Getting Aquarius Back?

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I'm a Scorpio man and I dated an Aquarius woman several months ago. We were kind of acquaintances for a while but then over the summer things heated up quick. I had just graduated college and she was gonna be a sophomore. There are a ton of things between us that are similar. We're almost the same person. We also fell very hard for each other. It seemed we were gonna last a while. We spent the whole summer figuring out how we could last since I was going to start grad school in a different state in 6 months. So I planned to stay in the area while we dated to build a relationship. That way when I had to leave we could sort or make it work for a while until I came home. We dated the whole summer and it was fantastic. Once school started again for her though, it only took a week for her to dump me. She said it had nothing to do with me, because I possessed the qualities she wanted in a long term partner, but she wasn't sure if she was ready for a long term relationship. At first I wasn't too upset. Once I found out that almost immediately after breaking up with me she started seeing other guys, my jealous Scorpio nature came out. It was nothing serious on her part for a while, but then she shacked up with two guys for one night stands and then started seeing another guy pretty seriously. With the help of my jealous ways, he was exposed as the womanizing creep that he was and she left him, but I was exposed as being jealous and possessive and I acted very much outside my normal honorable character. However, there wasn't a single day that we didn't talk to each other since we broke up. I moved to start grad school, and we kept talking. She's had some moments with other "hopeful" guys but nothing panned out because they only talk to her for one reason, they want in her pants because of her reputation. She's aware of her reputation and she's honesty working hard to stop her negative tendencies of being promiscuous. She always calls me when she's stressed from school, heartbroken, or upset and I'm always there for her. Again... There hasn't been a day that we didn't talk to each other. She came to visit me for her spring break, (I paid for the tickets), and I spilled my guts and apologized for my insecurities and being jealous. Then a week later she found out something else I did quite a while back and we had a shouting match on the phone over everything. She's expressed that she wants nothing to do with me as a boyfriend and is very pissed at me. Maybe I'm just a
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Posted by Dsepe
We're on speaking terms. As far as grammar... Typing this up on a phone, on a train, isn't "easy." I'm a film student at SC



Well then pardon the interuption. Look your young and she is young. Plus it seems she likes to self destruct. You can watch or you can build the best you and be there when she finally crashes. Either way it seems that you will be waiting a while.

The 'do your own thing' attitude is cool until you want to 'do the us thing?' The ever present turn of events. The me. The you. Or the Us.

Chin up. Focus on your affairs and maybe down the road the stars will align and you two will reunite once more.
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A Scorpio's worst enemy.


Posted by miamivirgo
Posted by Dsepe
We're on speaking terms. As far as grammar... Typing this up on a phone, on a train, isn't "easy." I'm a film student at SC



Well then pardon the interuption. Look your young and she is young. Plus it seems she likes to self destruct. You can watch or you can build the best you and be there when she finally crashes. Either way it seems that you will be waiting a while.

The 'do your own thing' attitude is cool until you want to 'do the us thing?' The ever present turn of events. The me. The you. Or the Us.

