How do you handle being stood-up?

A guy I've been dating for almost a year next month asked me out for a lunch date

Lunch came, no show, no call, no text, no email

I called him today and asked "what happened, I though we were scheduled for lunch yesterday"

His reason was due to an unforeseen emergency at work and he lost focus an forgot to call

He asked if we could do something tomorrow and I declined his offer

Honestly, I'm an understanding person, things happen. But he didn't even attempt to call after the emergency was over

If I give him another chance I feel like it'll send a message to him that his behavior is acceptable and that he can walk over me

Advice needed, thanks

If it were a new relationship it would be over. I'd be mad but a year is significant, talk it out.

Has he done it before?

It's been like a year- maybe something really did come up, and he forget.

Posted by VenusAquarius
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Don't be shy...

Posted by urbansophisticate
A guy I've been dating for almost a year next month asked me out for a lunch date

Lunch came, no show, no call, no text, no email

I called him today and asked "what happened, I though we were scheduled for lunch yesterday"

His reason was due to an unforeseen emergency at work and he lost focus an forgot to call

He asked if we could do something tomorrow and I declined his offer

Honestly, I'm an understanding person, things happen. But he didn't even attempt to call after the emergency was over

If I give him another chance I feel like it'll send a message to him that his behavior is acceptable and that he can walk over me

Advice needed, thanks

Lol sorry to say I smell bull I used to do shit like that lame excuse.

OP

You don't need advice-- you're absolutely correct.



(Yay)

Breaking relationships over lunch that didn't happen—?

That must be the stupidest thing I've heard yet in here...

Posted by BuffaloBills28
kick his arse

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I so wanted to do this to this one guy, the only guy, who did this to me except it was in the beginning...not a yr. Glad he showed me his real self in the beginning.

If you're not interested or have lots of options around, the least you can do is not lead someone on by asking them out for lunch and then blowing them off.....stupid moron!

Posted by Gob_Shite
Okay, since you never got back to me, I decided to have a look through your posting history.

So, you're a Cancer and he's a Virgo. Him being a Virgo was actually my worst fear...

If I were you, I wouldn't take it personally. I'm not saying it's okay but this is how Virgos can be. However, the big question is whether you can tolerate this occurring again (and, believe me, it WILL happen again).

Communication is my biggest gripe with Virgos. I find that, at the beginning of any relationship, they're usually reliable. But once that relationship has been established, and they start feeling comfortable within the relationship, they become complacent (especially regarding communication). The next thing you know, it feels like they've thrown manners and consideration out of the window, and it's frigging frustrating.

Sometimes, they're oblivious to it; sometimes, they feel bad about what they've done. I've heard various explanations but none of them wash with me - if you don't want to piss someone off, through non-communication, communicate!

In summary, he wasn't intentionally hurting you - it's just typical Virgo douche behaviour...

Wrong. Cancer & Aries

Posted by Gob_Shite

Posted by urbansophisticate

Posted by Gob_Shite
Okay, since you never got back to me, I decided to have a look through your posting history.

So, you're a Cancer and he's a Virgo. Him being a Virgo was actually my worst fear...

If I were you, I wouldn't take it personally. I'm not saying it's okay but this is how Virgos can be. However, the big question is whether you can tolerate this occurring again (and, believe me, it WILL happen again).

Communication is my biggest gripe with Virgos. I find that, at the beginning of any relationship, they're usually reliable. But once that relationship has been established, and they start feeling comfortable within the relationship, they become complacent (especially regarding communication). The next thing you know, it feels like they've thrown manners and consideration out of the window, and it's frigging frustrating.

Sometimes, they're oblivious to it; sometimes, they feel bad about what they've done. I've heard various explanations but none of them wash with me - if you don't want to piss someone off, through non-communication, communicate!

In summary, he wasn't intentionally hurting you - it's just typical Virgo douche behaviour...

Wrong. Cancer & Aries

My bad. I guess you discussing a Virgo love interest, roughly five months ago, threw me off.

Wait! You were seeing the Aries as well? Hmmm...

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No. Stay on topic.

