Get rid of anything from your Ex.

This is the request that was made from my current boyfriend...

I am torn about this issue and perhaps you guys can help me put things into perspective, or understand him better, or both.

My current stance on the issue -

I DON'T want to get rid of/throw away anything (cards, letters, bears, jewelry, clothes) that I received from my ex. It's not because I want my ex back - not by a long shot. It's not that I am soooooooooooo sentimental either because the majority of the items are packed in a box in my outside storage closet: out-of-sight-out-of-mind. I think I don't want to get rid of the items because I would be getting rid of a part of my life that did exist. Am I looking at this the wrong way?
I don't put the items in my current beaus face to look at day-in-and-day-out...as a matter of fact he went snooping through my things one day when I was at work. When he could no longer hold his tongue he confessed and said repeatedly that he wants everything to be all about him! I don't see how my keeping things makes him think that it's not all about him - I AM WITH HIM and NOT MY EX!
I would not ask my beau to trash anything from an ex only to keep it out of my view. I would not ask him to do something that I am unwilling to do...

Question -

What would you do? Has such a request ever been made to you? If so, did you oblige him/her? Why is it so important to him that I throw things away?
FYI - I've asked him these questions and his answers are not sufficient to me and I don't want to push the issue. If I did he would conclude that I must still harbor feelings for the ex which is SO NOT the case.

Please Advice!

PS - He is a Leo is that matters

edit for correction - He is a Leo if that matters.

"I think I don't want to get rid of the items because I would be getting rid of a part of my life that did exist."


Those items didn't make your existence ... your existence made the items. If you had a house fire and lost all of your possessions, does this mean your prior existence is lost? Of course not, what made your past and what continues to make you, for your existence, is a part of you that cannot be represented by material.

If these items are stuffed in a box in storage AND for you to use the concept that these items are why you still have your past existence ..... then in essence, this means your past existence is stuffed inside a box in storage ..... so, then, how important can these items actually be?


So, what is the point of this thread?

You just want people to agree with you that you should be able to keep the items, so that you can have justification in keeping them?

If you want them, then keep them .... the only justification you need is yourself.

"I think I don't want to get rid of the items because I would be getting rid of a part of my life that did exist."


Those items didn't make your existence ... your existence made the items. - OK.

If you had a house fire and lost all of your possessions, does this mean your prior existence is lost? - NO. IT MEANS THAT SOMETHING THAT I AQUIRED DURING MY EXISTENCE WAS DESTROYED.

Of course not, what made your past and what continues to make you, for your existence, is a part of you that cannot be represented by material. - THIS IS TRUE BUT THESE ITEMS ARE TANGIBLE THINGS THAT GO ALONG WITH MY MEMORIES.

If these items are stuffed in a box in storage AND for you to use the concept that these items are why you still have your past existence ..... then in essence, this means your past existence is stuffed inside a box in storage ..... so, then, how important can these items actually be? JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A BOX AND IN STORAGE IS NOT INDICATIVE OF THEIR IMPORTANCE TO ME (ESPECIALLY UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES). EVERYTHING HAS A PLACE WITH ME AND BEING IN PLAIN VIEW IN MY BOYFRIEND'S FACE IS NOT THE PLACE.

So, what is the point of this thread? AS I STATED IN THE THREAD, I AM LOOKING FOR INPUT FROM OTHERS SO THAT I CAN LOOK OUTSIDE OF MY OWN BIASED POINT-OF-VIEW AND GAIN SOME INSIGHT FROM OTHERS WHO MAY HAVE BEEN IN THIS SITUATION. BTW, THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE BUT YOU DID NOT ANSWER MY QUESTIONS. PERHAPS THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED TO YOU....

You just want people to agree with you that you should be able to keep the items, so that you can have justification in keeping them? IS THIS A STATEMENT IN QUESTION FORMAT? NO ONE HAS TO AGREE WITH ME. I JUST WANT POINT OF VIEWS - AGREEABLE, OPPOSING, OR INDIFFERENT AS LONG AS THOSE P-O-V ADDRESS MY THREAD.

If you want them, then keep them .... the only justification you need is yourself. - I WHOLEHEARTEDLY AGREE WITH THIS BUT I STILL WANT TO BE CONSIDERATE OF MY BOYFRIEND.

