It's true!! Women love sensitive men :)

There are guys out there who fervently insist that women are turned off by sensitivity, genuine romance and attachment.

Ladies... Let's prove that that is BS! 😉

So a roll call...do YOU love genuinely sensitive, kind men?

Me: Chose my brilliant Aqua over a sexy, smooth-talking, wealthy bad boy. My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot. But he has lots of LOVE.

Do YOU go for the sweet and strong (not mutually exclusive) man? Describe the sweetheart you chose!! 🙂

Posted by Mr. Defense
And your opinion matters why?

Because I'm the one choosing the guys, bitch. ;]

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Describe the sweetheart you chose!! 🙂

Between the three men vying for my attention, I chose:
Silent, sensitive, expressive, determined, driven and strong.

He's not all that and a bag of chips, but he's good for me. 🙂

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For comparison's sake, how would you describe the other two?

Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
Basically what msmarilynmanson said. I like guys who express themselves artistically via music, writing, etc. Too much is over kill but yes, I love that romantical shit. Rough on the outside, soft teddy bear on the inside that only I get to experience.

Haha I'm an extreme case. The mushier the better! 🙂

My Jupiter in Cancer says...there's no such thing as overkill there.

(As long as it's genuine, o'course!)

im a bit materialistic and i cant date a broke dude. i can fuck one, but be committed to one is a no go. overly mushy men are a turn off. if im fit, he has to be fit. if im good looking, he'd better be good looking. i dont someone that nobody wants. if i have a great job, he should have an even better job. if i drive a great car, he should drive a better car. i want him to make money so he doesnt come looking for my money.

im into status....so shoot me

i like a man who can express himself without all the mushiness. i kinda see it as a sign of weakness. in comes the ball busting and i assume the manly role in the relationship because obviously he's not equipped to handle such a task.

just because a man isnt verbally and physically expressive doesnt mean he isnt sensitive and loving.

Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
And crunchy, I love how much pride you have in your man despite what others may think. That's cool. You're a cool chick.

You're a pretty cool cat yourself! 😉

My attitude is...random yahoos don't have to be attracted to my guy. He's all mine! ;p

Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
Basically what msmarilynmanson said. I like guys who express themselves artistically via music, writing, etc. Too much is over kill but yes, I love that romantical shit. Rough on the outside, soft teddy bear on the inside that only I get to experience.

i can get with that..Clark Kent and Superman

Posted by DMV
im a bit materialistic and i cant date a broke dude. i can fuck one, but be committed to one is a no go. overly mushy men are a turn off. if im fit, he has to be fit. if im good looking, he'd better be good looking. i dont someone that nobody wants. if i have a great job, he should have an even better job. if i drive a great car, he should drive a better car. i want him to make money so he doesnt come looking for my money.

im into status....so shoot me

i like a man who can express himself without all the mushiness. i kinda see it as a sign of weakness. in comes the ball busting and i assume the manly role in the relationship because obviously he's not equipped to handle such a task.

just because a man isnt verbally and physically expressive doesnt mean he isnt sensitive and loving.

Different strokes for different folks! Maybe you have less water in your chart than me, idk.

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Posted by DMV
im a bit materialistic and i cant date a broke dude. i can fuck one, but be committed to one is a no go. overly mushy men are a turn off. if im fit, he has to be fit. if im good looking, he'd better be good looking. i dont someone that nobody wants. if i have a great job, he should have an even better job. if i drive a great car, he should drive a better car. i want him to make money so he doesnt come looking for my money.

im into status....so shoot me

i like a man who can express himself without all the mushiness. i kinda see it as a sign of weakness. in comes the ball busting and i assume the manly role in the relationship because obviously he's not equipped to handle such a task.

just because a man isnt verbally and physically expressive doesnt mean he isnt sensitive and loving.

Different strokes for different folks! Maybe you have less water in your chart than me, idk.

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moon in scorp
merc in scorp
venus sq pluto
cancer rising

venus in cap, venus sq saturn has no time for that mushiness. we need to get shit done.

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Posted by crunchy
Describe the sweetheart you chose!! 🙂

Between the three men vying for my attention, I chose:
Silent, sensitive, expressive, determined, driven and strong.

He's not all that and a bag of chips, but he's good for me. 🙂

For comparison's sake, how would you describe the other two?

Well, I didn't get to know them well, but they were boring to me. They both tried to woo me the "socially" accepted way with dinner dates and gifts. I think I just saw through them, though.

