krysrenee7
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I need to get this off my chest
7...continued...and if your man thinks he can get away with murder, that's his INDIRECT way of signaling to you that he doesn't think you're the brightest or most intelligent person. The lie itself is already 1 insult. But the fact that someone actually thought you were dumb/naive enough to believe it just adds MORE INSULT to injury.
8. He meant what he said when he told you UP FRONT that he didn't want a committment. He wasn't kidding. People NEVER joke about that. Jokes consist of "Why did the chicken cross the road?" NOT "I despise committment."
9. YES, your man will absolutely contemplate leaving you if you turn out to be a crazy bxtch or change dramatically. You wouldn't want to hear him saying, "What happened to loving me for who I am?" when he hits you, now would you? NO! How you come in is how you oughta stay!
10. How things go in the beginning sets the pace for how things will go during the relationship. If you start out hiding your true feelings or personality traits, and IF he falls in love with the person you're PRETENDING to be, you're screwed the min. you actually start showing your true colors. People are more likely to put up with you if they knew from the BEGINNING what they were getting into vs. finding out & feeling like they've been dooped 2+ years later. Be yourself. You are an ENTIRE PACKAGE (good & bad). If you fear that someone won't like that about you in the beginning, what makes you think they'll suddenly admire a controlling, clingy, possessive, jealous & crazy person later on?
11. For goodness sakes, if you're gonna have friends of the opposite sex, make sure they're REAL/platonic friends! NOT the girl you just met through facebook, at a bar or the stripper who gave you her number. Be HONEST about who your real friends are. Your partner needs to know that you take your friendships AND who you call your "friend" seriously or else they'll never trust your judgement...
8. He meant what he said when he told you UP FRONT that he didn't want a committment. He wasn't kidding. People NEVER joke about that. Jokes consist of "Why did the chicken cross the road?" NOT "I despise committment."
9. YES, your man will absolutely contemplate leaving you if you turn out to be a crazy bxtch or change dramatically. You wouldn't want to hear him saying, "What happened to loving me for who I am?" when he hits you, now would you? NO! How you come in is how you oughta stay!
10. How things go in the beginning sets the pace for how things will go during the relationship. If you start out hiding your true feelings or personality traits, and IF he falls in love with the person you're PRETENDING to be, you're screwed the min. you actually start showing your true colors. People are more likely to put up with you if they knew from the BEGINNING what they were getting into vs. finding out & feeling like they've been dooped 2+ years later. Be yourself. You are an ENTIRE PACKAGE (good & bad). If you fear that someone won't like that about you in the beginning, what makes you think they'll suddenly admire a controlling, clingy, possessive, jealous & crazy person later on?
11. For goodness sakes, if you're gonna have friends of the opposite sex, make sure they're REAL/platonic friends! NOT the girl you just met through facebook, at a bar or the stripper who gave you her number. Be HONEST about who your real friends are. Your partner needs to know that you take your friendships AND who you call your "friend" seriously or else they'll never trust your judgement...
12. If someone doesn't want what you want, yes it sucks, BUT accept that & move on. If you keep hearing "Welp, I told you in the beginning that I wasn't looking for 'blank' so technically you can't be mad at me now" that's an indication that you're NOT accepting the reality of the situation. Don't ever put yourself in a situation where someone can throw you that line!
13. Of all the millions (literally) of single AND available men out here, it speaks volumes about your self-esteem if you "just so happened" to land yourself a guy who is married, taken or not looking for committment. You're insulting yourself if you settle for someone else's man. Every time you settle you're literally & sub-consciously telling yourself that THIS is the BEST that it gets. Um NO. Someone else's man is NOT the best that it gets! Matter of fact, leave that married/taken man & stop dating period until you can get your self-esteem back!
14. If your gonna cheat, fine do that. BUT stay off dating relationships that are SUPPOSED to ONLY consist of SINGLE people looking for other SINGLE people. Go get on AshleyMadison.com or something.