Chin up. Focus on your affairs and maybe down the road the stars will align and you two will reunite once more.
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Ok so I'm an aquarius woman, and u need to cut ties of thinking of settling with her. Aquarians a veru stubborn and don't like the feeling of being "clustered" u need to give her space and stop being that "shoulder to cry on" type a guy. She only loose respect for you and she won't be looking to settle with u. Yes u can be there but NOT all the time, u have to set boundries. I like mystry, something or someone who stimulates my mind. I don't like predictable situations nor people.. I get bored. So change it up a lil, she will start wondering what's happening and MAYBE you'll strike her interest. After that its up to u if u can keep up or not. When it comes on to being promiscuous behaviour well don't try to tame her, hopefully she'll change (due to life experinces) when she's ready. U should really ask yourself though if she's really worth it with all of that bad rep she has.
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Posted by Dsepe
I'm a Scorpio man and I dated an Aquarius woman several months ago. We were kind of acquaintances for a while but then over the summer things heated up quick. I had just graduated college and she was gonna be a sophomore. There are a ton of things between us that are similar. We're almost the same person. We also fell very hard for each other. It seemed we were gonna last a while. We spent the whole summer figuring out how we could last since I was going to start grad school in a different state in 6 months. So I planned to stay in the area while we dated to build a relationship. That way when I had to leave we could sort or make it work for a while until I came home. We dated the whole summer and it was fantastic. Once school started again for her though, it only took a week for her to dump me. She said it had nothing to do with me, because I possessed the qualities she wanted in a long term partner, but she wasn't sure if she was ready for a long term relationship. At first I wasn't too upset. Once I found out that almost immediately after breaking up with me she started seeing other guys, my jealous Scorpio nature came out. It was nothing serious on her part for a while, but then she shacked up with two guys for one night stands and then started seeing another guy pretty seriously. With the help of my jealous ways, he was exposed as the womanizing creep that he was and she left him, but I was exposed as being jealous and possessive and I acted very much outside my normal honorable character. However, there wasn't a single day that we didn't talk to each other since we broke up. I moved to start grad school, and we kept talking. She's had some moments with other "hopeful" guys but nothing panned out because they only talk to her for one reason, they want in her pants because of her reputation. She's aware of her reputation and she's honesty working hard to stop her negative tendencies of being promiscuous. She always calls me when she's stressed from school, heartbroken, or upset and I'm always there for her. Again... There hasn't been a day that we didn't talk to each other. She came to visit me for her spring break, (I paid for the tickets), and I spilled my guts and apologized for my insecurities and being jealous. Then a week later she found out something else I did quite a while back and we had a shouting match on the phone over everything. She's exp
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/cut off...

well this is what i posted:

i believe P. maybe right. she said she's not interested anymore. But then WHY would you want to be with a girl who is promiscuous and doesn't care about her morals?

and another thing, someone said, if she's not "connected" to you in that karmic way --that nothing and no one can break, even death, then i dont see why you are even bothering to care.

it is rather suspicious at your intentions to an immoral woman who doesn't care about her reputation.
most men of good morals would be disgusted.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Mind games. Cut your losses now. You've been put in the weird Zone. Aquas have a destabilizing effect on scorp because they seem rational but when analyzed later you realize it felt unstable because none of it really made sense. Go back and read what you wrote. None of that makes sense does it? Yet while you are going through it somehow it seems to fit together. It's that mind magic these folks possess that will drive you up the wall eventually. Some signs can work it.

Or do what you want and don't get too tied to the outcome. But that's pretty much impossible for Scorpio. And because you are fixed you'll go with it for quite some time. Sorry man. I feel ya.

I'm in retrospect mode with an aqua ex and can see clearly that 90% of our relationship was pretty freaking superficial. At the time that mind magic made me think it was deepish. It wasn't. Puddle like really. Glad I moved on...

Just my experience.

You know, IS, just because your relationship with YOUR aqua, whoever he is, was terrible and wasteful, doesn't mean all relationships with people born under this sun sign would be the same to SOME men or women. I know it's different between male aqua/female scorp, but just because you felt nothing deep with your ex, doesn't mean some relationships that are very good and consistent, would even have any similarities with yours. It's good you WARN people, but it is also still a strong harbouring deep resentful energy from you.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Lid. Does what that aqua is doing make sense to you?
She dated the guy all summer and cut him off a week after he left with no problem. :/. Does that sound like a deep connection?
He is rationalizing what she's doing. He thought there was a deep connection. Obviously not. You see this all the time between scorp aqua. All the time. But of course there are exceptions to the rules. And you and your hubby seem very happy.
By and large it's not a great pairing. So what?Like I said. I've spent considerable time looking back to gain lessons. I don't honestly see that aqua ex and I had a deep connection. It is what it is. Maybe this guy could use insight?