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Meh...yeah, super "normal" people scare me a bit. I'm so irreversibly weird, that "normal humans" are foreign specimens to me! ha

Posted by Mr. Defense
I'm sorry, I don't know ANYONE who takes sensitive men seriously. It's amazing what people yearn for online doesn't translate well offline. I think you women are full of shit, but that's just one man's opinion. I know I wouldn't listen to a word you had to say. Again, what comes out of a woman's mouth doesn't matter. What they respond to does. And they don't respond to sensitive men.

I think you're being over sensitive right now. Just not in a good way.

But keep on swimming in denial.


...and protip: maybe if you don't purposely seek out materialistic chicks only, you won't find yourself surrounded by them. Nuh duh.

Posted by crunchy

My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot.

Not sure why you felt it was necessary to mention these things about your man when the title was self explanatory. Sounds like you secretly relish the fact that somehow these things make him inferior to you in some way.

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Posted by crunchy

My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot.

Not sure why you felt it was necessary to mention these things about your man when the title was self explanatory. Sounds like you secretly relish the fact that somehow these things make him inferior to you in some way.

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No. I wanted to point out that I'm not after him for looks or money. No need to be so negative.

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Posted by DMV
im a bit materialistic and i cant date a broke dude. i can fuck one, but be committed to one is a no go. overly mushy men are a turn off. if im fit, he has to be fit. if im good looking, he'd better be good looking. i dont someone that nobody wants. if i have a great job, he should have an even better job. if i drive a great car, he should drive a better car. i want him to make money so he doesnt come looking for my money.

im into status....so shoot me

i like a man who can express himself without all the mushiness. i kinda see it as a sign of weakness. in comes the ball busting and i assume the manly role in the relationship because obviously he's not equipped to handle such a task.

just because a man isnt verbally and physically expressive doesnt mean he isnt sensitive and loving.

Different strokes for different folks! Maybe you have less water in your chart than me, idk.

moon in scorp
merc in scorp
venus sq pluto
cancer rising

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Looks like we're equally watery...

Venus Scorp
Pluto Scorp
Jupiter Cancer (aka chocolate chip cookies placement)

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Posted by crunchy

My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot.

Not sure why you felt it was necessary to mention these things about your man when the title was self explanatory. Sounds like you secretly relish the fact that somehow these things make him inferior to you in some way.

No. I wanted to point out that I'm not after him for looks or money. No need to be so negative.

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It was belittling.

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Posted by crunchy

My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot.

Not sure why you felt it was necessary to mention these things about your man when the title was self explanatory. Sounds like you secretly relish the fact that somehow these things make him inferior to you in some way.

No. I wanted to point out that I'm not after him for looks or money. No need to be so negative.

It was belittling.

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Not my intention. But I'm not responsible for how you react to things.

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Posted by DMV
im a bit materialistic and i cant date a broke dude. i can fuck one, but be committed to one is a no go. overly mushy men are a turn off. if im fit, he has to be fit. if im good looking, he'd better be good looking. i dont someone that nobody wants. if i have a great job, he should have an even better job. if i drive a great car, he should drive a better car. i want him to make money so he doesnt come looking for my money.

im into status....so shoot me

i like a man who can express himself without all the mushiness. i kinda see it as a sign of weakness. in comes the ball busting and i assume the manly role in the relationship because obviously he's not equipped to handle such a task.

just because a man isnt verbally and physically expressive doesnt mean he isnt sensitive and loving.

Wow you came in and owned this entire thread. At least there are women who come on the internet and who are honest.

the other women are being honest too. it's hilarious to me that the man that has nothing to offer women but money only believes the woman that makes it about that. if you were a more worthy person you'd attract nice girls too. what woman would lower themselves to be with a waste of space like you? all you have to offer is what's in your pocketbook. that's why you keep getting gold diggers. spend some of the time you spend making money on developing a decent personality and you'll have much better women to choose between.

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+1

i remember a guy sang me a poem he wrote for me and i almost threw up in my mouth.

one guy gave me a mixtape and it had slow jams on it. i couldnt even play it all the way through.


i guess its love languages and venus at work.

if my man woke up bright and early and took my truck for an oil change, detailing, gassed it up and brought it back before i even noticed he and it were gone. that shit is hella dope.

morning texts are very much appreciated. a simple hi, have a great day goes a long way. he can leave off the 143 and hearts. even bring me lunch is dope.

Posted by DMV
i remember a guy sang me a poem he wrote for me and i almost threw up in my mouth.

one guy gave me a mixtape and it had slow jams on it. i couldnt even play it all the way through.


i guess its love languages and venus at work.

if my man woke up bright and early and took my truck for an oil change, detailing, gassed it up and brought it back before i even noticed he and it were gone. that shit is hella dope.

morning texts are very much appreciated. a simple hi, have a great day goes a long way. he can leave off the 143 and hearts. even bring me lunch is dope.

Was it at least a good poem?