15. People get on dating websites b/c they want to find love. If you're NOT looking for love, why on earth on you on a site called, "SinglesLookingForLove?" It makes NO sense that your profile says, "Not looking for anything serious" when yet you're on a website geared for people who absolutely ARE looking for it! That's like paying a mortgage on a house that you're NOT even living in. Don't sign up for it if you're not ready for it!
16. If you're gonna fight/be mad at the other woman you better be MORE mad at the man who played you for her. Technically, she's (the mistress/other woman) is NOT the person who vowed/promised to be faithful & loyal to you. HE was. So hold HIM to the higher standards, not her. Outsiders will NOT respect your relationship if the 2 people in it don't
13. Of all the millions (literally) of single AND available men out here, it speaks volumes about your self-esteem if you "just so happened" to land yourself a guy who is married, taken or not looking for committment. You're insulting yourself if you settle for someone else's man. Every time you settle you're literally & sub-consciously telling yourself that THIS is the BEST that it gets. Um NO. Someone else's man is NOT the best that it gets! Matter of fact, leave that married/taken man & stop dating period until you can get your self-esteem back!
14. If your gonna cheat, fine do that. BUT stay off dating relationships that are SUPPOSED to ONLY consist of SINGLE people looking for other SINGLE people. Go get on AshleyMadison.com or something.
15. People get on dating websites b/c they want to find love. If you're NOT looking for love, why on earth on you on a site called, "SinglesLookingForLove?" It makes NO sense that your profile says, "Not looking for anything serious" when yet you're on a website geared for people who absolutely ARE looking for it! That's like paying a mortgage on a house that you're NOT even living in. Don't sign up for it if you're not ready for it!
16. If you're gonna fight/be mad at the other woman you better be MORE mad at the man who played you for her. Technically, she's (the mistress/other woman) is NOT the person who vowed/promised to be faithful & loyal to you. HE was. So hold HIM to the higher standards, not her. Outsiders will NOT respect your relationship if the 2 people in it don't
17. Stop saying, "What are you looking for?" when on a date. Everyone's answer is gonna sound "so sweet" & like you're both on the same page. What someone WANTS is completely different than what they actually CAN actually provide. And I say that considering a person shouldn't be asking for something that they themselves can't even give to you. Instead say, "What are you prepared to bring to the table?" It's the same question but just re-worded. Wording it that way will give you a closer glimpse into that person's needs, expectations, desires AND what they too can offer you. Someone telling you that they're looking for a "smart, intelligent, beautiful woman" is NOT you getting to know them NOR does it tell you anything about who they REALLY are. Hell even abusive people technically "want" all the same things that sane people want.
18. If you can barely trust a man/woman when they're living 20 minutes from you, why on earth would you sign up for online dating?! How on earth do you think you'd be able to trust someone living 2 or 20 hours from you if you can't even get your insecurities in check when that person lives up the street?!
19. Feelings for someone DON'T cut off just b/c a breakup happens. If someone says, "Well I slept with her the day after we broke up b/c TECHNICALLY we weren't together," you should pack up your shxt & never turn back. If someone can sleep with another person 5 hours after you just broke up, that's an indication that they emotionally disconnected from you LONG BEFORE the breakup. It's NOT the "title" that oughta bring loyalty. It's the emotions/feelings/respect for another person that makes a relationship what it is. And it's almost impossible to lose that for someone 2 hours/days after the breakup. If you're already sleeping with the next guy/girl 2 minutes later, you were either cheating on them DURING the relationship, were ABOUT to cheat on them soon OR were never truly in love to begin with.
18. If you can barely trust a man/woman when they're living 20 minutes from you, why on earth would you sign up for online dating?! How on earth do you think you'd be able to trust someone living 2 or 20 hours from you if you can't even get your insecurities in check when that person lives up the street?!
