How to ask family members for money? Need advice asap!!!!!

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Adreamuponwaking on Thursday, June 28, 2018 and has 4 replies.

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Ok long story short

i had to drop out of a 4 year college the first time around at 19 for financial reasons.

my grandparents who paid for my dad and his brothers to go to college said that they would help me if i re-enrolled at a four year school for several years in my early twenties but recanted when it was time for them to own up to that promise.

I did well while working a part time job and even with a brief bout of being homeless and

i got into an ivy league university moved to the east coast and now they refuse to help me ....for "tax reasons"

but even with tax issues...they aren't really broke...they can still afford it

especially as they are helping out my youngest cousin who is also in college but happens to be a boy and their favorite.

how can i make them follow through on their promise?

my financial aid package is nonexistent.

i'm working a full time job..and trying my hardest.

it kills me to say this...but I'm the smartest of their grandchildren and i have the most potential

i just wasn't born the right gender

grandpa is a chauvinist

grandma was also super stingy and the jealous type as well

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Posted by Awesomeyah

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Ok long story short

i had to drop out of a 4 year college the first time around at 19 for financial reasons.
my grandparents who paid for my dad and his brothers to go to college said that they would help me if i re-enrolled at a four year school for several years in my early twenties but recanted when it was time for them to own up to that promise.
I did well while working a part time job and even with a brief bout of being homeless and
i got into an ivy league university moved to the east coast and now they refuse to help me ....for "tax reasons"

but even with tax issues...they aren't really broke...they can still afford it
especially as they are helping out my youngest cousin who is also in college but happens to be a boy and their favorite.

how can i make them follow through on their promise?
my financial aid package is nonexistent.
i'm working a full time job..and trying my hardest.

it kills me to say this...but I'm the smartest of their grandchildren and i have the most potential
i just wasn't born the right gender
grandpa is a chauvinist
grandma was also super stingy and the jealous type as well

This is really SAD. I feel very immature to answer this question or maybe I dont have any but an Ivy league college = good job.

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right ?

like i worked my but off

and am a pre-med / science major

get good grades...... ( never rebelled /partied / did drugs)

but none of that matters to them.

i'm like every asian parent and grandparents dream lol

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Posted by Awesomeyah
If you could convince/manipulate them into thinking that you can give them good returns on their investment.. This will work.

besides my grades i don't know what i can do

according to my father, they say they don't know i'm capable of finishing but that is BS

i have two AA degrees and have a high school diploma for Christ sake

if the money is there i can take classes and finish

i have proven that

that only reason again why i haven't is due to money only

it's not like 30-40 years ago when you can work a low paying job and pay for college.

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Posted by Awesomeyah

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Awesomeyah

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Ok long story short

i had to drop out of a 4 year college the first time around at 19 for financial reasons.
my grandparents who paid for my dad and his brothers to go to college said that they would help me if i re-enrolled at a four year school for several years in my early twenties but recanted when it was time for them to own up to that promise.
I did well while working a part time job and even with a brief bout of being homeless and
i got into an ivy league university moved to the east coast and now they refuse to help me ....for "tax reasons"

but even with tax issues...they aren't really broke...they can still afford it
especially as they are helping out my youngest cousin who is also in college but happens to be a boy and their favorite.

how can i make them follow through on their promise?
my financial aid package is nonexistent.
i'm working a full time job..and trying my hardest.

it kills me to say this...but I'm the smartest of their grandchildren and i have the most potential
i just wasn't born the right gender
grandpa is a chauvinist
grandma was also super stingy and the jealous type as well

This is really SAD. I feel very immature to answer this question or maybe I dont have any but an Ivy league college = good job.

right ?

like i worked my but off
and am a pre-med / science major

get good grades...... ( never rebelled /partied / did drugs)

but none of that matters to them.

i'm like every asian parent and grandparents dream lol

I like the confidence.. Get those old guys to agree.

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well

i don't know how

that's why i'm asking

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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Awesomeyah

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Ok long story short

i had to drop out of a 4 year college the first time around at 19 for financial reasons.
my grandparents who paid for my dad and his brothers to go to college said that they would help me if i re-enrolled at a four year school for several years in my early twenties but recanted when it was time for them to own up to that promise.
I did well while working a part time job and even with a brief bout of being homeless and
i got into an ivy league university moved to the east coast and now they refuse to help me ....for "tax reasons"

but even with tax issues...they aren't really broke...they can still afford it
especially as they are helping out my youngest cousin who is also in college but happens to be a boy and their favorite.

how can i make them follow through on their promise?
my financial aid package is nonexistent.
i'm working a full time job..and trying my hardest.

it kills me to say this...but I'm the smartest of their grandchildren and i have the most potential
i just wasn't born the right gender
grandpa is a chauvinist
grandma was also super stingy and the jealous type as well

This is really SAD. I feel very immature to answer this question or maybe I dont have any but an Ivy league college = good job.

right ?

like i worked my but off
and am a pre-med / science major

get good grades...... ( never rebelled /partied / did drugs)

but none of that matters to them.

i'm like every asian parent and grandparents dream lol

A handwritten letter and a photocopy of your score card to your grandparents.

All the best. Hope you get it and don't have to quit your studies. Don't quit.

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I will try this.

we will see