Posted by Gob_Shite

Posted by urbansophisticate

Posted by Gob_Shite

Posted by urbansophisticate

Posted by Gob_Shite
Okay, since you never got back to me, I decided to have a look through your posting history.

So, you're a Cancer and he's a Virgo. Him being a Virgo was actually my worst fear...

If I were you, I wouldn't take it personally. I'm not saying it's okay but this is how Virgos can be. However, the big question is whether you can tolerate this occurring again (and, believe me, it WILL happen again).

Communication is my biggest gripe with Virgos. I find that, at the beginning of any relationship, they're usually reliable. But once that relationship has been established, and they start feeling comfortable within the relationship, they become complacent (especially regarding communication). The next thing you know, it feels like they've thrown manners and consideration out of the window, and it's frigging frustrating.

Sometimes, they're oblivious to it; sometimes, they feel bad about what they've done. I've heard various explanations but none of them wash with me - if you don't want to piss someone off, through non-communication, communicate!

In summary, he wasn't intentionally hurting you - it's just typical Virgo douche behaviour...

Wrong. Cancer & Aries

My bad. I guess you discussing a Virgo love interest, roughly five months ago, threw me off.

Wait! You were seeing the Aries as well? Hmmm...

No. Stay on topic.

Oh, skeletons in the closet? Maybe your behaviour is also 'unacceptable'...

Posted by urbansophisticate
Met a Virgo man. We broke the ice by having a wide dialogue of discussions at his place for the first date. Mostly philosophy, history and religion. Not the typical first date I was used to but after experiencing it with him, I was fond of the change, quite more than the romantic ones I'm accustomed to.

We have similar taste in music and I think we really liked that about each other. I think he was more shocked than me bc of our difference in age. He's 35 and I'm 26.

I like Hall and Oates...Anita Baker...etc and to him, it seemed refreshing to enjoy similarities with a woman, especially a younger one.

Lots of kisses, cuddles, watching documentaries as we ate fruit bc he hates unhealthy foods went on throughout the entire first date. I stayed the night. I slept great, he kept me near him the entire night.

Quite robotic in everything he does. He kept wiping down the counter with antibacterial wipes. Very neat and clean. Beard was even well kept. I did compliment him on it a few times.

He watches me a lot. He likes to criticize me, almost like he's condemning me. I reply back with a nod or laugh or sometimes a "f-you" and he says he likes that I don't take things personal and I'm open minded.

Also, this fact may be important later. He invited me over again the next day after the first night went well. We had sex and the next day.

He seemed to remain in touch so I find him to be a gentleman and didn't use me for sex. Well I guess he couldn't use me since I wanted it just as much as he did. However, he didn't walk out of my life and leave me wondering, ladies you know! Any who I don't know where Im going with this but I guess I wanted to write on the history walls of Virgo men because he's the first one I got to experience.

He is very witty with the things he says. He makes me think and he voluntarily challenges the way I think.

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Now heres something you guys can shed light upon for me...



I am a Cancer female. Hence, I'm emotional but I've evolved to let them unravel at the right times.

With this Virgo male, he's attentive in the right ways for me but I want to be attentive to him as well. Well Virgo's don't like revealing their emotions often, right?
well of course not this soon bc I just met the fella on Saturday (5 days ago) so....

So how do I allow him to know, are my actions more weighed on than my words bc I like to dress up my wording to express myself, and I'd hate to scare the virgin.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/first-time-experience-and-unbiased-reaction-to-the-virgo-male-behaviors-quick-q-a-6468594/

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No skeletons and horoscopes shouldnt be a factor here.

Wow, I just went through this recently with a Cappy guy... He offered to cook me dinner at his place and then a few days later ( on said day) I text him in the afternoon to sake of we are still on for dinner and he gives me some lame excuse that he may not be able to but will keep my posted.

Ok, so I don't hear from him until the next day when he sees me at work mid afternoon and texts me " why you look upset?" I mean really? I asked him what happened the other night and it's like oh I passed out, I forgot... Blah blah blah... So yeah I gave him the cold shoulder at work and made him apologize a few times. I'm not falling for that BS he is dispicable to me right now and I see now he did me a favor by cancelling dinner.