbelle and DMV. I need to just stay on dxp. I don't have many strong, positive female friends in real life.

I find sometimes I lower my standards bc everyone around me accepts crumbs and seems to be happy with it. I'm never going to be happy with crumbs. I want all or nothing.

My dear, as long as you KNOW that you want better,
SURROUND yourself with better, then..
BETTER is not far from your reach.