How do I tell her I like her more than a friend?

I've already made a topic about this. I have this girl friend I like and I would like to pursue something more with her. The people I talk to on a regular basis seem to think she likes me and/or I have a chance so I am going to tell her how I feel about her. I wanted to ask if you guys could help with that. I was thinking about sending her a text or writing a letter saying "I know we are friends now, but I would like to explore something more with you." That's just a brief summary but do you guys have any other ideas?

Any advice is greatly appreciated and I will happily answer any questions you have about what's going on.

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I will tell her in person. Just wait for the right moment when you are alone and confess. Good luck 😊👍🏻

Posted by shakedown
I would not express those feelings in a text. I would tell her in person. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. I've never been too confident so it's gonna be very hard to tell her this.

Posted by Smidge
" I like you more than a friend"

Yeah, that kinda was the just of what I was going to say.

Posted by pisceswoman123
I will tell her in person. Just wait for the right moment when you are alone and confess. Good luck 😊👍🏻

Yea. I'm not to confident so I will have to really buck up the courage. I go to school with her so I get a lot of time between us but there are other floating around. That a good idea to do it then?

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Posted by shakedown
I would not express those feelings in a text. I would tell her in person. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. I've never been too confident so it's gonna be very hard to tell her this.

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is it not possible to behave somehow romantically? I mean, do something instead of texting or telling her.... grab her and kiss her.... confidence is a key in getting out of the "friend zone" (what an idiotic expression, who invented it?? 🙂 🙂 )

I think, the best way is to go out with your friends group, have some drinks, maybe dance 🙂 and naturally and organically start to hug and kiss...

Its nothing natural or organical about texting: I like you .... do you like me? 🙂

just my 2 cents

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Posted by shakedown
I would not express those feelings in a text. I would tell her in person. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. I've never been too confident so it's gonna be very hard to tell her this.

is it not possible to behave somehow romantically? I mean, do something instead of texting or telling her.... grab her and kiss her.... confidence is a key in getting out of the "friend zone" (what an idiotic expression, who invented it?? 🙂 🙂 )

I think, the best way is to go out with your friends group, have some drinks, maybe dance 🙂 and naturally and organically start to hug and kiss...

Its nothing natural or organical about texting: I like you .... do you like me? 🙂

just my 2 cents

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I would really enjoy being romantic about it. I really would. I've more or less decide form reading these posts that I should tell her face to face but the romance aspect isn't exactly easy. I would really like to get touchy with her, but she doesn't even let her mother touch her. The only person she will allow to hug her is her dad, which makes it really difficult to be romantic.

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Posted by pisceswoman123
I will tell her in person. Just wait for the right moment when you are alone and confess. Good luck 😊👍🏻

Yea. I'm not to confident so I will have to really buck up the courage. I go to school with her so I get a lot of time between us but there are other floating around. That a good idea to do it then?

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You just have to wait for the right moment.😊

Best when you are both alone.

Just show it to her if you find difficult to tell her. Do little extra things for her so she starts to wonder... then if you see that she is responding well, it will be much easier to tell her.

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Posted by shakedown
I would not express those feelings in a text. I would tell her in person. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. I've never been too confident so it's gonna be very hard to tell her this.

Omg... I know if a guy would feel this way about me. Especially a friend. I would want to know.

And I think it is so sweet. I'm crossing my fingers for you.

Nothing wrong with a text. I won't even tell you not to, I know how difficult that step could be.

But do keep in mind. Texts aren't always the greatest things. She could easily misunderstand what is going on. I understand this may be scary.

But.... Just remember if you tell her this in text oh my and she reads it and doesn't respond. Not necessarily for a bad reason but perhaps she needs to think... Then you have to wait. And that my friend is gonna be the longest silence ever! I can tell you that

I like a letter though. A letter is always good!! If.. . You do it correctly and clearly. No vague stuff. Super romantic.... Got that whole poldark vibe going on lol

So to narrow it done: either tell her in person or a letter... That's my advice!

Now gooooo get her. You will never know.

This way, either you get the girl or you can start making room for someone who does deserve you!!!