19. Feelings for someone DON'T cut off just b/c a breakup happens. If someone says, "Well I slept with her the day after we broke up b/c TECHNICALLY we weren't together," you should pack up your shxt & never turn back. If someone can sleep with another person 5 hours after you just broke up, that's an indication that they emotionally disconnected from you LONG BEFORE the breakup. It's NOT the "title" that oughta bring loyalty. It's the emotions/feelings/respect for another person that makes a relationship what it is. And it's almost impossible to lose that for someone 2 hours/days after the breakup. If you're already sleeping with the next guy/girl 2 minutes later, you were either cheating on them DURING the relationship, were ABOUT to cheat on them soon OR were never truly in love to begin with.
20. What's up with this "breaking up through text message" crap?! Oh come on! Be a man/woman & do it the right way! Someone who doesn't have enough respect for you to formally break up with you is NOT someone who any longer deserves any more of your time, energy, body or feelings.
21. If you're with someone who has kids, DON'T be the new girlfriend/boyfriend who encourages your partner to NOT have a good relationship with the mother of his own kids. I get it, most of his baby mamas are probably psycho! BUT, think of HIS kids for a minute & take yourself out of the picture. Those kids deserve 2 parents who are ATLEAST civil with eachother. As the new girlfriend/boyfriend, you are NOT looking out for the best interests of those kids if you're always encouraging your partner to remain on bad terms with the mother/father of their kids. And if you fear that him having a good relationship with his baby mama will threaten your relationship, then that's you admitting that you don't really think your man was all the way emotionally/physically done with her! And in that case, why did you get with someone if you knew that they still had unfinished business with an ex?!
22. I hate it when people justify staying in a bad relationship & blaim it on "staying for the kids." Oh hush & be honest with yourself! You stayed b/c you didn't have enough courage, self-esteem or respect for yourself to move on! And hey, that's ok IF that's the truth, BUT you've gotta be honest with yourself 1st. Women with low self esteem would've probably STILL STAYED even if they'd never had kids with that jerk to begin with.
21. If you're with someone who has kids, DON'T be the new girlfriend/boyfriend who encourages your partner to NOT have a good relationship with the mother of his own kids. I get it, most of his baby mamas are probably psycho! BUT, think of HIS kids for a minute & take yourself out of the picture. Those kids deserve 2 parents who are ATLEAST civil with eachother. As the new girlfriend/boyfriend, you are NOT looking out for the best interests of those kids if you're always encouraging your partner to remain on bad terms with the mother/father of their kids. And if you fear that him having a good relationship with his baby mama will threaten your relationship, then that's you admitting that you don't really think your man was all the way emotionally/physically done with her! And in that case, why did you get with someone if you knew that they still had unfinished business with an ex?!
22. I hate it when people justify staying in a bad relationship & blaim it on "staying for the kids." Oh hush & be honest with yourself! You stayed b/c you didn't have enough courage, self-esteem or respect for yourself to move on! And hey, that's ok IF that's the truth, BUT you've gotta be honest with yourself 1st. Women with low self esteem would've probably STILL STAYED even if they'd never had kids with that jerk to begin with.
well most of the time i consider most of your posts random rants, i do however like what you say on number 22
23. If you're in a relationship, you should NOT be at the club MORE than a single person goes. There's a REASON clubs/bars are packed MOSTLY (keyword) with single people. If your only version of "fun" consists of an environment where there's half butt naked & drunk chicks/guys, you need to get your priorities straight...perhaps you should've just stayed single. You can't be in a relationship & yet live a single life style . It's just as embarrassing & weird to see the guy whose "taken" at the club every week just like it's embarrassing to see the 40yr old guy walking into 18+ clubs!
24. If you're gonna cheat, for goodness sakes, be GOOD at it. Being good means NOT writing on the other woman's facebook wall, knowing that your girlfriend AND the entire WORLD WIDE WEB can see it!
25. There's nothing wrong with innocently "dancing" at the club with other girls/guys. BUT at the same time, good luck explaining to your partner why you can't resist touching the opposite sex every time you go out! I bet you either WON'T have a logical/valid answer for that AND your partner won't like your answer! I'mJustSaying!
