Experience with insecure men/women?

Have you ever gone on a date with or been in a relationship with an insecure person? How was that experience? Were they always trying to put you down or did you have to reassure them all the time? Did you stay or run away as fast as possible?

I only ask because I went on a few dates with a guy and he kept making little sly remarks that were meant to try to bring me down. He didn't like it when I talked to my guy friends. He would complain about being fat or this or that to others but never to me. Almost like he wanted me to be "below" him. I finally realized I couldn't handle it when I told him about how I didn't get into a top university and he looked at me with this evil, crazy smirk. He didn't try to comfort me, although I didn't need it, it was so strange. It scared the crap out of me. I honestly don't know what his exact issue was but he definitely had some self esteem/security issues.

Insecure people are the ones who lack enough self appreciation and they tend to project it to others. Be conscious of this types of personality either they drag you down to their level or they will ridicule your way of living even your way of thinking.

This people needs reassurance and need someone who will understand them constantly. If you can't be that person better stay away from them. Generally this people are also great only that their insecurities always gets the best of them.

Honestly, yes everyone has their own insecurities but there's a difference between having them and being an insecure person overall. And I also mentioned that I didn't need him to comfort me considering the fact that I knew I didn't work hard enough to get into the university. It's just when you tell someone about something that can be deemed disappointing, usually they will try to comfort you in some way, shape, or form. So when he just smirked at me, I thought it was strange. And I'm certainly not labeling him insecure out of pretentiousness, I've known him for years. I noticed a lot of things but since I can sometimes be very naive, I thought it would change. And near the time I stopped talking to him I did start to feel insecure, that's my fault but that's also why I left. I'll admit to having a pretty big ego so I can not deal with insults. I've seen my mom be brought down by an insecure man. I know the signs. He constantly picked her apart because he felt inadequate. She never left because she started to believe him. He finally changed one day after nearly drinking himself to death. He still has some insecurities like we all do but he doesn't project them onto her anymore.

Insecure people can be extremely manipulative & the biggest mind-game players.

It's so easy to feel bad for the insecure person b/c a part of their plot is to make others feel bad for them or believe that what they're accusing you of isn't something they might actually just be doing to you

A little insecurity is fine, normal & something most of us have about SOMETHING! But in extreme cases, it cheapens & destroys relationships

By the time a secure person is finally done with an extremely insecure person, the secure person might be 10xs less secure themselves by the time things finally end! lol

If I feel like a person is insecure b/c I've said/done something to naturally provoke anyone to be insecure, that's 1 thing

But if I feel like a person is punishing me for what someone else did or for their own lack of self-esteem/confidence, I won't feed into it

When you feed into it, you are catering to their insecurities. You are encouraging them to continue being that way. You are enabling them to continue being that way. And you are not holding them accountable to the fact that THEY are responsible for getting rid of their insecurities, NOT their partner