Intense Synastry: Moon Sextile Pluto AND Venus Opposite Pluto

Hello everyone! This is my first post EVER relating to astrology, so I would really appreciate your help and understanding.

Here's the deal: I have found myself inexplicably, intensely enraptured by a male Scorpio coworker who is 10 years my senior (about 40). We come from very different cultural / geographical backgrounds and we are both in committed relationships so this really feels like it is coming out of nowhere. Seriously, this man is making me question EVERYTHING I thought I knew about love.

Since I met him about a year ago, I have felt a spooky magnetism towards him that continues to intensify. And when I say magnetism, I mean way more than simple lust or infatuation -- this feels like fate or soulmates or something. I have NEVER even remotely felt this way about someone before, nor did I think it was even possible outside the movies (my former self would be rolling her eyes about now). This just feels so deep, like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

In addition to this general "feeling", our relationship has been filled with lots of synchronicities / weird coincidences, and we have this ability to communicate that requires almost no spoken words. He has actually asked me how I am able to read his mind (though I feel like he can read mine just as well). Often all we have to do is look at each other.

I know that the general feelings are mutual (we have confronted the fact that we are attracted to each other -- it was unavoidable) but I am trying to figure out if I should blow up our existing relationships and run off into the sunset together, or if this is just too intense to last (or even be real?). I have been waiting for months to see if this was just an obsession that would fizzle out, but my feelings only seem to get stronger.

As far as aspects go, my moon sextiles his pluto, my venus opposes his moon, and my moon trines his neptune, among other things...

It is possible we have some other moon aspects (either moon/moon or sun/moon) but I don't know his time of birth.

I am pretty distraught over this so if you guys could give me some insight I would be terribly grateful. It would also be helpful to know how you guys think he is feeling about all of this... Is he as obsessed as me? Lol.

Here are some of our other significant aspects:

My Saturn Conjunct His Mercury
My Moon Sextile His Pluto
My Mercury Sextile His Saturn
My Venus Sextile His Jupiter
My Jupiter Sextile His Mercury
My Mercury Square His Jupiter
My Venus Square His Saturn
My Moon Trine His Neptune
My Mercury Trine His Venus
My Moon Opposition His Jupiter
My Venus opposition His Pluto
My Uranus Opposition His Moon
My Neptune Opposition His Saturn

Hi you have quite a few oppositions and squares which can lead to a strong attraction to each other at first, but do not have longevity. However there are close saturn aspects, a conjunction and opposition to mercury. after a while there could be restrictive feelings and one making the other feel they can't do or say anything right with that opposition.

Indeed even you sun's are a close square, aries and scorpio are notorious for massive initial attraction which soon fizzles out once the deeds been done so to speak!

If you were to run off with this older guy, it would most probably not last the course and people would get hurt in the process, including yourself.

Might be worth taking a look at your composite chart though, look for love stellium (venus, sun, Mercury in close conjunction) and more trines. Sextiles are ok but weaker than trines. Also any composite or synastry chart formations such as grand trine etc.

This website is great for generating charts http://www.astro.com/cgi/genchart.cgi

One other thing, main soul mate connection points would be personal planets conjunct the others nodal axis. close pluto, saturn, vertex, asc axis, mc axis positively aspecting the others personal planets.

Sexual attraction: pluto, lilith, juno, mars, venus. Look up magi astrology, lots of info there.

Well something like this happened to me. I met a scorpio lady who was 10 years older than me. I had that magnatizing, instant attraction to her. I thought she was my soul mate. It didn't work out for a few reasons and I was in a relationship at the time. Nothing ever happened but she shook my foundations to the core. I didn't know a love like that was possible until I met her. I still think of her even though we have no contact with each other anymore.

Personally I think if you have that kinda attraction to someone else you should explore it or you'll always end up longing for something else. Just didn't do it at the expense of your current partner. End things first then move on if you feel so strongly about it.