I DON'T think it's wrong

Ok, so there's this website called "BEAUTIFULPEOPLE.COM" & people are freakin' PISSED about it. Here's why:

1. The only way to fully enroll as a member to the site is if other members vote on your pictures & profile. In other words, THEY decide if you're "beautiful" enough to be considered a member. It's clearly understandable why people are so mad about this trick to gaining membership on the site.

Well, 1st off:
1. The site does NOT define beauty. It leaves that to the current members of the site, as they represent "society." It may sound harsh that others can determine your enrollment BUT then again, the stigma that beautiful people often get more ahead and/or get approached quicker is true, whether we like that reality or not.

2. The site allows for each person to not only upload their pictures, BUT it also encourages people to explain a little about themselves. In other words, there's an "ABOUT ME" section on this site just like there is on any other dating website. So this proves that even the site, as shallow as it may seem, recognizes that to alot of people, beauty is both an inside AND outside attribute.

3. There's this false stigma that b/c someone is beautiful, they must lack other positive traits. And this is wrong. Remember, not everybody thinks of beauty as just a physical thing. Whose to say that someone who is book/street smart & whom is a good person can't ALSO just happen to be attractive physically? It's no different than someone simply being considered "ugly" by others doesn't mean that b/c they're ugly, they must be a good person!

I personally don't see anything wrong with the site. If anything, I think it encourages more beauty on the inside moreso than it does the outside. Even on other dating websites like Eharmony or SinglePeopleMeet.com, a person's goal is to put up the most flattering pictures AND profile(s) of themselves in hopes of getting the attention they were seeking; and even on those sites (that guarantee membership REGARDLESS of what you look like), people are still being normal every day people who FIRST seek what they consider attractive/beautiful. The problem isn't in the site encouraging others to seek the "beautiful." The problem lies within each individual person whose definition of beauty may be different.

Granted, there are some people who are very shallow in their thinking & whom think beauty is only a physical attribute, BUT this is not the case for ALL people seeking companionship or wha

I want to know what you guys think about it.

1. Do you think websites like this are part of the problem as to why so many people are too shallow in their thinking?
OR
2. Do you think each person's definition of "beauty" (shallow or not) should be their problem

3. What do you guys think about this site? A blessing or curse?

If someone doesn't like the site -- they don't have to go on it.
We are judged (fairly or unfairly)everytime we meet someone. If this weren't true, there wouldn't be countless books, articles, etc, on "You only get one time to make a first impression."
First impressions, while not always accurate, are the only thing a person has to go by; therefore, in all aspects of your life, whether it's a dating site, job interview, networking group, etc, you are (assumably) putting your best foot forward.
I'm not interested in any dating sites, but I realize they serve an important purpose and millions of people around the world love them, so there must be something to it. With that being said, I don't find anything wrong with this site BEAUTIFULPEOPLE.COM for the sheer fact that they are being HONEST in exactly what the criteria is, so there is no sugar coating or misrepresentation. Further, from what kysrenee has stated about it (since I don't know anything about the site), it appears that the individuals on the site are the ones making the "cuts" so to speak.

so what I got a site called ugly people all you have to do is put your face on it we don't vote but if you make a lot of us upchuck then you get to be king and queen for the month. I have won twice.

Posted by james tate
so what I got a site called ugly people all you have to do is put your face on it we don't vote but if you make a lot of us upchuck then you get to be king and queen for the month. I have won twice.

LOL!! You James you are too much 🙂

Oh whatever Tater, LOL.

I was accepted.

Just kidding.

I may chang my name to scar

Posted by Prince_Pisces
People who have problems with that stuff are either fat. . ugly. . or both lol.

Prince, how did I KNOW you would say something along those lines— Ha!

U guys better not be ruining my site. I just got accepted and ready to start hitting with those gold digging bitches. 😄

Whats her name?

So someone signing up for a website is only doing so b/c they need validation? That's not always true. That's just an assumption. Some people think of dating websites in GENERAL as a club for fat, insecure, ugly or desperate people, & I'm sure that those who are the opposite who join other dating sites would disagree..