26. Anyone who tells you that standards aren't sexy is trying to manipulate you & has ulterior motives!
27. You knew she didn't go to the gym 5 days a week & that she regularly ate icecream on the couch on Friday nights when you 1st met her. Why are you surprised NOW that she gains 15 pounds every year? You knew she hated cooking when you 1st met her so why aren't you surprised that you're still coming home to NO meals every night? What you see is LITERALLY what you get.
28. Don't swear to God a lie b/c if you do & you get caught, your partner will never trust your judgement again. There's nothing higher than swearing to God, so if you take advantage of that, you're screwing yourself.
29. A woman getting jealous b/c some hot chick is staring at her man is insecurity & of course isn't a man's fault. BUT a woman getting jealous b/c some hot chick is staring at her man AND him flirting back with her is NO longer considered the kind of insecurity that a man "can't help." There IS such a thing as provoked jealousy/insecurity & if that's what you're doing, stop insulting your partner in saying, "I didn't do anything wrong, you're just insecure."
30. Guys, her perspective of you really DOES change when she discovers how loud you scream & refuse not to kill that bug she's been begging you to kill!
24. If you're gonna cheat, for goodness sakes, be GOOD at it. Being good means NOT writing on the other woman's facebook wall, knowing that your girlfriend AND the entire WORLD WIDE WEB can see it!
25. There's nothing wrong with innocently "dancing" at the club with other girls/guys. BUT at the same time, good luck explaining to your partner why you can't resist touching the opposite sex every time you go out! I bet you either WON'T have a logical/valid answer for that AND your partner won't like your answer! I'mJustSaying!
26. Anyone who tells you that standards aren't sexy is trying to manipulate you & has ulterior motives!
27. You knew she didn't go to the gym 5 days a week & that she regularly ate icecream on the couch on Friday nights when you 1st met her. Why are you surprised NOW that she gains 15 pounds every year? You knew she hated cooking when you 1st met her so why aren't you surprised that you're still coming home to NO meals every night? What you see is LITERALLY what you get.
28. Don't swear to God a lie b/c if you do & you get caught, your partner will never trust your judgement again. There's nothing higher than swearing to God, so if you take advantage of that, you're screwing yourself.
29. A woman getting jealous b/c some hot chick is staring at her man is insecurity & of course isn't a man's fault. BUT a woman getting jealous b/c some hot chick is staring at her man AND him flirting back with her is NO longer considered the kind of insecurity that a man "can't help." There IS such a thing as provoked jealousy/insecurity & if that's what you're doing, stop insulting your partner in saying, "I didn't do anything wrong, you're just insecure."
30. Guys, her perspective of you really DOES change when she discovers how loud you scream & refuse not to kill that bug she's been begging you to kill!
31. Ladies, STOP saying "You'll never find another woman like me!" after a breakup! I'm sure your guy is thinking, "Duh! That's what I'm hoping! I'm hoping that I absolutely DON'T find another crazy psycho like you!" Trust me, this line doesn't sink in or mean anything to a man who truly didn't want you to begin with.
32. Don't take it so personal when someone rejects/leaves you OR tells you that you're not their type or "the one." After all, every guy that's ever approached you wasn't the 1 either, but you didn't feel bad, now did you?! Accept that you won't always be considered a "good thing" to every single guy you meet.
33. Ladies, stop trippin when your man wants to watch sports, get out of the house to hang with his buddies or go play some football/basketball. When you do this, it sends the signal to him that you're trying to strip him of his hobbies & what he loves. YES honey he absolutely CAN love you AND 10 other hobbies at the same time =) How would YOU like it if your man took away your Haagen Daz, wouldn't let you watch your soap operas, or wouldn't let you talk to the friend on the other line whose crying & begging for your advice?! You'd be pissed! Accept that men have MANY different comfort zones outside of you! Don't take that away from them! Trust me, them watching Football once a day may actually be what's keeping him sane! And a sane man doesn't leave their girlfriends!
32. Don't take it so personal when someone rejects/leaves you OR tells you that you're not their type or "the one." After all, every guy that's ever approached you wasn't the 1 either, but you didn't feel bad, now did you?! Accept that you won't always be considered a "good thing" to every single guy you meet.
