I told her she was going too fast.

Now she won't text me back. Guess that was a bad move. I'm just so sick of these relationships where new people want go so fast out of fear of wasting time. It's impossible for me to develop the trust and respect required to actually commit. Most people don't understand this. It happens to me all the time. I have sex way to quick in the relationship, and they fall in love. Calling me big man, godly, and all this other stuff just makes me sick and want to run. I wish this was bragging and fake, but it's not. Sex has ruined every one of my relationships. It's a curse more the anything. The week went fine till she started asking me a bunch of questions about myself. Like she expected me to be some magical human perfect in every department. I'm just a normal person, and like normal things. My dates always blow my ego up to a point it's not even truly me anymore. She is an Aries with Taurus moon, I'm a Leo with Scorpio moon. I just want things to just happen over time, she wants things to instantly happen. I probably blew it by saying how I truly feel. Every human always wants to pry me for information, and when I finally crack they can't take what I have to say. I can't find a woman to put effort and time into, just ones who either give me absolutely nothing, or 100% of them. Idk what's worse a person that gives you nothing, or a person who bows down to you for the wrong reasons. Why can't there every be a middle in my life? There is no balance, just nothing or chaos.

I understand what you're saying somewhat.

You did the right thing. Never compromise who you are or second guess who you're becoming.

I doubt it's completely over that quickly. You've told her how you feel, now it's her turn to process what you've said...surely.

Anyone worth their salt will take on board your feelings on the matter. And appreciate the depth of your feelings and potential for growth you've honestly offered.

At least you didn't play her fast and footloose for a quick lay. She might appreciate that with a little thought and space. 🙂 I hope so 🤗

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Now she won't text me back. Guess that was a bad move. I'm just so sick of these relationships where new people want go so fast out of fear of wasting time. It's impossible for me to develop the trust and respect required to actually commit. Most people don't understand this. It happens to me all the time. I have sex way to quick in the relationship, and they fall in love. Calling me big man, godly, and all this other stuff just makes me sick and want to run. I wish this was bragging and fake, but it's not. Sex has ruined every one of my relationships. It's a curse more the anything. The week went fine till she started asking me a bunch of questions about myself. Like she expected me to be some magical human perfect in every department. I'm just a normal person, and like normal things. My dates always blow my ego up to a point it's not even truly me anymore. She is an Aries with Taurus moon, I'm a Leo with Scorpio moon. I just want things to just happen over time, she wants things to instantly happen. I probably blew it by saying how I truly feel. Every human always wants to pry me for information, and when I finally crack they can't take what I have to say. I can't find a woman to put effort and time into, just ones who either give me absolutely nothing, or 100% of them. Idk what's worse a person that gives you nothing, or a person who bows down to you for the wrong reasons. Why can't there every be a middle in my life? There is no balance, just nothing or chaos.

Do you know her Venus and Mars?

A Leo male is the quintessential match for an Aries female.

You both have powerful complimentary Sun positions; however, your moon is in fall and her moon is exalted. Her Sun and Moon are exalted.

Her she is seeing and being attracted to the bright brilliant Leo Sun (as that is the synastry energy) to later be exposed to a dark secretive moon.... Sun square Moon.

I dated a Leo with a Scorpio Moon. He was seriously fixed: Leo Sun, Scorpio Moon, Venus Leo, Mars Taurus.... lawd, squares all over the place.

A millionaire who never married... he said I was he last hope. Poor Lion

He moved way too fast... didn't want me to know the darkside. Wouldn't answer questions about himself.

yeah bud. i feel ya. the strive for reciprocity seems unending when really its just all about finding someone that matches your pace, or can at least objectively respects it. i dont think it was a bad idea to tell her how you felt bc, hell, that's you. you dont need to mask your true feelings for fear of hurting hers (which im sure is difficult for you). above all you want someone who loves and respects you for these principles and that will bring the intense kind of foundational love you are actually wanting. i dont think its wrong to give 100% of ourselves but its good to be discerning in how quickly we get there. time tells a lot about someone so its only logical that we take this time to get to really decide if we want to coexist on a more frequent and permanent basis. Taurus venus opinion.

I was with a moon in Scorpio for five years. He was closed off and rarely opened up to me. I found it incredibly challenging, especially as I have very emotionally open relationships with my family and friends and also as I am very open myself

She probably has a venus aries.

Damned aries women.

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Posted by Ram416
She probably has a venus aries.

Damned aries women.

We're all damned. 😭

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You two can speak for yourselves. I am blessed!