So getting on such a site, just b/c it's called Beautifulpeople.com means that you're insecure & need validation? That doesn't even make sense. That's like saying people join Christian dating sites b/c they need validation from others that they are really & truly Christian. If someone signs up for a "Beauty" contest, does that mean they're only doing so b/c they're insecure? No. It's simply called a BEAUTY contest b/c beauty (depending on each judge's specific definition) is what attracts viewers (especially millions on a tv screen).

This is what kills me about people. We often teach confidence & the love of self (inside & out) all the time. BUT yet the minutes someone can confidently say "I'm beautiful," they get scrutinized, called conceited or made to appear "too stuck on themselves." And the irony in it all is that had an "ugly" person went around calling themselves ugly, people would be encouraging them to say/do some of the VERY SAME things a person who ALREADY thinks they're beautiful says/does.

When I'm going somewhere where the dress code is classy & formal, I like to dress in the same manner. In other words, we all lean towards any surrounding we can identify with & the same goes for online dating. Let's just cut to the chase & be real..even on other dating sites, a person's 1st target & preference (depending on their intentions) would be anything that appeals to their 5 senses. B/c the PICTURE is the 1st thing that is seen & catches the attention on dating sites, beautifulpeople.com just cut to the chase. It's almost like the site is saying, "Look buddy. This person is ALREADY guaranteed to be considerably 'attractive' so knowing that up front, you can now go look for some positive inner qualities"

If you notice, the ONLY people who have a problem with beauty, the beauty industry or any sign of self-confidence are those who LACK those things.

Now granted, there are some people on ALL sites who are insecure and/or who generally lack any self esteem. But I don't see how this particular website (Beautifulpeople.com) warrants/targets a specific group (insecure individuals needing validation). That's like saying the only people who join Eharmony must only be joining b/c they desire the opposite of peace & harmony. That's like ChristianSingles.com only targets those individuals who are lacking in faith/religion. That doesn't even make sense.

REGARDLESS of the site's specific name, there will always be the people joining that are insecure, have the wrong intentions or need self validation, BUT not ALL people who join dating websites in general are lacking. Sure, alot are but I've noticed that the only people quick to call out some kind of "assumed lack" within another person are the VERY people who identify AND lack those very things as well.

Let's face it, we all love looking at beautiful people (inside & out). We'd all prefer to be considered "beautiful" to others as well as to ourselves. When I 1st heard about the website, my 1st thought was, oh good the site was atleast 10 times more honest than those other sites. I'm sure the people on Beautifulpeople.com would've PREFERRED guaranteed access regardless of what they look like or are considered to others, BUT the feeling that they are beautiful already makes them feel good about joining the site. People don't become beautiful just b/c they signed up for a site. They were beautiful BEFORE

@Valeria..I agree. Different cultures have different "standards" to which they define beauty.

There are 2 types of people though. There are those whom 1. Believe that things like makeup/plastic surgery, or ANY kind of enhancement to what's considered already beautiful or atleast "just fine" etc. for example are beautiful ONLY b/c they get lots of positive feedback from others. In other words, people who allow others to define THEIR beauty.

And then there are the people who get tattoos, wear makeup or enhance their appearance without a care in the world what other think. Some times these types of people "enhance" or "mark up" their bodies b/c it's their way of self-expression. And to an extent, I can't blaim either types of people b/c for every 100 people that'd think all that "enhancement" was pathetic, there are another 500 people who will notice them even more and/or like their ideas, enough to imitate them.

Beauty is always going to be one of those controversial topics b/c everyone's definition is unique & different. As for me, I wear or do certain things b/c I see it as art, vs. only doing so as a call for more attention from others. One thing we ALL desire is attention, especially if it's the RIGHT attention. And even though I may not agree with certain types of "enhancements" of the body, I do also understand though why it's so easy for people to get consumed with the physical science of it all..

It's no different than sex. So many people are quick to look down on the sex industry BUT yet their very husbands/wives are watching the "sex industry" unfold on their computer screens or televisions when no one is looking. In other words, sex sells! And it sells even if there's 1 million people objecting to it. And the same goes for beauty. It may suck for women specifically in regards to standards of beauty in the U.S. b/c sure, half of us should be "just fine" with our natural hair, skin tone/color, body makeup BUT the reality is that most other people (including the actual person) are NOT okay with their natural selves..and that goes for even the people who promote looking/being "natural" in everything at all time.

