Prenups. Yay or Nay

If your S.O. asked you to sign a prenup would you think they loved you any less?

I must be from another planet but what's prenup?

My money yes.. his money no 😇

Ahh gotcha. Well all the guys I've been dating are broken as hell, I always end up paying for everything. So yes, I would be the one to suggest that in the first place

my feelings would be hurt I believe in for richer or poorer till the end ... but being 29 and completely honest ...depends on where we both are financially when we get married

example

if one of us is already rich or financially well off I understand wanting to protect your assets ..

however if we both have nothing coming into the marriage ...everything should be dissolved 50/50 ...because most of the time both parties have to make heavy sacrifices even if only one makes is successful

Posted by SpaceBird

Posted by Cancan26
my feelings would be hurt I believe in for richer or poorer till the end ... but being 29 and completely honest ...depends on where we both are financially when we get married

example

if one of us is already rich or financially well off I understand wanting to protect your assets ..

however if we both have nothing coming into the marriage ...everything should be dissolved 50/50 ...because most of the time both parties have to make heavy sacrifices even if only one makes is successful

When things get dissolved though it's often not the best financial plan for those assets. They might be worth more intact ..or in a few years time. You lose money that way ...both of you. click to expand

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if im ready to divorce I want my half now so I can move right along with my life 😢 ..

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
If your S.O. asked you to sign a prenup would you think they loved you any less?

I’d know they love me more.

Posted by Cancan26
my feelings would be hurt I believe in for richer or poorer till the end ... but being 29 and completely honest ...depends on where we both are financially when we get married

example

if one of us is already rich or financially well off I understand wanting to protect your assets ..

however if we both have nothing coming into the marriage ...everything should be dissolved 50/50 ...because most of the time both parties have to make heavy sacrifices even if only one makes is successful

Yeah that’s what a prenup does. It protects the assets you bring into the marriage. You can also write in specifics for after but most people do the 50/50 split for assets earned during the marriage. And some people do the whole...you get nada if you cheat.

Zero issues with this - it's a contract and of course I wouldn't sign until I negotiated on my behalf.

Posted by SpaceBird

Posted by TaurusinTexas
Zero issues with this - it's a contract and of course I wouldn't sign until I negotiated on my behalf.

I don't think i could ever treat a relationship like a business. I don't think i would be strong enough to negotiate ..in fact i know i wouldn't be. I would just sign with no amendments ..i probably wouldn't ever even want to talk about it ...at the time or ever ... click to expand

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Then if ever faced with this, and you know iys happening, bring your best girlfriend, grab a drink and sign without looking, snap a pic with that drink in hand and then should it end in divorce, you and your BFF swear to the judge, show the pic, you were drinking and caught up in the moment, and he sprung it on you - you were so in love, naive and drinking and try to get it argued down that way.

Not at all. They are protecting their nest egg for whatever reason, could be children or the fact they are stepping into something quicker than they think with you. Once married then that would be a different story IMO.

I had a pre-nup with an ex partner and in hindsight was thankful I did...only because it didn't complicate anything when we split.

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Posted by Cancan26

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Posted by Cancan26
my feelings would be hurt I believe in for richer or poorer till the end ... but being 29 and completely honest ...depends on where we both are financially when we get married

example

if one of us is already rich or financially well off I understand wanting to protect your assets ..

however if we both have nothing coming into the marriage ...everything should be dissolved 50/50 ...because most of the time both parties have to make heavy sacrifices even if only one makes is successful

When things get dissolved though it's often not the best financial plan for those assets. They might be worth more intact ..or in a few years time. You lose money that way ...both of you. click to expand

if im ready to divorce I want my half now so I can move right along with my life .. click to expand

I understand. Really i do. But if you had kids ...say 7 or 9 ...and you were thinking of their future. College etc ..you may feel differently. You want your assets working for you at the maximum of their potential.

A lot of wealth is usually lost in divorce. That happens NO MATTER how good your prenup. People lose money ...everyone always feels the other party gets it ...

Both parties feel the other must have gotten it ...it's when you cut up assets ...they are sometimes worth less ..it's not like cars and selling the parts. And it's particularly true of financial assets. click to expand

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nope. not for me ...if i have 11 kids 3 dogs 2 cats and gold fish ...i wanna go ...i need my things divide so i can leave if we are divorcing ...Im D O N E with this ..money aint a thang I can make my own....

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Posted by Cancan26
my feelings would be hurt I believe in for richer or poorer till the end ... but being 29 and completely honest ...depends on where we both are financially when we get married

example

if one of us is already rich or financially well off I understand wanting to protect your assets ..

however if we both have nothing coming into the marriage ...everything should be dissolved 50/50 ...because most of the time both parties have to make heavy sacrifices even if only one makes is successful

Yeah that’s what a prenup does. It protects the assets you bring into the marriage. You can also write in specifics for after but most people do the 50/50 split for assets earned during the marriage. And some people do the whole...you get nada if you cheat.

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I gave I am in favor of them then ...cause everything you said sounds reasonable and fair ...you would hope someone you loved enough to marry ...wouldn't fuck you over but it happens all the time ... better to have hurt feeling over the suggestion of a prenup and be protected later

I do wonder how many people that said yes to this, said it out of strictly theorycraft, rational perspective, but not in fact knowing how the question plays out on emotions, practically and what the consequences of seeding doubt on the longevity of the relationship like that do on a longer time scale.

Agree with prenups tho.