There you go .... someone agrees with you .... now you can feel happy about yourself when you keep the items, instead of heeding the wishes of the man you are dating ... do you feel better now that you have someone else to hold your hand?



Or, if you really cared about your man ... you could always move the box to your mothers basement so you won't have to worry about him getting upset ...... but, if you did that, then you wouldn't have anything to aid in the creation of the drama.

I mean, for reals ...... why actually fix the problem .. when you deserve to deserve .... because you deserving is much more important than finding a happy medium.


Others will come .. and they too will tell you, you are right ......

"he confessed and said repeatedly that he wants everything to be all about him! I don't see how my keeping things makes him think that it's not all about him - I AM WITH HIM and NOT MY EX! I would not ask my beau to trash anything from an ex only to keep it out of my view."






"I would not ask him to do something that I am unwilling to do..."


Which in reality is a lie ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ..... for you are expecting him to be ok with something he is umcomfortable with (hence: the existence of this thread) ..... while you aren't willing to compromise yourself because of your own comfort zone.

How can you expect another person to compromise themself ..... if you are unwilling to compromise yourself?

Things stuffed in a box in the garage .... are insignificant in importance.


You make this out as a big deal ..... as if it's something lovingly placed on your bureau for cherishment.



You make this thread in a tone to suggest to the reader that this is something of great importance to you, and this is how they respond .... they think about thier own possessions and how they would view their own right in owning these possessions, and they do so as if the items in reference were valuable to them.

When in reality .... if they thought about that box they've been dragging around that always gets stuck in the attic and never even opened .. if that was the suggestion you set within the mind for the readers (which would have been an accurate one) .... then they would be able to acknowledge that in the whole scheme of things ....... it's not important, in comparison to their relationship with their partner.

It's doubtful to me that that is the truth, SG .. or, if it is the truth, then it is unimportant ...... because if it was important to her then this thread would be about a violation of her rights. when mentioning his snooping, it would have been said in a tone to suggest her outrage.


On the Contrary ... she express no problems at all with this.

When analyzing a person's issue .. it can only be accurately discerned if viewed from within their frame of mind when emotionally expressing. If a responder is viewing from their own frame of mind, as if they had lived through it, then it isn't accurate for person specific to whom you are talking to .. it's only person specific for yourself and how YOU would live through it.


hence: Empathy is quite useless in reality







"he confessed and said repeatedly that he wants everything to be all about him! I don't see how my keeping things makes him think that it's not all about him"

Here ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is where your real problem seems to be, the only one that you need to address and then all this will go away.

You are standing on a ground of "I don't see how" ..... you don't have to see how, or why he feels the way he does ... you only have to be accepting that this is how he feels. There doesn't appear to be any suggestion in that quote that you actually wish for yourself to find a happy medium to include an understanding that the two of you have different feelings ...... there only appears to be resistence in acceptance because you cannot comprehend that he has a way that he feels that differs.

i almost always agree with P-Angel on these things (minus the empathy being useless part; it can be used as a tool to provoke good deeds).

i'm not going to over-analyze and pick apart what the OP wrote but i think u should get rid of those things. all it says to me is "pack rat". don't lie and say it's not about sentimental value. ppl do not keep useless crap around unless it had sentimental value or u have pack rat syndrome. the only things i probably wouldn't get rid of are the clothes/jewelry. clothes have a purpose. jewelry does too, i guess. just make sure ur not sporting ur old engagement ring if u have one.

Lol you shouldn't get defensive with P-Angel she was simply giving you a different perspective, something you were asking for.
I, personally, have never been very materialistic so I don't understand the hording of things such as letters and knickknacks especially from ex's. So I don't really understand your fixations with these items. Can you explain? Because I agree with p on this. Also, this situation calls for a compromise one in which you won't be able to keep these items and be considerate of your bf at the same time. You just have to make a choice what's more important? The past, material items? Or the present and a connection with someone you care about, with potentially new memories to make in the future?

I have letters and cards from exs and I'm not even sure where abouts I have put them but in saying that I wouldn't throw them out and would take offence to anyone suggesting that I need to throw them out.

That decesion is mine and mine alone for whatever reason!!! For someone to find these things I would liken that to them snooping...and ask if they would want me to snoop through their personal belongings! he clearly has trust issues and insecurity too...where will it stop— Will he be reading your text messages soon or just answering the calls so that he knows exactly who you are talking to?

