Is it wrong to go on a date with a guy you are not attracted to? (Page 2)

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by confusedaries7513 on Monday, May 15, 2017 and has 55 replies.

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Posted by bittercupcake
Yeah I agree with some people here but I necessarily woulnd't force myself to date someone who I'm not attracted to at all. That aqua moon can't be forced to do anything it doesn't feel.

i was forced growin up by my mom to go out on dates (because I wasn't interested) and i would tell her no. well i felt bad because they set up this blind date for me when i was 16. the guy was so quiet didn't say a thing at all. it felt so awkward so i tried to get him to converse with me. well turns out after i went home he found out where i lived and sent me love poems and declarations of love. apparently i struck a fancy with this guy. i felt so bad...my mom urged me to write him back. i said no! i'm sure he was heartbroken but i wasn't going to force something that i wasn't feeling nor that wasn't gonna go anywhere.

Oh no i didnt force myself. so it's all good 🙂

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Posted by Chuckcem
You can't force attraction. Sure there are other factors thatare involved, but what's really the point of going out on a date you're not into it in the first place?

If you were to go out with him as just friends that would be one thing. However going out with a guy who has romantic interest toward you when you have no feelings towards him sounds like you are leading him on, even if that's not what you mean to do. Just be honest with him.

For some people, attraction can be cultivated over time, provided that there exists some moderate level of interest. However, that doesn't seem to be the case for OP, so I would have turned him down from the get-go. I also don't think it's a good idea to be just friends with someone who is romantically interested in you (unless you started off as friends to begin with).

That said, dating involves risks, and most sensible people are aware that one date does not equate to mutual feelings and/or a future relationship.

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Very well said.

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Posted by bittercupcake

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Posted by bittercupcake
Yeah I agree with some people here but I necessarily woulnd't force myself to date someone who I'm not attracted to at all. That aqua moon can't be forced to do anything it doesn't feel.

i was forced growin up by my mom to go out on dates (because I wasn't interested) and i would tell her no. well i felt bad because they set up this blind date for me when i was 16. the guy was so quiet didn't say a thing at all. it felt so awkward so i tried to get him to converse with me. well turns out after i went home he found out where i lived and sent me love poems and declarations of love. apparently i struck a fancy with this guy. i felt so bad...my mom urged me to write him back. i said no! i'm sure he was heartbroken but i wasn't going to force something that i wasn't feeling nor that wasn't gonna go anywhere.

Oh no i didnt force myself. so it's all good 🙂

as long as you dont string someone along its all good.

you were probably jsut testing the water st to see if you could be a good match

nothing wrong with that. just make sure to leave things clear.

it sucks being the one left in the dust wondering what the hell happened.

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I completely agree and have been in that situation myself so wouldnt put anyone through it

Btw I Love love love audrey hepburn ?❤️