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Any idea on how I should do the letter, just in case I need a backup in case I chicken out? I was going to do it initially but I think I'm going to write a letter to keep as a backup.

I like the letter more than the text

I would do a letter myself (in fact, I did it several times, when I was a teen and early 20s)

But, the waiting for some sort of reply can be very exhausting emotionally...

and to meet in person after the letter or text can be tricky...

that is why the best to do something

maybe do some activity (some sport or dance) where you have to touch each other naturally.... and it would go from that organically

Posted by Ownard
I've already made a topic about this. I have this girl friend I like and I would like to pursue something more with her. The people I talk to on a regular basis seem to think she likes me and/or I have a chance so I am going to tell her how I feel about her. I wanted to ask if you guys could help with that. I was thinking about sending her a text or writing a letter saying "I know we are friends now, but I would like to explore something more with you." That's just a brief summary but do you guys have any other ideas?

Any advice is greatly appreciated and I will happily answer any questions you have about what's going on.

Dude, just ask her out face to face. Texting or sending a letter just shows you don't have the courage to ask her out in person. Sure writing letters is a lost art from a bygone era, but so is the art of conversation. You can't replace an honest in person interaction.

Also think about it, if you're going to ask her out via text, it would be safe for her to assume that's how you might break up with her too. It's always best to do these things in person.

A leap of faith man... a leap of faith! 🙌

Don't live a life filled with regrets (wondering what could have been "if...")

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Posted by Ownard
I've already made a topic about this. I have this girl friend I like and I would like to pursue something more with her. The people I talk to on a regular basis seem to think she likes me and/or I have a chance so I am going to tell her how I feel about her. I wanted to ask if you guys could help with that. I was thinking about sending her a text or writing a letter saying "I know we are friends now, but I would like to explore something more with you." That's just a brief summary but do you guys have any other ideas?

Any advice is greatly appreciated and I will happily answer any questions you have about what's going on.

Dude, just ask her out face to face. Texting or sending a letter just shows you don't have the courage to ask her out in person. Sure writing letters is a lost art from a bygone era, but so is the art of conversation. You can't replace an honest in person interaction.

Also think about it, if you're going to ask her out via text, it would be safe for her to assume that's how you might break up with her too. It's always best to do these things in person.

oehhh that last one is a good one. didnt think about that one!

yeah ....no text....althought as a woman i gotta say....thats not what i would think to be honest

im a social person and trust me....i am all about in person

however...life really isnt that black and white

exactly because of this society , even if we dont want to, we are forced to use those phones. dont tell me its not so cause it is!!lol 😉

so....i am warming up to text but yeah....if you do see her .....in person or the letter......

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These are concerns that have been mentioned by female friends in the past. I've also known women who've laughed off the written letter because they felt it was too cheesy, so it all depends on a woman's personal taste. I just know that women are more surprised by a personal interaction nowadays since communication can be so impersonal.

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Posted by shakedown
I would not express those feelings in a text. I would tell her in person. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. I've never been too confident so it's gonna be very hard to tell her this.

is it not possible to behave somehow romantically? I mean, do something instead of texting or telling her.... grab her and kiss her.... confidence is a key in getting out of the "friend zone" (what an idiotic expression, who invented it?? 🙂 🙂 )

I think, the best way is to go out with your friends group, have some drinks, maybe dance 🙂 and naturally and organically start to hug and kiss...

Its nothing natural or organical about texting: I like you .... do you like me? 🙂

just my 2 cents

I would really enjoy being romantic about it. I really would. I've more or less decide form reading these posts that I should tell her face to face but the romance aspect isn't exactly easy. I would really like to get touchy with her, but she doesn't even let her mother touch her. The only person she will allow to hug her is her dad, which makes it really difficult to be romantic.

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That sounds complicated, like daddy issues complicated. I don't know if you want that in the long run, but then again, you sound young. Carpe diem.

Just tell her straight up how you feel, but be prepared for awkwardness if it doesn't work out. It is what it is but the longer you wait, the less successful you'll be.

Good luck, sir.