Hi, I'm new here and I've been enjoying people's opinions on this website for quite a while. Thought I would join here today to give out some of my thoughts...

I was very possessive and jealous when I had my first serious relationship (lasted 4 years); I obviously loved him and cared for him very much, well, when I now think about it, it was more like obsessing over him than loving him haha. But at that time considering my maturity and experience level, I thought it was love. Anyway, one day I was going through his stuff (very bad) and found a box of sentimental things he had kept from the past. And I found this one letter from one of his exs - he had told me before that he loved her very much when he dated her; it was the break up letter she wrote to him. I talked to him that night and asked him to tear it off. He couldn't do it. I asked him if he still loved her and that if the letter meant more than me, and he said no. Obviously I couldn't trust him and I think that hurt him a lot. He said if that was what would take to prove he loved me so, he could do it and he did. The funny thing was that I didn't feel better afterwards. I eventually learned from that relationship what my weaknesses were. He was a really good boyfriend but every time we had a trouble, it was because of my jealousy over such small things.



I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's totally okay in my opinion if you don't want to throw away the stuff from your ex. Though I do think it's because they still mean somewhat special to you... but no one can tell you whether that's right or wrong. And your boyfriend doesn't have the "right" to tell you to do such things like that. (Unless if you two will soon get married... IMHO, that's another story since the two will share a life together in the SAME space).

Posted by sweethearts
I have letters and cards from exs and I'm not even sure where abouts I have put them but in saying that I wouldn't throw them out and would take offence to anyone suggesting that I need to throw them out.

That decesion is mine and mine alone for whatever reason!!! For someone to find these things I would liken that to them snooping...and ask if they would want me to snoop through their personal belongings! he clearly has trust issues and insecurity too...where will it stop— Will he be reading your text messages soon or just answering the calls so that he knows exactly who you are talking to?

Second time, this snooping is brought up ....... and again, it's done to suggest that he is in some kind of wrong.


A rational person would think to themselves ........ I'd be more upset about my boyfriend invading my personal space, violating my rights .... then I would about an item stuffed in a box that I haven't seen in a couple years.


This appears not to be an issue at all, she didn't stop at this point in the story to even use caps or italics or quotations or paranthesis or bold or anything to suggest that it bothered her in the least that this man is violating her personal rights as he rummages through her home.


You say the above the same way SG said it .. to make an insinuation that this man has done something wrong, when in reality he hasn't, according to the terms of the relationship she has set with him. If your boyfriend, or parent, or teacher, or friends, etc allows you to treat them a certain way within the particular relationship, then when you treat them within these terms .. it's NOT wrong, no matter how offensive it may seem to an outsider.


In essence, by her not having a concern about it = she doesn't care about her rights.

So, then ..... why this bitch about rights in keeping items?

Doesn't make sense.

"So I don't really understand your fixations with these items. Can you explain?"




I dont' understand fixations with the material, either ......... however, I think maybe it's a confusion in this case .... because this lady thinks if she loses the items, then she loses the past experience associated with it.

Certainly, we can all understand sentimental value, which we all have things we keep for this reason ..... but, not at the expense of using them to be in contest with our partners ... that is kind of like a sin against the meaning of sentiment, in my opinion.




Just seems to be like this was a simple fix.

1. Make it known to him that he isn't at liberty to disrespect her space, and 2. Make it known to him that she is willing to meet him halfway by compromising herself for the sake of happiness.


Instead, it seems to be about ........ I think I'm right, and this is why I think I am, don't you think so?

Being right is useless, if you haven't told yourself the truth about you.

Posted by thetree14
Hi, I'm new here and I've been enjoying people's opinions on this website for quite a while. Thought I would join here today to give out some of my thoughts...

I was very possessive and jealous when I had my first serious relationship (lasted 4 years); I obviously loved him and cared for him very much, well, when I now think about it, it was more like obsessing over him than loving him haha. But at that time considering my maturity and experience level, I thought it was love. Anyway, one day I was going through his stuff (very bad) and found a box of sentimental things he had kept from the past. And I found this one letter from one of his exs - he had told me before that he loved her very much when he dated her; it was the break up letter she wrote to him. I talked to him that night and asked him to tear it off. He couldn't do it. I asked him if he still loved her and that if the letter meant more than me, and he said no. Obviously I couldn't trust him and I think that hurt him a lot. He said if that was what would take to prove he loved me so, he could do it and he did. The funny thing was that I didn't feel better afterwards. I eventually learned from that relationship what my weaknesses were. He was a really good boyfriend but every time we had a trouble, it was because of my jealousy over such small things.