33. Ladies, stop trippin when your man wants to watch sports, get out of the house to hang with his buddies or go play some football/basketball. When you do this, it sends the signal to him that you're trying to strip him of his hobbies & what he loves. YES honey he absolutely CAN love you AND 10 other hobbies at the same time =) How would YOU like it if your man took away your Haagen Daz, wouldn't let you watch your soap operas, or wouldn't let you talk to the friend on the other line whose crying & begging for your advice?! You'd be pissed! Accept that men have MANY different comfort zones outside of you! Don't take that away from them! Trust me, them watching Football once a day may actually be what's keeping him sane! And a sane man doesn't leave their girlfriends!
34. If he slaps you, he'll hit or punch you next time. There is NO such thing as "a little slap." He's NOT doing you a favor by just "slapping" you b/c trust me, it'll get worse & worse. Every abuse victim on earth can testify to this so NO you're NOT the exception.
35. STOP trying to withdrawl what some man/woman did NOT deposit. Take this how you want to.
36. Sex is NOT the main thing that oughta keep a relationship going. It's supposed to be the ICING on the cake, NOT the cake itself. Any man/woman can go out & get some great sex; that takes NO effort. BUT not any man/woman can say that they have an amazing companion who JUST SO HAPPENS to be equally amazing in bed. THAT'S more rare! Have some faith in yourself & go after what's rare, NOT common! If you do, it'll last longer, trust me!
37. All people are in your life for a reason, SOME only for a SEASON! Know the differences b/w the branches, leaves, & roots in your life. STOP trying to make the branches as leaves & stop being ungrateful for the roots that you actually have, b/c if you don't, you'll be stuck left with all leaves & then you'll REALLY have a problem!
38. Do you want to be "right" or still have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Sure, you may always technically be "right" during every argument but if you always being right results in you being left alone & by yourself, you have to eventually stop & ask yourself, "How's that working for ya!?!" Compromising & picking your battles is NOT the same as admitting defeat NOR is it the same as you being wrong. Remember, relationships are about the "WE'S" not the "I's"
35. STOP trying to withdrawl what some man/woman did NOT deposit. Take this how you want to.
36. Sex is NOT the main thing that oughta keep a relationship going. It's supposed to be the ICING on the cake, NOT the cake itself. Any man/woman can go out & get some great sex; that takes NO effort. BUT not any man/woman can say that they have an amazing companion who JUST SO HAPPENS to be equally amazing in bed. THAT'S more rare! Have some faith in yourself & go after what's rare, NOT common! If you do, it'll last longer, trust me!
37. All people are in your life for a reason, SOME only for a SEASON! Know the differences b/w the branches, leaves, & roots in your life. STOP trying to make the branches as leaves & stop being ungrateful for the roots that you actually have, b/c if you don't, you'll be stuck left with all leaves & then you'll REALLY have a problem!
38. Do you want to be "right" or still have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Sure, you may always technically be "right" during every argument but if you always being right results in you being left alone & by yourself, you have to eventually stop & ask yourself, "How's that working for ya!?!" Compromising & picking your battles is NOT the same as admitting defeat NOR is it the same as you being wrong. Remember, relationships are about the "WE'S" not the "I's"
Some good points
"38. Do you want to be "right" or still have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Sure, you may always technically be "right" during every argument but if you always being right results in you being left alone & by yourself, you have to eventually stop & ask yourself, "How's that working for ya!?!" Compromising & picking your battles is NOT the same as admitting defeat NOR is it the same as you being wrong. Remember, relationships are about the "WE'S" not the "I's"
^^^Can be a tough lesson to learn^^^
"38. Do you want to be "right" or still have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Sure, you may always technically be "right" during every argument but if you always being right results in you being left alone & by yourself, you have to eventually stop & ask yourself, "How's that working for ya!?!" Compromising & picking your battles is NOT the same as admitting defeat NOR is it the same as you being wrong. Remember, relationships are about the "WE'S" not the "I's"
^^^Can be a tough lesson to learn^^^
@Krys: I agree with a lot of what you said except this:
"33. Ladies, stop trippin when your man wants to watch sports, get out of the house to hang with his buddies or go play some football/basketball. When you do this, it sends the signal to him that you're trying to strip him of his hobbies & what he loves. YES honey he absolutely CAN love you AND 10 other hobbies at the same time =) How would YOU like it if your man took away your Haagen Daz, wouldn't let you watch your soap operas, or wouldn't let you talk to the friend on the other line whose crying & begging for your advice?! You'd be pissed! Accept that men have MANY different comfort zones outside of you! Don't take that away from them! Trust me, them watching Football once a day may actually be what's keeping him sane! And a sane man doesn't leave their girlfriends!"