When I first saw your face, I knew that I could not hesitate

You said baby don't go too fast, if we do then it may not last

Time went on and I waited for you, I didn't know what else I could do

I thought that we'd always be together, you said "hold on, it just gets better"

Only not forever, and I believed you

I kept holding on

You think that I could never leave you

You think I'm not that strong, you're wrong

Love won't wait, forever and a day

Love was living a year and now

Don't ask me how I know

Love takes time, but you've been taking too long

Time never waited for anyone

Don't wait too long or I'll be gone

Don't be too long, I'll be gone

I've noticed a lot of people want things there way when dating someone new. There's less compromise on one end and the other person feels like they have to work harder to impress/win the other person over. It's rather annoying to be the second person...

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Posted by Ram416
She probably has a venus aries.

Damned aries women.

We're all damned. 😭

You two can speak for yourselves. I am blessed!

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Lol I was being facetious.

If your intention is to go slow, how do you communicate that? I don't think the problem is that women necessarily want to move fast, I think it's about mixed signals, men not knowing what they want, and if they do, not expressing it.

@Soul

Often when sex becomes the focus too soon, the relationship can burn out. I have promised myself next time (if i choose one that is lol), i will not have sex with the guy too quickly as i have in the past. It takes some mystery away, it has become too important for me, whereas there is so much more to be gained from getting to know someone first

When i see people here focusing on sex, sex, sex, it makes me cringe some....there is an element of avoidance of something deeper, if you get my drift

🙂

“Patience is power.

Patience is not an absence of action;

rather it is "timing"

it waits on the right time to act,

for the right principles

and in the right way.”

Well. that's the point about men, that's not how it works. It always comes back to wanting to have your cake and eat it..nobody can have their way all the time.

Go women, go!!!! "It's not me, it's you!"

Another thing.....🙂

When women (not all, but most i have met) have sex with a man, especially if it is more than once, they start to connect on an emotional level. I think it would be good for men to realize this....we are not (generally speaking) able to disconnect from someone when we have been so deeply intimate with them

One reason i have never done the one night stand/fwb thing (despite thinking it is tacky) is because i am afraid that when i physically let a man inside of me, i am also letting him in on a much deeper level. To be fair, i know there are men out there that also feel this way....i am just waiting to hear more about them. To date, i am bored with the *brain in pants* ... after a while it becomes a little tired

I guess, that is why, for some men, prostitutes are handy and less hassle

Thanks everyone. I honestly don't even know why I posted this last night. I should be more considerate and keep this to myself, but there is some really solid advice and opinions here.

The whole sex thing was my fault. I won't go into deep details, but to make a long story short I unintentionally white knighted this person. I don't want to explain exactly how out of respect to her, and the situation was so extreme people likely won't believe it. Or at the least beleave I'm crazy enough to get involved. Anyway I went with her to a party because she wanted me around to protect her from other guys, I wasn't thinking anything sexual. Then we got really drunk and things happened. The whole thing is just chaos. Firstly she lives with a male who she dated in the past, and refuses to move away. I'd have to live with that fact. She's also like super sexual. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to understand I'm setting myself up for something insane. Who knows what really happened to her ex fiance..

What the fuck am I doing?

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Posted by Soul
Thanks everyone. I honestly don't even know why I posted this last night. I should be more considerate and keep this to myself, but there is some really solid advice and opinions here.

The whole sex thing was my fault. I won't go into deep details, but to make a long story short I unintentionally white knighted this person. I don't want to explain exactly how out of respect to her, and the situation was so extreme people likely won't believe it. Or at the least beleave I'm crazy enough to get involved. Anyway I went with her to a party because she wanted me around to protect her from other guys, I wasn't thinking anything sexual. Then we got really drunk and things happened. The whole thing is just chaos. Firstly she lives with a male who she dated in the past, and refuses to move away. I'd have to live with that fact. She's also like super sexual. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to understand I'm setting myself up for something insane. Who knows what really happened to her ex fiance..

What the fuck am I doing?

you're being the usual scorpio moon douche bag

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How? Because I'm cautious? I just like going a bit slower. Too much too fast isn't good for anyone. I like to have things to achieve and earn from people.

Internally I haven't made any true opinion yet. I just feel like I've done something wrong or fucked up. Try living that life. When things go right the first thing I do is think of how I fucked up.

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I'm going to go throw caution to the wind and eat an entire Giordano's pizza and drink a pitcher of beer.

Best idea yet lol.