I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's totally okay in my opinion if you don't want to throw away the stuff from your ex. Though I do think it's because they still mean somewhat special to you... but no one can tell you whether that's right or wrong. And your boyfriend doesn't have the "right" to tell you to do such things like that. (Unless if you two will soon get married... IMHO, that's another story since the two will share a life together in the SAME space).

What?


"And your boyfriend doesn't have the "right" to tell you to do such things like that. (Unless if you two will soon get married"



OMfuckingG ................ you think you've grown up, in reality, the message you recieved from yourself, yeah, you misunderstood what you told yourself.

Posted by machiavelli bull
For me it would be no problem.I would throw it like trash,because this is what it really is.I never keep any stuff like this cos it useless,i just close the chapter.Past is past.I dont see point in keeping any sentimental things.This person is gone from your life and you start anew so why keep things which remid you about this person.Its pointless.You have new guy and you should concenrate on him.I hope you dont intend to loose your new guy over such a trivial thing.If i were you i would throw it the minute he asked me about it.No problem.

::::: shakes head :::::


There's no difference from that ^^^^^^^^^^ and from a person wanting to keep them.


For it's then made to be about the ownerhsip of the possessions and not the acknowledgement that the person you are relating to "feels" differently than you do in what is valued.

Posted by WinterBorn

Posted by P-Angel


Being right is useless, if you haven't told yourself the truth about you.

🙂🙂🙂

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The scary part, Winterborn ... is that it seems to be common.

People think they're right, when they haven't even told themselves to think about it yet, if ever ... they simply made the suggestion to themselves and went with the idea of it, and not even concerned if they told themselves the truth, or not.



In this thread for example .... this lady keeps sentimental things and then says she isn't being sentimental ........ wtf?

She lied to herself .... clearly.

Geez...so lucky you never had kids to your ex!!! Imagine what he would wnat you to do with them!!!!! Especially if puting them inthe attic wasn't good enough 😛

Thank you all for your different point of views...I really appreciate them.

P-Angel - What is your problem? Your posts are dripping with stank - not sure why and don't really care. I asked for people's opinions - What is the point in being rude to "this lady"? You state that I am a confused, sentimental, liar, who- is- not- offended- by- my- privacy- being- invaded- because- I- did- not- use- bold/italicized font, and who needs every single member of DXP to agree with me? (Tell me what I would do if nary a person agreed with me since you feel so strongly about this—?) How you could deduce ALL of that from this thread is simply fascinating to me. Wow, just wow. Am I to ASSume that you are someonewho needs to showcase her grandiose attitude for DXP and who DOES NOT read thoroughly before spouting off and ranting? Because that is exactly what you did... ! Since you have expended SO much energy on my thread, I suggest you go back and READ what I actually wrote before you go off. I was actually reading (and I am still interested in your P-O-V) your post for an opposing P-O-V but was distracted by the overall TONE of what you are trying to get across...(Did I use enough bold/caps for ya, P?)
Oh, I STILL don't know what YOU would do if you were in this situation, dear...

I said in my original post that I was not "soooooooooooo sentimental": -
given to or marked by sentiment or sentimentality bathetic: effusively or insincerely emotional; "a bathetic novel"; "maudlin expressions of sympathy"; "mushy effusiveness"; "a schmaltzy song"; "sentimental soap operas"; "slushy poetry"

and I still stand by this as MY feelings about keeping these items are not aligning with the definition of sentimental...or my own definition for that matter.


BTW- Over the weekend I did throw out more cards and letters.

While I am trying to get out of my own head about my issues (THE POINT OF THIS THREAD) and looking for others' perspective (THE POINT OF THIS THREAD) I am still pondering my REAL reasons for keeping these items...I am wondering if I am just simply being stubborn? (Before I moved into my new place, which was recently, I was throwing away things that was given to me from my ex as I came across them. It wasn't until my current beau helped me move, snooped through my things, and made the request that I seem not to want to budge. All before I was throwing things away JUST FINE. I'll figure myself out soon though...LOL.

