inconsistency..

why do guys switch who they give attention to so regularly? it's so frustrating and confusing. like someone's face lights up when they see you and you go into dream mode and just when you start feeling something click it's gone to someone else. how one day u like someone and next day someone else based on who's surrounded by other guys? who looks unavailable? why guys go after someone that is sought by others or is taken but leave the one that is available and also who they might like alone? is being available and single boring to guys? the new trend I am seeing with social media is guys competing with someone's spouse for that persons attention?? can public display of a couple on social media make someone jealous or is it just wanting who you cannot have?

Posted by Impulsv
There are many fucked up humans men n female. Seeking attention
Worthiness by taking from others
Needing disfunction in their lives because healthy is not their normal.
But according to law of attraction we need to ask ourselves what about us are we attracting that. As like attracts like

I don't know but when someone seems interested in you and the feeling seems mutual and starts growing on you and then they switch that attention on someone else your heart drops. like how naive was I.. maybe the attention was just to get your attention then on to the next..

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crush junkies =_=

what's that?

Posted by tiziani
0.7 waist to hip ratio.

what?? what's that got to do with wanting someone new and unavailable?

Posted by sagiluv
Do the same!!! Give them attention a couple days in a row , then forget they exist & do something fun for you a couple days.. Taste of their own meds ‚‰

but where did the simple falling in love and wanting it forever go? people are so in your face because of social media that nobody misses nobody or wants just one person is what it is starting to look like..

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Posted by tiziani
0.7 waist to hip ratio.

what?? what's that got to do with wanting someone new and unavailable?

I believe it's an attention getter.

But it also seems like there's a specific story behind your post.

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haha yes nothing serious but this guy whose face showed genuine happiness seeing me today was looking past me at someone else and it had this impact on me sigh.. maybe I have just not been there to see same happiness on that persons face seeing other females hence the false expectation..maybe..

Social Media...the fall of humankind :/

Posted by Moonbutter
Social Media...the fall of humankind :/

people feel they have too many options in front of them to care about any one person..

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Posted by tiziani
0.7 waist to hip ratio.

what?? what's that got to do with wanting someone new and unavailable?

I believe it's an attention getter.

But it also seems like there's a specific story behind your post.

haha yes nothing serious but this guy whose face showed genuine happiness seeing me today was looking past me at someone else and it had this impact on me sigh.. maybe I have just not been there to see same happiness on that persons face seeing other females hence the false expectation..maybe..

lol ah yeah, I think we've all been there at least one time. All of us.

Just imagine, you might have unwittingly done it to some guy at one point too. It'll be some guy you never thought to pay attention to. It's a vicious circle.

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vicious circle it is..

People put too much value on the attention from the sex they are attracted to, and we often mistakenly believe its presence or the lack of its presence is somehow a reflection on who we are, what we have to offer, and our value. And once we get the attention from someone, we mistakenly believe we are entitled to it.

That is why I am indifferent towards human interactions.

Posted by LillyPetal
People put too much value on the attention from the sex they are attracted to, and we often mistakenly believe its presence or the lack of its presence is somehow a reflection on who we are, what we have to offer, and our value. And once we get the attention from someone, we mistakenly believe we are entitled to it.

That is why I am indifferent towards human interactions.

Entitlement creates a plethora of delusional mindsets.

God same thing happened to me. Crab boy liked me then lost interest and now it seems he'relationship official with her while telling shite like miss you. I don't get it. It hurts. I'm done with men. Its like all they want is who's status on social media now. Who's better than that one. Do they even care about feelings?

#1. Social Media is fake... the best thing you can do is get off it.

#2. Guys play games all the time... not everyone is real with you.

#3, Males have a sex drive that causes them to be attracted to multiple women at any given time and they don't know how to reign it in for just one person until they get to a certain age, and then some of them still don't want to be with one person.

#4. Most importantly, Men do not go for the easy to get, single "available" woman because there is no "chase" and they think shes not worth it. When I was single I never let on that I was and had many admirers courting me at the same time in hopes of locking me down. They all knew they had competition. Most of my girlfriends where judgemental of me doing this, but I didn't care. They stayed single or met men they chased after, supported and moved across the country to be close to, only to get dumped in the end for a higher value woman (the real woman that he, the man had to put effort into persuing).

@cocokat so how the hell you explain the guys that are 38? The guy I know cliqued with another girl fast and I don't think she played hard to get.. I think its bs. Either he wants you or not.

