My boyfriend still communicates with ex

What should i do?

When you started dating this shouldn't have been a secret otherwise I have to assume if you knew you would've spoke up rather than get into a relationship and make it an issue now. So I guess I can assume that he hid communicating with the ex from you which means it needs to be addressed in a way where you are simply telling him, I don't understand what's logical reason you would be in contact with your ex and why was this a secret and it needs to stop. She needs to respect he has moved on and there shouldn't be a reason for her to want to still be in contact with him unless she is just desperate.

I say that because my man's ex is so I know it is possible to have a desperate ex but he needs to know entertaining her will cost him his relationship. Get straight to the point with it.

I can understand caring about someone every relationship doesn't end badly to the point where no care is there I guess.

Maybe I am speaking from my bias experience where my guys ex is simply just desperate and wants to remain relevant for whatever reason.

The real question is, who is checking for who and why?

I don’t think it means anything been friends with your ex. Sometimes you have history that is important. But for that it needs to be very open and the new partner to become a friend.

idk I just think and ex is an ex for a reason never mind the history if it is all that important keep it and rekindle the flames but don't move on and expect someone to be okay with you communicating with someone you shared an emotional intimate bond with for some time. Nobody has to try and figure out a way to feel okay about that or even understand it.

Basically it's okay to be friends with an ex IF there are no feelings there still.

If there are still feelings hanging around, that's not cool.

You have to ask him and he has to respond in a mature way, acknowledging how it's making you feel rather than denying doing anything wrong and getting defensive right away.

I am still friends with two exes but there are no longer romantic feelings there and I'm open with all of my new partners about it.

Posted by aquarius_man
i was in contact with my ex years after we broke up. none of her lovers would understand why. nor mine. but one day, i had to stop altogether because no woman wouldve settled for a man who still cared about his ex.

but sometimes it's just care, you shouldn't worry. friendship. sometimes, though...lingering feelings.

what's his sign?

Posted by Gemini_gemini

Posted by aquarius_man
i was in contact with my ex years after we broke up. none of her lovers would understand why. nor mine. but one day, i had to stop altogether because no woman wouldve settled for a man who still cared about his ex.

but sometimes it's just care, you shouldn't worry. friendship. sometimes, though...lingering feelings.

what's his sign?

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Posted by Gemini_gemini

Posted by Gemini_gemini

Posted by aquarius_man
i was in contact with my ex years after we broke up. none of her lovers would understand why. nor mine. but one day, i had to stop altogether because no woman wouldve settled for a man who still cared about his ex.

but sometimes it's just care, you shouldn't worry. friendship. sometimes, though...lingering feelings.

what's his sign?

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Posted by Gemini_gemini

Posted by Gemini_gemini

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Posted by aquarius_man
i was in contact with my ex years after we broke up. none of her lovers would understand why. nor mine. but one day, i had to stop altogether because no woman wouldve settled for a man who still cared about his ex.

but sometimes it's just care, you shouldn't worry. friendship. sometimes, though...lingering feelings.

what's his sign?

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He is a virgo😩

I personally never thought being friend with exes would be a problem coz I genuinely do feel one can be over their exes. But oh well! You never know. Just because you can be over your ex doesn't mean the other person can be as well.People going back to their exes has always been my biggest nightmare. So you should make sure that there are no feelings left while in the dating (or whatever you call the pre-relationship) phase itself. There will always be hints... which we of course choose to happily ignore *facepalm*

I got this passage in my test yesterday...n I laughed n laughed n laughed...at myself basically 😂

The last 3 lines sums it all up

" Has the person you're dating fully closed the *romantic/ need for attention door with the ex, or has that door been left slightly ajar? Whom you seek out is your choice, but if you breathe even the slightest whiff of unfinished business with his ex, you will make your life easier by heading towards the nearest exit sign."