This sounded sexist to me. I do not watch soap operas or eat ice cream on the couch watching Lifetime channel.I do not stay on the phone with friends listening to them crying. I actually love to watch sports. I have other activities/hobbies myself and the man in my life is not my main focus on surviving! To me, women get upset if their guy is always using his "buddies" or "the game" as an excuse to cheat. They do not get upset if that is what he really is doing. No woman wants a man around up their ass all the time...ugh. I want "me" time ; and I want a lot of it. I want my "girl" time too. I work, hang with my bff(lol), have pets, children, do animal rescue.I play guitar and drums, write,read, sell on Ebay, etc. These things make me who I am, a whole woman, and I resent anyone who thinks that we women are nothing less than that.
"33. Ladies, stop trippin when your man wants to watch sports, get out of the house to hang with his buddies or go play some football/basketball. When you do this, it sends the signal to him that you're trying to strip him of his hobbies & what he loves. YES honey he absolutely CAN love you AND 10 other hobbies at the same time =) How would YOU like it if your man took away your Haagen Daz, wouldn't let you watch your soap operas, or wouldn't let you talk to the friend on the other line whose crying & begging for your advice?! You'd be pissed! Accept that men have MANY different comfort zones outside of you! Don't take that away from them! Trust me, them watching Football once a day may actually be what's keeping him sane! And a sane man doesn't leave their girlfriends!"
This sounded sexist to me. I do not watch soap operas or eat ice cream on the couch watching Lifetime channel.I do not stay on the phone with friends listening to them crying. I actually love to watch sports. I have other activities/hobbies myself and the man in my life is not my main focus on surviving! To me, women get upset if their guy is always using his "buddies" or "the game" as an excuse to cheat. They do not get upset if that is what he really is doing. No woman wants a man around up their ass all the time...ugh. I want "me" time ; and I want a lot of it. I want my "girl" time too. I work, hang with my bff(lol), have pets, children, do animal rescue.I play guitar and drums, write,read, sell on Ebay, etc. These things make me who I am, a whole woman, and I resent anyone who thinks that we women are nothing less than that.
But why stereo-type the women? Haagen Daz-soap operas..WTH! Yes, there are women out there who are too clingy and must get a life. But I don't see it as the norm. We must stick together as women, not judge each other...
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38 calculated opinions is loaded on the chest to get off?
This is a venting?
So, this means that all of these opinions you've been clinging to your chest, and needed to release the anguish of them (which is the usual definition of a vent) ... you have a lot of anger inside of you, if you've been holding onto these because most of them are said in resentment that other people do them.
I realize that people make points in which it drives them crazy that other people do things, like me for example .... but, 38 — And they are vents off your chest that you needed to get out?
wow
This is a venting?
So, this means that all of these opinions you've been clinging to your chest, and needed to release the anguish of them (which is the usual definition of a vent) ... you have a lot of anger inside of you, if you've been holding onto these because most of them are said in resentment that other people do them.
I realize that people make points in which it drives them crazy that other people do things, like me for example .... but, 38 — And they are vents off your chest that you needed to get out?
wow
Posted by TheLadySagittarius
But why stereo-type the women? Haagen Daz-soap operas..WTH! Yes, there are women out there who are too clingy and must get a life. But I don't see it as the norm. We must stick together as women, not judge each other...