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@cocokat so how the hell you explain the guys that are 38? The guy I know cliqued with another girl fast and I don't think she played hard to get.. I think its bs. Either he wants you or not.

Sure, but sex & love are very different things.

I'm in my 40s and I know quite a few men in their 40s online trying to get with other women even though they are married. Some of them join Tinder.

Online has spoiled men. Most of them aren't smart enough to know that there are not that many more women online than in real life. They have fun just playing because they think their choices are unlimited. A common tactic with online sex and dating websites change the numbers of availability and steal photos of women from other cities so most dudes think they have unlimited supply and they don't put the energy into just one.

@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

I know it hurts ALOT!

Best to date a few people at a time and don't invest emotionally until you asked for a commitment. Def don't sleep with anyone before. Guys do hold out for the ladies they are super into, and fall in love with ladies they trust (that don't open their legs to soon).

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

He wasn't into you like that in the first place. Probably just wanted sex all along that's it.

You might not fit his wants or needs in a relationship.

Don't take it personally. There are other men out there. Just keep your confidence up and don't be hard on yourself. Something better is around the corner.

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definitely!

You know what Ive noticed..Its easy for guys who aren't super into someone to act all smooth and gallant, a lot of us fall for that act. When a guy is a bit nervous, usually it means hes really into you.

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

He wasn't into you like that in the first place. Probably just wanted sex all along that's it.

You might not fit his wants or needs in a relationship.

Don't take it personally. There are other men out there. Just keep your confidence up and don't be hard on yourself. Something better is around the corner.

definitely!

You know what Ive noticed..Its easy for guys who aren't super into someone to act all smooth and gallant, a lot of us fall for that act. When a guy is a bit nervous, usually it means hes really into you.

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But he was Perusing me HARD. I didn't give in too quick either...I didn't care. Ugh and he still likes my photos but he has a g/f . I don't get what that means? He thinks of me as a friend ?

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

He wasn't into you like that in the first place. Probably just wanted sex all along that's it.

You might not fit his wants or needs in a relationship.

Don't take it personally. There are other men out there. Just keep your confidence up and don't be hard on yourself. Something better is around the corner.

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Its hard not to take it personally when I liked it a lot. Its still a rejection.

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

He wasn't into you like that in the first place. Probably just wanted sex all along that's
it.

You might not fit his wants or needs in a relationship.

Don't take it personally. There are other men out there. Just keep your confidence up and don't be hard on yourself. Something better is around the corner.

Its hard not to take it personally when I liked it a lot. Its still a rejection.

Yes but it was a rejection. So take it as a rejection and nothing more. You are hurting yourself now not him because he is no longer
in the picture.

You will feel that way again and hopefully this time it will be mutual.

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Actually no thank you. Fuq all men

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

He wasn't into you like that in the first place. Probably just wanted sex all along that's it.

You might not fit his wants or needs in a relationship.

Don't take it personally. There are other men out there. Just keep your confidence up and don't be hard on yourself. Something better is around the corner.

definitely!

You know what Ive noticed..Its easy for guys who aren't super into someone to act all smooth and gallant, a lot of us fall for that act. When a guy is a bit nervous, usually it means hes really into you.

But he was Perusing me HARD. I didn't give in too quick either...I didn't care. Ugh and he still likes my photos but he has a g/f . I don't get what that means? He thinks of me as a friend ?

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That's awful, but common.

A lot of guys are playas...

Next time, Don't give in until HE ASKS FOR exclusivity. He'll hang around if hes into you.

@cocokat so even when he has a girlfriend him liking my Instagram photos means he still like me?

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@cocokat so even when he has a girlfriend him liking my Instagram photos means he still like me?

No. He likes the attention possible future sex again, maybe. Like Arieslove says Your on a rotation.

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@cocokat so even when he has a girlfriend him liking my Instagram photos means he still like me?

No. He likes the attention possible future sex again, maybe. Like Arieslove says Your on a rotation.

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Thats just wrong. I mean he just got in a relationship. Plus im not giving him any attention.

@cocokat BTW we didn't have sex. I stopped at foreplay.

@cocokat oh and maybe he felt rejected? That's why he didn't want to persue me after?

Posted by Impulsv
No means he is just entertaining himself 😢

What do u mean? Sorry

I am so fixed consistently i just stand there and observe and see a while more. When I see someone not bring consistency it automatically set flares up for me to keep sight from afar or get really close and personal and see it all in your actions of general public. People see everything clearly when fixed.

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@cocokat BTW we didn't have sex. I stopped at foreplay.

this is good. Imagine how awful you would feel if you slept with him.


