how long do you take to get over after a breakup?

and even if you still see the person, does it take you days, months, years to completely move on?

this time it took me about a year and probably still have feelings here, and i didn't even have a relationship with that person. the one i had a relationship with for years just took me only 3 months to get over, and i was happy again.

About a day's worth of hours.

And what I mean is that it takes about that long for me to forgive the wrongdoings I've received, to accept that its over, to be happy that none of us no longer suffering, and be free to welcome the lasting love I'm looking for when it comes.

I didn't say I'd forgive the wrongdoings that I've done myself because I'd be lieing. I always remember them. I don't know how to forget them on my own.

Posted by QLIbraMale
few minutes, it really depends if she broke up or me as well as the timing if a good videogame or anime got released lol.

😄 Video games rock.

"This time it took me about a year and probably still have feelings here, and i didn't even have a relationship with that person"
Totally Identify With That 🙂

I had two relationships in my life.

1st one: It took me about 8 months to recover and start over gain

2nd one: It took me a year and I am still single, dont know how long it will take me to be fully over it. Though I am seeing a girl these days but we have not even kissed yet.

What I do is that I enjoy myself being alone after a breakup and dont even think of girls till I feel to.

Enjoy this phase my friend and treat your self, spend on ur self and have some quality time before .............

Can you distract yourselves from the pain with drinking or friends?

Its hard sometimes thats why a lot of my relationships end I can remember my GF walking into the room and Im humping her sister it took me about 3 min to get over that one.

Just kidding

I can get over someone as soon as I want to. But usually I dont want to get over it, I get some sort of sick enjoyment out of sitting around all day in trampy clothes eating junk food lol. Theres one guy who I will never be over and I love that I will always have him as my little crush.

I think most people take so long because they dont actually want to get over the person. I think once someone makes a conscious effort (delete all messages, remove from facebook, stop torturing yourself by wondering what they are up to and who with, stop wanking over the dirty pics you have of them hahaha, stop thinking that things were great when they realy wernt) then it should take about a month max, or maybe thats just me lol.

My exfiance took me a couple of months or so partly because it just felt wrong to be over it so quickly. To me a bad ending to the relationship makes it soo much easier. All I need for closure is the answers to any questions I have and explanations then I was ready to move on.

was in a relationship for almost 5 years but got cheated and he got someone else pregnant and they got married. he still hasnt change and he came on to me while he was married. sad for his wife and kids.

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Posted by mooncancer
Can you distract yourselves from the pain with drinking or friends?

Friends, yes but drinking is a traitor! Sometimes it makes you think about it MORE. Dammit Johnnie!

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with friends, i'm thinking about it more and i'm quiet which makes me feel im dragging them down.

@Cappyyluv30 - You hit the nail right on the head. That word "Closure"
There was someone in my past who had a huge impact on me, It was never a "Relationship" but due to certain events, that person left my life and I never got the chance to apologise or get "Closure"
This was 4yrs ago, even today, every so often I think about them.

Depends on the situation. My OH says you should be on your own for a quarter of the time that you were in the relationship, which seems like a sensible measure... though I took about nine months to get over my ex after an 8.5 year relationship. The relationship had been in decline for some time prior to ending, so I was already half over her by the time we broke up, hence why it didn't take longer. After nine months of feeling sorry for myself, angry, etc., I had no feelings left for her and then spent a couple of months developing myself as an individual... then met my 'new' OH just as I was feeling 100% and also having my Jupiter return and a Jupiter transit to my 7th house.

Depends on how long I was with them, the depth of feeling I had for them and how it ended/who ended it.

It took me about a year to fully get over my Sag ex who I was with for 6 years, despite it being me who ended it. I was with an Aqua later for 3 and a half years and it took me no time to get over him because he was a douche of the highest degree and I took great pleasure in dumping his ass.

I do normally find it quite easy to detach and move on.........and then I met my last Scorpio haha.

Posted by mooncancer
Can you distract yourselves from the pain with drinking or friends?

Yes, although I'm not talking about just sitting alone getting sozzled for the sake of it. Going out with friends and getting pissed in a sociable sense though yeah.

Spoken like a true alkie haha.

Posted by TasteOfChaos

Im always daydreaming about boys 😄

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