FYI - I am the type of person

who is capable of thinking for myself. HOWEVER, I can and have changed my mind IF I can see the err of my thinking/ways. Everyone in life seeks advice at one point or another. Perhaps it is to confirm what one is already thinking OR really to get clarification on their thoughts that they know may be flawed.

THANKS again, Guys.

Posted by sagigoat
lol



many do not know what love is. loving self only certainly is fast and easy.

You know, this statement could have another spin on it:

Many people have self-love combined with self-esteem issues and therefore are emotionally unavailable to love another person -

I guess that's why the saying - love yourself before....

You know the rest.

Posted by thetree14
Hi, I'm new here and I've been enjoying people's opinions on this website for quite a while. Thought I would join here today to give out some of my thoughts...

I was very possessive and jealous when I had my first serious relationship (lasted 4 years); I obviously loved him and cared for him very much, well, when I now think about it, it was more like obsessing over him than loving him haha. But at that time considering my maturity and experience level, I thought it was love. Anyway, one day I was going through his stuff (very bad) and found a box of sentimental things he had kept from the past. And I found this one letter from one of his exs - he had told me before that he loved her very much when he dated her; it was the break up letter she wrote to him. I talked to him that night and asked him to tear it off. He couldn't do it. I asked him if he still loved her and that if the letter meant more than me, and he said no. Obviously I couldn't trust him and I think that hurt him a lot. He said if that was what would take to prove he loved me so, he could do it and he did. The funny thing was that I didn't feel better afterwards. I eventually learned from that relationship what my weaknesses were. He was a really good boyfriend but every time we had a trouble, it was because of my jealousy over such small things.



I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's totally okay in my opinion if you don't want to throw away the stuff from your ex. Though I do think it's because they still mean somewhat special to you... but no one can tell you whether that's right or wrong. And your boyfriend doesn't have the "right" to tell you to do such things like that. (Unless if you two will soon get married... IMHO, that's another story since the two will share a life together in the SAME space).

Welcome to DXP! I am new to DXP too (but have been in lurk mode on and off over the years)

I stated in my OP that I would not ask my BF to do something that I an unwilling to do and that I would only ask that he put any items out of my view. He opted to throw letters,cards, etc in the garbage. He also changed his phone number and while I did not want to change mine (didn't see the point) - I did after us being together for 1 year. If we were to marry I'd definitely throw away things as I wouldn't want them in the marriage home...ya know?

Leos tend to be ridiculously jealous. I dated a Leo for five years and he'd have LOVED to pretend I had no past, present, or future that didn't include HIM. He did not want to be reminded that I'd ever known and loved anyone but him. (And yes, he snooped - and overreacted - it was dramatastic for sure.)

Libras tend to be ridiculously sentimental. My Libra still has photos of his ex-gf's on this very computer, the last three of which completely screwed him over in spectacular fashion, one of them dumping him practically at the altar for the guy she'd been cheating with for over a year. That is Libra sentimentality.

If you DON'T find at least a compromise here, this will end badly. I did not compromise (much) with the Leo. I packed away sentimental stuff, but he KNEW it was there, so it wasn't exactly enough for him. I do not HAVE to compromise with Libra, because I do not mind this trait in him. I'm not a jealous person, I do have a bit of sentimentality, and I kind of like him having reminders of the stupid women who broke his heart. (Keep comparing them to me, baby - I'll keep winning 😄)

Leo won't "get over" his jealousy. He won't ever "be okay" with you holding onto special mementos of your past loves. You'll never understand it, because Libras don't burn their bridges and prefer to remain friends with ALL their ex's. (My Libra just burned $ 10 in gas to run $ 20 to the last ex who screwed him over - she's a friend, and she needed to borrow it, and Libra loves to be needed. I'm a Pisces, so I laughed and rode with him when he asked, and played with his leg the whole time!)

You have a choice to make here; is it better to be RIGHT, or to be HAPPY?

Posted by Nefer

Libras tend to be ridiculously sentimental. My Libra still has photos of his ex-gf's on this very computer, the last three of which completely screwed him over in spectacular fashion, one of them dumping him practically at the altar for the guy she'd been cheating with for over a year. That is Libra sentimentality.

