In an onlie relationship for 5 months. Will meet in person in september. Scared he will find me ugly

He has met me in person only once. 4 years ago.
I used to look VERY ugly back then.

Now my appearance has improved slightly (in person) and i have addressed this issue with him. About how i was ugly before and how i am slightly better now.

But facebook selfies are always pretty than real life right?

We have only had communication through facebook/whatsapp in past 5 months where we are sort of in a relationship. I asked him out. But, he has only seen my facebook selfies.

He will be flying a long way just to meet me in spetember.

I am scared he will find me ugly in person and regret flying all the way here.

Maybe you'll find him repulsive?

Women are more beautiful than they realize.
Men are more handsome than they realize.

Everything will be okay.

Posted by OceanBoy88
Just wondering, why haven't you two used Skype? Skype helps the LDR's

He asked to skype.
I refused coz im scared he will find me ugly.

I made an excuse.

Posted by DMV
Maybe you'll find him repulsive?

I found him cute when we had met.

But "I", was VERY repulsive. VERY.

Posted by Bloop

Posted by DMV
Maybe you'll find him repulsive?

I found him cute when we had met.

But "I", was VERY repulsive. VERY.

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Dont believe the hype. If he doesnt like what youre selling find another buyer

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Posted by DMV
Maybe you'll find him repulsive?

I found him cute when we had met.

But "I", was VERY repulsive. VERY.

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You've met once before when you were 'less attractive'. He didn't run then, chances are good he won't run now. This is obvious to any semi rational person.

I can only then suspect you are looking for excuses not meet him for a greater, underlying issue.

Posted by DollyLuxe
Well the fact that he's talking to you and is in an online relationship with you just shows he doesn't find you repulsive. I mean a man won't waste that much time and effort on a woman he's not attracted to right?

He is a virgin and is pretty high on gettibg laid "that first time". I know that because we have sort of been good friends too (online only) before feelings were discussed.

Posted by BullShit
Look as far as I know if a guy starts talking talking to you that means he finds you attractive, now what his intentions are is a different story. Here the man is flying out to see you, you're past that does he find attractive phase now you're in the don't fuck with your insecurities phase. Please understand he likes you for you, the total package. Ease your mind.

Well.
He is a virgin and hasnt had a relationship with any woman ever.
So he just wants companionship right now. He has said that.

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Posted by OceanBoy88
Just wondering, why haven't you two used Skype? Skype helps the LDR's

He asked to skype.
I refused coz im scared he will find me ugly.

I made an excuse.

Please Skype with him, so you can get over this fear. I can promise you on my life he wont find you ugly. My ex would never want to come on Skype, always scared always apprehensive. She ended up ending the relationship due to her insecurities. Hurting not only me but I'm heavily assuming herself as well. Beat your fears, when a man is into a woman looks start to take a back seat. The reason you sparked him interest 9/10 was because you were attractive to him, then as time went on you two bonded and things became deeper. Trust me, he will find you beautiful. I can pretty much guarantee that. Don't make him a casualty of your insecurities.

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It was me who initiated "romantic feelings" first.
He was totally cool being a friend.

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Well the fact that he's talking to you and is in an online relationship with you just shows he doesn't find you repulsive. I mean a man won't waste that much time and effort on a woman he's not attracted to right?

He is a virgin and is pretty high on gettibg laid "that first time". I know that because we have sort of been good friends too (online only) before feelings were discussed.

Exactly how old is this guy?

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28 i guess

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Posted by DollyLuxe
Well the fact that he's talking to you and is in an online relationship with you just shows he doesn't find you repulsive. I mean a man won't waste that much time and effort on a woman he's not attracted to right?

He is a virgin and is pretty high on gettibg laid "that first time". I know that because we have sort of been good friends too (online only) before feelings were discussed.

Exactly how old is this guy?

28 i guess

Okay 28 and still a virgin.. That may have an impact on his intentions.. Then again he could be lying, it's all online after all..

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It's completely believable for him to be a Virgin at 28. And he could be lying even if this wasn't online.

@OP, you are overthinking to death that you are now beginning to question his motives. You will be meeting for the first time in several weeks. Wouldn't it be better to just put it out of your mind or focus more energy on planning fun things to experience together?

Also, it's a good idea to talk to him about the insecurities you feel about seeing each other. I promise you he has fears of his own, and opening up to him will probably give him courage to do the same. That will bring you both closer together and you will get peace of mind so that you can feel excited and giddy and positive about your meet! *^___^*

@OP, I WILL SHAKE YOU TILL YOUR NECK SNAPS!

You say you two MET in person before and you were supposedly "very ugly" then but have now improved your looks slightly. And the guy is still FLYING A LONG WAY to see you even after having seen your "very ugly" self before?