You took what I said the wrong way. If this doesn't apply to you, great. BUT it def. DOES apply to some women. As I always say, if the shoe fits, it fits. If not, then it doesn't apply to you. You can't take something so personal if it doesn't even apply to you.
To all the others....so now I have "anger issues?" lol the "diagnosis" you guys come up with are hilarious! Me having certain strong views about certain relationship/dating issues makes me a person with anger issues? Wow...so that means we ALL have anger issues then b/c every single last one of you has at 1 point in time talked about something you didn't like lol lol
but don't worry guys, I'm not taking it personal. I can't b/c none of you know me personally. I'm a very happy-go-lucky person. That doesn't change just b/c I don't support certain things going on in the dating world, as I'm sure most of you have common "dislikes" too. Smh smh
I think amethyst2002 gets what I was trying to say on #33. The icecream & soap opera lines were just SOME of the examples I came up with. Those are just the 1's I personally chose. No where did I ever say that all women were like that, nor can any of you deny that there aren't women like this. Point is, WHATEVER your man likes or finds as a hobby, let him keep it. Sames goes for women too.
It'd be no different than if a guy got offended when I said, "Stop cheating on your partner." Ok, that guy may NOT particularly cheat on his girl, so he'd have no reason to take that personally b/c the shoe doesn't fit. Me giving universal advice to men in general doesn't mean that I'm being sexist, stereotyping all men or saying that all men cheat. But if that guy wants to take it personal as if it's uncommon for men to cheat then so be it, but it'd be quite silly for him to do so. The "issues" I'm speaking about are all things I've personally seen myself.
Trust me, I was hoping the shoe DIDN'T fit for most of you reading my post! If it does, I can understand you getting offensive. BUT if it doesn't even fit, why take it so personal and/or act like some of this stuff isn't really going on?! It DEF. goes on
It'd be no different than if a guy got offended when I said, "Stop cheating on your partner." Ok, that guy may NOT particularly cheat on his girl, so he'd have no reason to take that personally b/c the shoe doesn't fit. Me giving universal advice to men in general doesn't mean that I'm being sexist, stereotyping all men or saying that all men cheat. But if that guy wants to take it personal as if it's uncommon for men to cheat then so be it, but it'd be quite silly for him to do so. The "issues" I'm speaking about are all things I've personally seen myself.
Trust me, I was hoping the shoe DIDN'T fit for most of you reading my post! If it does, I can understand you getting offensive. BUT if it doesn't even fit, why take it so personal and/or act like some of this stuff isn't really going on?! It DEF. goes on
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by venusianbull
Meow
See? The claws are out already 🙂click to expand
🙂 Retracted, unless necessary for a bit of slice and dice.
Aquas are the emotional air. 😛
They need to get their emotional views out on air often or they'll 'splode.
Krysrenee, I'd think you writ in response to you and yur hubbie's woes, or maybe a one too many church mate cam a'crying to you about their dating problems. Yes, Aqua always so willing to help solve problems of the emotional kind.
They need to get their emotional views out on air often or they'll 'splode.
Krysrenee, I'd think you writ in response to you and yur hubbie's woes, or maybe a one too many church mate cam a'crying to you about their dating problems. Yes, Aqua always so willing to help solve problems of the emotional kind.
LOL Well if that wasn't a male response. 🙂
Posted by everevolvingepithet
That's unnatural though ?
🙂
What, that women don't stick together or that they shouldn't judge each other?
Posted by Lena282Posted by krysrenee7
36. Sex is NOT the main thing that oughta keep a relationship going. It's supposed to be the ICING on the cake, NOT the cake itself. Any man/woman can go out & get some great sex; that takes NO effort. BUT not any man/woman can say that they have an amazing companion who JUST SO HAPPENS to be equally amazing in bed. THAT'S more rare! Have some faith in yourself & go after what's rare, NOT common! If you do, it'll last longer, trust me!