For example: Some men hate women that wear weaving or lots of makeup BUT yet they CONVEINANTLY always target 1st the women who do wear/have exactly what they claimed they hated. There's fantasy & then there's reality.

Im ugly and plan to stay that way go to my butt ugly see if you and win ugly of the month it takes a lot.

@Kyle...how can you rightfully so say these people are automatically "arrogant" or full of themselves all b/c of the website they joined? Are they not like others who join other dating websites who are just quite plainly looking for companionship? How can you automatically judge someone's character w/o ever simply seeing/experiencing them individually? Whether a person joins that site or not, there are PLENTY of arrogant people around in GENERAL.

And hey, as I said before, the website keeps it "real" in that statistics PROVE that the average person (regardless of what they're looking for whether it be friendship, sexual encounters or love) automatically targets what they consider "attractive" physically 1st & inwardly second anyways. The same criteria happens within the MINDS of people anyways, even on other dating websites. On Christiansingles.com people are using their instincts to lead them to the "one" by 1st going off of/judging a person's profile pic b/c that's the 1st thing they see. Are those people (on those other sites) arrogant?

It'd be different if the site wanted/encouraged it's members to strictly focus on the "outer beauty" but the site CLEARLY said that it's actually just doing (by only accepting "beautiful" members) the work upfront that other people do on their own (weeding out those they don't consider "beautiful")

I'm not a member of that site nor did I ever sign up to be BUT I have browsed through several of the profiles of some of the members just to get a glimpse of the "attitude" the members have. And based on what I saw, those people aren't arrogant at all. In fact, many of them ARE beautiful inside & out & whether they were members of that site or not, other people would STILL consider them to be just that whether they 1st met those very people at a bar, on the job or anywhere else. I have to see a profile where a member seems to be full of themselves. Most of those members claimed in their profiles that they were seeking the VERY SAME things persay others who weren't members of the site were seeking

I'm not saying that I necessarily agree with the site downright "rejecting" members who are not coined "beautiful" but then again, hey it's NOT the site that's shallow for doing so. It's the people behind the site..and those kinds of people are EVERYWHERE, not just beautifulpeople.com. And even then, the REALITY is everyone won't be considered "beautiful" to everybody anyways b/c each person's definition is different.

@Bella, hey I can understand somewhat where you are coming from. It's no different than AshleyMadison.com, a website that caters to people ALREADY IN relationships. The site is a site for taken/married people; it gives them an outlet to cheat. Now granted, I do NOT support or condone cheating but let's face it. The site is such a big success for a reason. It's not the site that makes people the cheaters. It's the PEOPLE that choose to be cheaters that make cheating so horrible.

And the websites excuse? Hell, they'd might as well make a website designed for those kinds of "people" to spare some of the other more legit websites like Eharmony, Christiansingles, etc. After all, cheaters visit those dating sites & b/c they're "cheaters" & recognize that admitting this won't get them any play, they'd rather just lie. And to an extent, AshleyMadison.com has a point. A recent study showed that 80% of people frequenting dating websites have lied about something very significant, like marital status or sexual orientation for example. The site also hates that people cheat BUT in the same token, people will continue to do so (as they've ALWAYS done) regardless, so it saves those who are truly single looking for other singles on those other websites, the heartbreak of having yet ANOTHER experience when the person they were really interested in turned out to be "taken" from the beginning.

Point is..sure people don't need validation that they're beautiful by means of a dating website no different than they don't need the validation through means of a boyfriend/relationship or peers. BUT the reality though is that people are looking for what they consider to be "beautiful" 1st regardless of the website. When someone on another site like the person IMing them, they reject them by ignoring them or by sugarcoating their rejection. Rejection is REAL & happens EVERYWHERE. Beautifulpeople.com isn't the problem. It's the people whose means of what's "beautiful" counts, that are sometimes the problem. We can blaim the website & judge it's members, BUT to act high & mighty like other sites don't have the SAME KINDS Of members/antics is just unrealistic.

I've looked at the site. So many orange people.