I would cut him off. You're not his first choice, hes girlfriending up someone else.

You'll be better off, trust me.

He'll probably keep hounding you via social media or texts and keep you on a string if you allow it.

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@cocokat oh and maybe he felt rejected? That's why he didn't want to persue me after?

No, he didn't feel rejected. He has too many options.. you maybe his fourth or 5th down the line and so hes keeping you on a string. Don't pity a smooth talker who leads you on to feel you are the only one and boyfriends up someone else. He led you on and he should be concerned about your feelings, he rejected you.

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@cocokat yeah but I'm talking about him being into you then loosing interest finds another one and boom their in relationship. Im mindblown because I want a relationship and the same guy that chose someone else just wanted sex from me. It hurts

He wasn't into you like that in the first place. Probably just wanted sex all along that's it.

You might not fit his wants or needs in a relationship.

Don't take it personally. There are other men out there. Just keep your confidence up and don't be hard on yourself. Something better is around the corner.

definitely!

You know what Ive noticed..Its easy for guys who aren't super into someone to act all smooth and gallant, a lot of us fall for that act. When a guy is a bit nervous, usually it means hes really into you.

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but if he is nervous HOW is he going to make a move and WHEN.

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@cocokat oh and maybe he felt rejected? That's why he didn't want to persue me after?

if you had given in you would be more hurt him rejecting after sex..this is much better..

I still fee destroyed...we had Venus opposite Pluto I was the Venus. Which is weird cuz I don't get the karma aspect from that.

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I still fee destroyed...we had Venus opposite Pluto I was the Venus. Which is weird cuz I don't get the karma aspect from that.

I don't know about karma, but Ive experienced venus/pluto.. its awful & heartbreaking. I run if I see pluto in conjunction/opposition/square/quincunx to personal planets. Its a heartbreak aspect... The inner planet usually feels it more intensely. Its awful. I'm so sorry, that's a nightmare!

Whats sick is pluto will keep trying to wield his power for the hell of it (playing). I would cut this off asap. If you slept with him it would have been heartbreak of epic proportions.

@cocokat you're so right! Now that he has a g/f he's stacking me aggressively with the likes. He never did that before on every damn photo I post. Wtf is he's problem? I feel like he's trying to tell me something with the likes. Of course I'm not reacting, bit I just find it odd now that he has girl he's doing g that to me.

sounds awful, you're way to good for that crap, don't settle for being less than #1. If you stop contact with him you are sending him a clear message that you value yourself. I wouldn't block him, then it looks like you care too much. Just do you.

I saw your other post.. I also think hes immature and wants you get angry or give some kind of emotional reaction at how you where treated so it will feed his ego and then he will continue to play with you. Or he needs a "pride" of backup chics to feel good about himself. Either way don't pay him any mind. If he genuinely liked you alot he would be with you.

@cocokat yeah I think he think I didn't see his photos with her and wants to get my attention like that...fuck that! I'm not liking...I'm not going to react. Wtf does he expect? For me to cry to him and ask why her not me?! Damn

don't know what is going on with this guy, he went from giving overjoyed expressions last week to sometimes walking past without looking this week. not that we had anything going, other than showing happiness seeing each other and liking his side face but i am puzzled. this might not be related with me, but if it is then why wud a guy go from happy to indifferent towards someone when there is no other interaction between them other than the smiling acknowledgement? if the reaction is not personal then why is it not consistent (happy always)? and if it is personal then why the withdrawal..

Posted by victoriagemini
@cocokat you're so right! Now that he has a g/f he's stacking me aggressively with the likes. He never did that before on every damn photo I post. Wtf is he's problem? I feel like he's trying to tell me something with the likes. Of course I'm not reacting, bit I just find it odd now that he has girl he's doing g that to me.

just unfriend him on your facebook if you feel disrespected by him due to him leaving u and getting together with someone else. some of us can't stay friends with our heartbreakers..

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don't know what is going on with this guy, he went from giving overjoyed expressions last week to sometimes walking past without looking this week. not that we had anything going, other than showing happiness seeing each other and liking his side face but i am puzzled. this might not be related with me, but if it is then why wud a guy go from happy to indifferent towards someone when there is no other interaction between them other than the smiling acknowledgement? if the reaction is not personal then why is it not consistent (happy always)? and if it is personal then why the withdrawal..

he's playing, its a tactic. Mirror his behavior...

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but why? we dont know each other on a personal level and there is no interaction other than the how are you's then why the sudden drop in the how are you's?