Damn it I've been getting it wrong all this time😛
I'll read the rest later, only scanned through it right now.click to expand
Lol
No cat fights, just discussing
33. Ladies, stop trippin when your man wants to watch sports, get out of the house to hang with his buddies or go play some football/basketball. When you do this, it sends the signal to him that you're trying to strip him of his hobbies & what he loves. YES honey he absolutely CAN love you AND 10 other hobbies at the same time =) How would YOU like it if your man complained every time you go out on a "girls" night, wouldn't let you take your BFF boy friend out to the movies without him, or wouldn't let you ride your motorcycle, bike, horse?! You'd be pissed! Accept that men have MANY different comfort zones outside of you! Don't take that away from them! Trust me, them watching Football once a day may actually be what's keeping him sane! And a sane man doesn't leave their girlfriends!
THIS just sounds better is all!!!
THIS just sounds better is all!!!
I keep getting mind-drifted when I read Krysrenee's typing. Were you writing in a semi-sober state? Why aren't your points precise and to the point? I keep getting it is waffle and though the points are concrete, they just don't sink inn because the writer didn't seem to be concentrating when writing it. I can;t read finish it, and I'm barely on the first para. I keep getting drifted off to the etheric mindpool of pure nothingness.
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by TheLadySagittariusPosted by everevolvingepithet
That's unnatural though ?
🙂
What, that women don't stick together or that they shouldn't judge each other?
That they don't stick together 🙂
It's natural for you girls to be catty though.click to expand
Male superiority complex..
"Those dumb girls, leave them to their bickering. It's natural and trifle. It's what they always do. You just have to tolerate the bs"
dot.
questionmark? fullstop.
Posted by TheLadySagittarius
But why stereo-type the women? Haagen Daz-soap operas..WTH! Yes, there are women out there who are too clingy and must get a life. But I don't see it as the norm. We must stick together as women, not judge each other...
Um..okay let me get this straight..you don't have a problem with the point(that the woman should accept that her man might have hobbies and stuff beyond her)...just the details of the point?(that krys didn't mention women can ALSO like sports) Is that it?
You don't find that strange? To get on someone for the details they used to illustrate their point?
wait are you making a joke? Is that it? I'm lost.
Posted by spica
Aquas are the emotional air. 😛
They need to get their emotional views out on air often or they'll 'splode.
Krysrenee, I'd think you writ in response to you and yur hubbie's woes, or maybe a one too many church mate cam a'crying to you about their dating problems. Yes, Aqua always so willing to help solve problems of the emotional kind.
Yes!!! This is perfect!!! Emotional air, perfect way to describe..their emotions are ALL theoretical...it's just spewing out from the fountain like a open hydrant..it's fun, you can play in it, drink it, bathe in it, try to stop it up so it'll spray in different directions.
Aquas are fun.
Once AGAIN, if me & my hubby are having problems, I'll make that known, instead of pretending like my topics are about others. Well I take that back, if I was even having problems with my husband to begin with (which I'm not-I'm VERY happily married), I wouldn't even bring my frustrations to this site.
Have you guys forgotten that I'm an Aquarius?! We can talk about the most deepest of subjects & yet make the audience falsely believe that we're really just venting about things going on in our own lives. In reality we literally just love talking about a wide range & variety of things that others naturally go through. Unless we start attaching, "I" or "My husband said this" or "I went through this with my man" to what we're discussing, you can count on the fact that we're talking about something from a SUBJECTIVE/GENERALIZED point of view, vs. it being personal.
You guys are slippin. I thought you knew how Aquas operated!
Have you guys forgotten that I'm an Aquarius?! We can talk about the most deepest of subjects & yet make the audience falsely believe that we're really just venting about things going on in our own lives. In reality we literally just love talking about a wide range & variety of things that others naturally go through. Unless we start attaching, "I" or "My husband said this" or "I went through this with my man" to what we're discussing, you can count on the fact that we're talking about something from a SUBJECTIVE/GENERALIZED point of view, vs. it being personal.
You guys are slippin. I thought you knew how Aquas operated!
Good stuff. Thanks
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