These same kinds of "reject the UNbeautiful" antics are EVERYWHERE in our society. It's easy to blaim the websites that capitalize on it, but the truth is, this kind of arrogant or rejectory is EVERYWHERE! I think it's a bad thing when people need validation through others, BUT I also think it's a bad thing when people start downing those who have no shame in admitting that they think they're beautiful.

Some of those now-members of beautifulpeople.com decided to sign up for the site strictly on the principle that they identified with the site's name OR anything with the name "beautiful" attached to it. They don't get judged or "voted on" while signing up..no they find out after they've signed up how the site works. So if someone comes onto the site w/o even assuming that other members will decide their "fate" how are they automatically conceited or full of themselves? It's no different than with "BEAUTY contests" or any other entertainment that attaches the word "beauty" to it. It's pathetic that yes, some people need validation BUT it's also pathetic that the minute someone has no shame in admitting they're beautiful that they get MORE scorned for it.

The same guy/girl that might vote "NO" on YOUR picture on Beautifulpeople.com might seem like an A hole, all b/c he rejected you by way of the internet but yet, what about the guy/gal you approach on the street that refuses to give you their phone number b/c they don't feel that "connection" or in other words, that you match up to their standards for what they consider attractive? It's amazing that when rejection in THIS form happens, people never get coined as arrogant or full of themselves. People simply shrug it off by saying, "Hey people are entitled to be attracted to who they're attracted to & shrug off who they're not."

Society's (not just Beautifulpeople.com) standards for what they consider truly "beautiful" are flawed. I will admit that. The website is just capitalizing on a mindset ALREADY prevelant in alot of minds, thus there's no reason for me to bad mouth the website when I REALLY should be badmouthing all the people who in general reject anything they don't consider beautiful. To say that people don't naturally do this in the dating world (by means of internet dating or whatever) is just a big ole lie. When people see something they don't consider "beautiful" according to their OWN standards, they reject it. HOW they reject it varies, BUT the point is that they DO.

I don't care what some prat on a website thinks about me, I'm beautiful already.

So with that in mind, that must mean nearly MOST Of all Americans are full of themselves & just human beings seeking validation.

Beautifulpeople.com just promotes 1 specific kind of rejection that happens EVERYWHERE, & not just on their site. There are soooo many other ways people "reject the beautiful." This particular website just chose 1 particular style of very popular rejection & ran with it.

Every time someone writes to a profile/person they're interested in & yet don't get a response back, THAT is rejection. Sometimes there's no telling WHY that person chose to simply ignore you BUT, all in all the message is very clear: You are NOT what I consider to be beautiful or atleast what I'm looking for. But it's amazing that when a girl/guy uses this form of rejection, they are coined conceited, arrogant or full of themselves! And they're not given this label EVEN Though they often give the other person the SAME EXACT feeling those who get rejected on the website get: a sense of not being "good enough."

The site targets people who feel that they are "Beautiful." It's antics are just a little more straight-foward & quite frankly the SAME antics that same member could have on any other site..ignoring or rejecting what THEY don't consider attractive! Isn't that what comes with the territory of online dating period?! Every time you take interest in someone, you always face the risk that the other person might not accept you for who/what you are, no matter how hard you try OR even if another member would. That just comes with the territory of online dating PERIOD. If anything, that's alot of the reasons given from some of the people I know as to why they don't mind online dating. It's easier to "click a button" as a means of rejection to a person who is online than it is to a person who persay they were facing face to face.

Posted by DK09
I've looked at the site. So many orange people.

hahahaha

ya looks r bullshit I've met some UGLY beautiful girls & guys

it's lk rolling dice out there

didn't we address this a while back...—

Dear VB Bella and Val

I have meet with the judges and no you are not up for the butt ugly of the month of June award sorry better luck next time.

Yours TATE

*grabbing hold of face and planting a big kiss*. Thank you Tate.

your suppost to cry because you did not win thats the problem with good looking women

Well, there is always the possibility of severe injury. Then I'd be a shoe-in! One must be hopeful.

Well that's assuming every single person that signs up for the site has low self esteem already..and we all know that's not true. We can "assume" all day that they automatically have low self esteem or don't think they're beautiful coming in, but I'm the perfect example of someone who heard of the site & started reminding myself of how beautiful I am. I didn't sign up b/c I'm already in a relationship & am not looking to date anyone, but it was interesting.