GIRL. What are you worried about— He clearly wants to see you because he likes you! And wanting you sexually is not an insult, either.

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Posted by DMV
Maybe you'll find him repulsive?

I found him cute when we had met.

But "I", was VERY repulsive. VERY.

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And yet, he is still talking to you, after having met you in person, and still wants to skype. Don't let how you feel about your looks keep you from being happy. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and what is in the heart overshadows looks every time, for better or for worse.

Why are you worried about looks? I quit worrying about that in a woman years ago. I'm just lucky to find one that's not batshit crazy

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Well the fact that he's talking to you and is in an online relationship with you just shows he doesn't find you repulsive. I mean a man won't waste that much time and effort on a woman he's not attracted to right?

He is a virgin and is pretty high on gettibg laid "that first time". I know that because we have sort of been good friends too (online only) before feelings were discussed.

Exactly how old is this guy?

28 i guess

Okay 28 and still a virgin.. That may have an impact on his intentions.. Then again he could be lying, it's all online after all..

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well..he is a virgin. that im sure of

TY all. It really helps

Posted by Bloop
He has met me in person only once. 4 years ago.
I used to look VERY ugly back then.

Now my appearance has improved slightly (in person) and i have addressed this issue with him. About how i was ugly before and how i am slightly better now.

But facebook selfies are always pretty than real life right?

We have only had communication through facebook/whatsapp in past 5 months where we are sort of in a relationship. I asked him out. But, he has only seen my facebook selfies.

He will be flying a long way just to meet me in spetember.

I am scared he will find me ugly in person and regret flying all the way here.

What if you find HIM ugly?

Posted by Bloop
He has met me in person only once. 4 years ago.
I used to look VERY ugly back then.

Now my appearance has improved slightly (in person) and i have addressed this issue with him. About how i was ugly before and how i am slightly better now.

But facebook selfies are always pretty than real life right?

We have only had communication through facebook/whatsapp in past 5 months where we are sort of in a relationship. I asked him out. But, he has only seen my facebook selfies.

He will be flying a long way just to meet me in spetember.

I am scared he will find me ugly in person and regret flying all the way here.

What if you find HIM ugly?

Posted by Sssupes
Why are you worried about looks? I quit worrying about that in a woman years ago. I'm just lucky to find one that's not batshit crazy

Amen, bro!

And I'm just happy to find one who has his shit together and isn't an asshole. 🙂

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Posted by Bloop
He has met me in person only once. 4 years ago.
I used to look VERY ugly back then.

Now my appearance has improved slightly (in person) and i have addressed this issue with him. About how i was ugly before and how i am slightly better now.

But facebook selfies are always pretty than real life right?

We have only had communication through facebook/whatsapp in past 5 months where we are sort of in a relationship. I asked him out. But, he has only seen my facebook selfies.

He will be flying a long way just to meet me in spetember.

I am scared he will find me ugly in person and regret flying all the way here.

Op don't over think this one.

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No. Over thinking this particular point will do you more harm than good.

Posted by Sssupes
Why are you worried about looks? I quit worrying about that in a woman years ago. I'm just lucky to find one that's not batshit crazy

HAY. i thought leo men only liked attractive women.

Posted by Bloop
He has met me in person only once. 4 years ago.
I used to look VERY ugly back then.

Now my appearance has improved slightly (in person) and i have addressed this issue with him. About how i was ugly before and how i am slightly better now.

But facebook selfies are always pretty than real life right?

We have only had communication through facebook/whatsapp in past 5 months where we are sort of in a relationship. I asked him out. But, he has only seen my facebook selfies.

He will be flying a long way just to meet me in spetember.

I am scared he will find me ugly in person and regret flying all the way here.

It is simple, he would not fly all that way if that were the case.
IF he does convey that he is not physically attracted to you, spit on his face and move on. If he's only in it for the looks then he's not the one baby girl. He just ain't.

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Posted by Sssupes
Why are you worried about looks? I quit worrying about that in a woman years ago. I'm just lucky to find one that's not batshit crazy

Amen, bro!

And I'm just happy to find one who has his shit together and isn't an asshole. 🙂

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❤❤

Pics pls.

Posted by LibWman

Posted by Sssupes
Why are you worried about looks? I quit worrying about that in a woman years ago. I'm just lucky to find one that's not batshit crazy

HAY. i thought leo men only liked attractive women.

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We eventually learn our lesson. The average looking woman is much more appreciative. Plus, they still look good and can suck a golfball through 8ft garden hose (because they appreciate their man)

Posted by Vixen2

Number 3 makes me feel anxious and stressed.