I'll agree with you, because I was ALSO with an aqua ex, and believe me it was HORRIBLE. but i've moved on, and maybe because my ex is passed on now, but yes, the connection between me and my aqua ex was NOT deep at all. It was possessive, yes... check. it was traditional. yes. it was male/female dynamic. But it was not deep, i never felt "home" with him, not in the way with my husband ever. No man ever did. It could be because of my ex's placements AND his upbringing. Who knows. But i believe you, if there was nothing there, there was nothing there. Plus, what the OP wrote, i read it. It sounds as if he either wants to "save" her OR getting revenge...but what is he trying to save? she sounds like she's on a road to destruction. Already promiscuous early in life. Honestly, i don't think he wants revenge at all. Because the best revenge is already --- she did on her own, she sounds like she self-sabotages herself and with that kind of mentality, no one can save her. She'll be the used up rag by the time she's 30.
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plus, in astrology i read somewhere that aqua is in virgo's 6th house....NOTORIOUS for commitment PHOBIC.

many aquarians are very commitment-phobic, very similar to virgo. and similar to sagittarius.

but differences, sagittarius = high idealization of what they want out of a person, virgo = they too have high ideals, but it's disguised as nitpicky, and need perfection (while in truth, perfection is not what they really want, because by then, there's NOTHING to fix), and then there's aquarius...

many seem to be born with the fact that they are lost in the world and to be ALONE, loner-quality (saturn)



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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Mind games. Cut your losses now. You've been put in the weird Zone. Aquas have a destabilizing effect on scorp because they seem rational but when analyzed later you realize it felt unstable because none of it really made sense. Go back and read what you wrote. None of that makes sense does it? Yet while you are going through it somehow it seems to fit together. It's that mind magic these folks possess that will drive you up the wall eventually. Some signs can work it.

Or do what you want and don't get too tied to the outcome. But that's pretty much impossible for Scorpio. And because you are fixed you'll go with it for quite some time. Sorry man. I feel ya.

I'm in retrospect mode with an aqua ex and can see clearly that 90% of our relationship was pretty freaking superficial. At the time that mind magic made me think it was deepish. It wasn't. Puddle like really. Glad I moved on...

Just my experience.




I feel the love
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IS & lisabethur8

All good input. Yes, while in it, it seems rational. Looking back, yes it's been a bad situation for me. Personally I don't care. I'm confident in who I am and what I'm doing that I have no problem being there if and when she wakes up. When Scorps have their mind set on something they don't quit. Your dialogue will not fall on deaf ears/blind eyes... I will be vigilant moving forward - as I should have been from the start - and guard myself. She is truly trying hard and making progress with herself and changing her ways. As with a lot of things in life, timing is everything.

Appreciated! Always open to more
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A few things:

1. She friend-zoned you. Idc what she "told" you. Her lack of commitment to you was a direct reflection of how she really felt about you, hence the reason she leans on you & calls you to complain about everything like "friends" do. Stop maximizing her words & minimizing her actions

2. She's dating around & sleeping with other guys either b/c she didn't feel as strongly about you as she swore she did, or b/c her need to be single, loose & explore her options overpowered & outweighed any feelings she may have had towards you. Men do this sh***t to women all the time. 1 minute they want to be a woman's knight in shining armor. The next minute they want to be swingers lol

3. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship with you. Translation ---> I don't want to be with YOU specifically. If she was closed-minded to relationships as a whole, she wouldn't be seeking commitment or beneath the surface relations with other men. It's no coincidence that she only pumps the brakes with you, but not other men. You might want to start considering that she isn't that into you romantically, but just doesn't have the courage or heart to tell you that.

4. Just let it go. She doesn't want to be with you. The issue isn't that you were too possessive or jealous AFTER the fact. Remember there was a time before all of that started happening that she was slowly but surely fading away. There's something about you that she saw beforehand that she either didn't like or felt would make you better as a friend than boyfriend.

5. This is about your ego. This about you not wanting to accept rejection. She's told you & shown you that she's not interested in you in the way you want her to be. Given that, while it may be understandable that you still care about her & secretly still want her romantically, it doesn't make sense however for you to continue chasing someone who's shown you a million times that they don't want to be caught.

This isn't some complex puzzle that needs to be solved. She's given you the answers to all of your questions through both her words & actions. You just don't want to accept that. At this point, if you were to get her back, it'd be b/c of you pressuring her or making a relationship with you your idea instead of HER idea.