Coming in, I thought the same thing. I thought, wow these people must really be full of themselves. BUT after reading alot of their profiles, I was VERY shocked at the humbleness & actual genuiness coming from those members. Not once did I see anybody fishing for compliments or over-bragging about themselves for the attention.

New members are encouraged to only add 1 profile pic of themselves, while the rest of their "beauty profile" lies within what they write about themselves (their hobbies, talents, passions in life, etc.) The site does this so that even the current members can remember (since granted, there are some shallow people out there PERIOD) to look for inside traits as well.

That site to me is like American Idol or any other form of entertainment/networking that relies off an audience to do the judging. For some people it has NOTHING to do with needing validation that they are/aren't something. For some people it's about identifying with the idea of the name of the title/website, moreso than needing the website's title to prove a point. There is a DIFFERENCE. Sure, arrogant people have no place in my life & can be considered a BAD thing, BUT you know what they say about people who "assume," all the time w/o even taking a deeper look (Judging a book by it's cover)...Nuff said ;~P

O.K. point taken I won't stick my tongue in your ear where do you want me to stick it?

To whom are you referring Tater? If it's me, you already know the answer to that one, if it's Val, I'll let her field that one...

LOL More than likely, a name would be helpful.

Bella HA HA

*sigh* Oh why do I set myself up for disappointment, WHY?! *shaking fist at the heavens*

People who are arrogant often carry a bad name. And those who always judge others or "assume" they know the specifics of another's character are just as worse.

I'm not in any way shape or form denying that some of those people are full out arrogant people. BUT what I am saying is that how that website works is NO different than how society works.

I brought up the AMERICAN IDOL example for a reasons. That's a show where the audience & people like me & you are supposed to "VOTE" & decide whether or not someone is considered "good enough." Do you see anybody calling the contestents "arrogant" or "full of themselves" all b/c they're involved in the type of entertainment where a random panel of judges/society judges them and/or DECIDES whether or not they are something? NO, we don't b/c we assume that if 4 million people (for ex) think something is worth it, that it really must be! It's no different than with Beautifulpeople.com. If 4 million people vote "YES" to a person they consider beautiful, it's probably b/c to the "average" or typical person, they'd think so too.

The pot can't call the kettle black. Sure there's a few people left over in this society that define their OWN beauty but let's be real. Half the people walking this earth only think they're beautiful b/c some parent, family member, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, peer, co-worker, etc. told them so & often several times on many occasions. So in this case, most people are secretely seeking validation about something since the average person only assumes they're beautiful b/c of the OTHERS (outside of themselves) saying so/agreeing.

Someone who naturally believes they're beautiful REGARDLESS of the site or what other say wouldn't have a reason to seek validation from others. After all, when you truly believe something, no one can change that belief, regardless. If a woman/man who truly believes they're already beautiful inside & out, decides to join that site, it's not necessarily b/c they need FURTHER PROOF from anybody (and especially not from a bunch of random strangers they'll probably never meet).

Some people join ChristianSingles.com b/c the word CHRISTIAN hits a chord within them. They identify with that word, therefore they feel that site is the perfect place to start their online dating. Joining that site doesn't mean you're holier than thou or that you're trying to separate yourselves from anybody else with another religion or no religion at all. No, sometimes it's that people IDENTIFY with the site's title AND meaning, moreso than what the site can do for them or for others

Posted by BellaBulleautiful

Posted by james tate
Bella HA HA

go stick your tongue in a LEO GOATBOY!!!!!



You never loved me.

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— LOL, awesome.

dynamite!

weird flawed & smart?

sounds dreamy!!! & lk an aqua or a crab ;P

Posted by domino_O

Posted by USCTaurusGal
If someone doesn't like the site -- they don't have to go on it.

But then what are we going to rage about then? 😭

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Trust me Dom, it's human nature. If it weren't this to rage about, they would find something else to fill that void of something to b@tch/gripe/complain about.

I have always loved you Bella just not in the strange way you want.

Posted by ianthefish
the whole dxp clan could really do some damage to that site..

I agree with this Ian! we would rip that place up cuz there r gorgeous people here with some bad attitudes 🙂