Yep. Mine has kept every card anyone has ever given him (stashes them in his filing cabinet; doesn't think anyone knows about it.) It's kind of cute, actually. He doesn't seem like the sentimental type at all.
I've even found he's saved petty notes I've written him - like "hey the dog ate my highlighter and threw up, keep an eye on her." Lol... Wierdo.

Posted by brianafay

Posted by Nefer

Libras tend to be ridiculously sentimental. My Libra still has photos of his ex-gf's on this very computer, the last three of which completely screwed him over in spectacular fashion, one of them dumping him practically at the altar for the guy she'd been cheating with for over a year. That is Libra sentimentality.

Yep. Mine has kept every card anyone has ever given him (stashes them in his filing cabinet; doesn't think anyone knows about it.) It's kind of cute, actually. He doesn't seem like the sentimental type at all.
I've even found he's saved petty notes I've written him - like "hey the dog ate my highlighter and threw up, keep an eye on her." Lol... Wierdo.

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OH! Yours is a Libra then. Fabulous! You're very well-suited, though I'm sure you didn't need ME to tell you that! One of the three heinous tramps is a Sag girl (but not the $ 20 one!) - and she's been sniffing around again because her current bf sucks and she wants MY Libra back after all this time. (HA! As if! I'm not stupid enough to let him go, unlike HER!) I'm almost amused by her txt msgs to MY Libra just YESTERDAY, trying to get him to come "hang out" with her, and carefully avoiding any mention of me (yes, she knows about me.) Almost. Amused.

Libra and I went to his softball game, and then showered and cuddled up on the couch instead - and that's what his txt to her said he'd be doing 🙂 (Libras, though - can't just say, "I have a gf you know. I won't be hanging out with you. Ever. Go back to your bf." because they just don't burn bridges; they stay friends. 😕)

Okay, fine. I'm amused 😄

I know, right?


For 3 years, eons ago, I lived with a Libra ... and he was so mushy when it came to things from his past. It's just a Libra thing .. they are so sentimental.


I really liked that quality in him, and now as I view this thread, I'm thinking .... I love in hindsight, how he wasn't afraid to admit that.

One way or another, Librans are driven by the need to find a position of balance and fairness. They recognise that the search for equality and justice must begin with inward reflection and are more than happy to scrutinize their own emotional behaviour or have it analysed by others. In the search for fairness, they consider carefully that others may hold a different viewpoint than their own, and make an earnest attempt to see things from alternate perspectives. The difficulty then, is how does a seeker of harmony best handle a profusion of conflicting realities? Can they be synthesised into a rounded whole, or will they simply lead to inconstancy and indecision, with a wavering from one opinion to the next? - http://www.skyscript.co.uk/libra.html

Exactly .. which means this is just about the drama.


Something to use to stir the shit.

i usually keep things for a while
cos i'm a leo and sentimental,then when i get serious about someone else out it goes

Posted by FLeo Lives On
I'm a Leo who just broke up with her Fish, and what I did was tear up or cut up every picture that I have with him in it. Also, any thing he's given me, I threw it out. Wasn't anything of financial value -- his money is in his talk and not in his walk -- but still, they were things he gave me. As it stands, my place looks like how we do -- as if *us* never even existed. That's how Pisces (not all) leave a relationship -- like poof, they just disappear as if what they had with you never even existed -- poof.

It wasn't like that when I left the Scorpio. He was a stingebag so he never gave me nuthin so there wasn't anything to get rid of, and all of the photos are in the family photo album because we were married with kids.

What I don't understand is boxing things up and storing them -- sounds like a fire hazard to me, but people do it.

I've never heard the term stingebag - too funny. I don't care for stingy people! or rude people! I digress LOL!
I threw out everything from my ex but I still have my boxes - hair stuff, books, etc that I keep.

Question- If a person is sentimental wouldn't he/she have everything that they had emotional attachments to from exes?
I guess I don't feel like i'm sentimental so much because I don't have things from my other/older past relationships. Just some from my latest ex...I threw most of everything out that he's given to me.

For me, most stuff my exes gave me, I have thrown away except my first love who was a libra, his gifts were the sweetest. My two scorp exes and cancer, all the stuff I have thrown away. If I want to remember someone I would keep some things from them but if he is anything like my last scorp, he wouldn't even exist anywhere in my space ~ I guess it also depends on what went on in the relationship. For the last scorp, it was a really negative one and for the cancer and the other scorp, they didn't really leave a impression.