Speaking of lunch...time for me to get back to work. haha

I'm sure this thread will explode into 50 pages of Maury by the time I get back. xD

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Posted by crunchy

My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot.

Not sure why you felt it was necessary to mention these things about your man when the title was self explanatory. Sounds like you secretly relish the fact that somehow these things make him inferior to you in some way.

No. I wanted to point out that I'm not after him for looks or money. No need to be so negative.

It was belittling.

Not my intention. But I'm not responsible for how you react to things.

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Of course not. However, you should take responsibility for the way you talk about the people you supposedly care so much for.

This won't change anything for you though.

Have a wonderful night.

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Posted by DMV
i remember a guy sang me a poem he wrote for me and i almost threw up in my mouth.

one guy gave me a mixtape and it had slow jams on it. i couldnt even play it all the way through.


i guess its love languages and venus at work.

if my man woke up bright and early and took my truck for an oil change, detailing, gassed it up and brought it back before i even noticed he and it were gone. that shit is hella dope.

morning texts are very much appreciated. a simple hi, have a great day goes a long way. he can leave off the 143 and hearts. even bring me lunch is dope.

Was it at least a good poem?

Speaking of lunch...time for me to get back to work. haha

I'm sure this thread will explode into 50 pages of Maury by the time I get back. xD

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i have no idea, i tuned out after he said the word "feel"

I love a sensitive man, but it depends on the amount/ type of sensitivity.

I don't date sissies, whiners, or Momma's boys. If I can kick his ass, he's not for me. Men should be men.

I like a man who is in touch with his feelings but also in control of them.

Mine is very good at expressing his feelings, he is very sweet, he's a cuddler, and he is also nurturing, but he's also a very strong person. He's very caring, I've seen it with his friends and family members, he truly listens to them, asks how they are feeling, etc. he'd make a great counselor but he's not overly mushy and he doesn't really wear his heart on his sleeve all the time.

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Posted by crunchy

My Aqua is overweight and objectively average looking...he's even had people laughing and making mean comments about us being together. But to me he looks amazing. Nope, he doesn't make much money, and he doesn't have a lot.

Not sure why you felt it was necessary to mention these things about your man when the title was self explanatory. Sounds like you secretly relish the fact that somehow these things make him inferior to you in some way.

No. I wanted to point out that I'm not after him for looks or money. No need to be so negative.

It was belittling.

Not my intention. But I'm not responsible for how you react to things.

Of course not. However, you should take responsibility for the way you talk about the people you supposedly care so much for.

This won't change anything for you though.

Have a wonderful night.

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Saying that he makes statistically less money than average, and that he's clinically overweight...are simply facts. Not insults. Unless you consider not being loaded and ripped an inherently bad thing. Good night to you, too.

Posted by Mr. Defense
DMV is a real woman. You chicks are the main ones complaining about no good men, because your priorities are all fucked up. The point is that a guy who can play you a song, really isn't pulling his weight. If you want something fufilling, then you need a man with more solid characteristics. And let's be honest, you chicks love a guy whose all mushy, because he's easy to manipulate and control. You're all a bunch of man hating feminist, who want your men emasculated and docile. That is because you're not woman enough to have any real standard for men. I can go all over this board, and you women are complaining about men who can't get the job done. you can't put 2 and 2 together. and anyone who doesn't play into your fantasies and fairytales are bitter and jaded. But it's really just you chicks who can't deal with reality.

Translation:

waaaaaaaaahhhhh

I am not attracted to sensitive men at all. It has to do with how I was raised i suppose. I saw my father cry twice: when his mother died and when his wife, my mother died. That's it. I don't like it. I equate being sensitive with being soft. I'm soft. My man is supposed to be hard like a rock or a brick. In my opinion all these skinny jean wearing pierced up dudes are so corny. I feel bad for the young women today. To each his own I suppose.

It's probably why I'm with a Cap. He is the opposite of sensitive. There are times when I wish he would tell me it's going to be alright. He usually says get over it and I do.

My cancer mars loves protective guys. But, I find it highly attractive when those men actually turn out to be softies. Communicating about our emotions and feelings is key to my happiness in a relationship, so a guy who doesn't talk about how he feels is a no-go. Being soft does not necessarily equal sensitive. I like open guys who aren't afraid to voice what they feel, but I DON'T like guys who whine or complain all the time. I'm strong enough that I don't need a guy to be that boulder that keeps me held in place. I can hold myself. Traditional guys are a no-go, too. If you cover my part of the tab, then you better let me cover yours, too, another time. My partner is my equal. We compromise and we work together. We do the same things and there is no gender roles. I guess liking equality would also lead into me liking guys who aren't too manly, even if they outwardly seem to be.

Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
Modest men that know their power but treat a woman softly. Ain't nothin' wrong with that.

+1

Beautifully said ultra.

Posted by DMV
i cant date a broke dude.

I don't think ANY woman can date a broke dude. I don't give a damn what they say. Who wants to date a loser? Please I wouldn't even want to fuck 1. He would totally turn me off.

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if my man woke up bright and early and took my truck for an oil change, detailing, gassed it up and brought it back before i even noticed he and it were gone. that shit is hella dope.

morning texts are very much appreciated. a simple hi, have a great day goes a long way. he can leave off the 143 and hearts. even bring me lunch is dope.

This I can dig.

Posted by Theultra79
My guy is funny, quick-witted, sexy, broke nursing student. He's 6'2 about 220 (perfect IMO). Insecure about his love handles thinning hair. I chose him over those with more money and/or better looks for numerous reasons.

He has integrity, he makes the right decisions even when they're hard, he treats people right. He hates injustice in the world and he doesn't participate in it. He's a great role model and father to his son. He shelters him from the evil that's out there and he's starting to do the same with me.


He's not the most romantic guy in the world but he is extremely sensitive. Even tho he tries to hide it, lol, he very clearly is. The other day he was apologizing to me for something he thought offended me but it didn't. I thought it was so cute.

The chemistry is off the charts in the bedroom and out.

I knew I wanted him when during one of our first conversations he said that he wanted to be a foster parent when his son leaves the house. I was blown away because I have that same goal too! Still makes me smile. 🙂

I wouldn't trade him for the most empirically handsome, richest man in the world.

I've had a relationship, a child, and an annulled marriage with the rich handsome guy. I couldn't trust him, so what good was he as a partner? None as far as I'm concerned.

It's about who makes you feel happier to be around. And who you can have a loving and relatively peaceful relationship with. Not money, power, or looks.

I can dig this too. I actually dated a Sag that was pretty well off. A real estate developer to be exact, but I couldn't stand him after a while. He gave me everything I wanted, but didn't give me what I needed so I dumped him for a man who was younger & did give me what I NEEDED, who wasn't well off, had an average job...& you know what, I loved him to the moon.

It's not all about money, but he has to be able to be a provider, protector. I have my own career, make my own money but I cannot, & will not date a completely broke dude, I'm sorry. No one wants a loser, what so he can think that I'm his meal ticket? Oh hell no. He has to have something to offer me because dust does not pay the bills...

I do agree with DMV and RealTalk. I won't date a broke dude, but only because I don't want to end up financially supporting him. Fuck no. We should both be taking care of ourselves independently.

Posted by Nala13
I am not attracted to sensitive men at all. It has to do with how I was raised i suppose. I saw my father cry twice: when his mother died and when his wife, my mother died. That's it. I don't like it. I equate being sensitive with being soft. I'm soft. My man is supposed to be hard like a rock or a brick. In my opinion all these skinny jean wearing pierced up dudes are so corny. I feel bad for the young women today. To each his own I suppose.

It's probably why I'm with a Cap. He is the opposite of sensitive. There are times when I wish he would tell me it's going to be alright. He usually says get over it and I do.

+1

id like to add that crying doesnt make one weak. i think expressing emotions is healthy.

i dont think ive seen my father cry at all. scorpio moon in aspect to saturn.

maybe how we view men has to do with out fathers? look to saturn

i do love Wiz Kalifah. he can rock my skinny jeans all day long.

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Posted by DMV
i cant date a broke dude.

I don't think ANY woman can date a broke dude. I don't give a damn what they say. Who wants to date a loser? Please I wouldn't even want to fuck 1. He would totally turn me off.

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ive done it and it is dumb and impossible. u will start to resent him

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Posted by Theultra79
My guy is funny, quick-witted, sexy, broke nursing student. He's 6'2 about 220 (perfect IMO). Insecure about his love handles thinning hair. I chose him over those with more money and/or better looks for numerous reasons.

He has integrity, he makes the right decisions even when they're hard, he treats people right. He hates injustice in the world and he doesn't participate in it. He's a great role model and father to his son. He shelters him from the evil that's out there and he's starting to do the same with me.


He's not the most romantic guy in the world but he is extremely sensitive. Even tho he tries to hide it, lol, he very clearly is. The other day he was apologizing to me for something he thought offended me but it didn't. I thought it was so cute.

The chemistry is off the charts in the bedroom and out.

I knew I wanted him when during one of our first conversations he said that he wanted to be a foster parent when his son leaves the house. I was blown away because I have that same goal too! Still makes me smile. 🙂

I wouldn't trade him for the most empirically handsome, richest man in the world.

I've had a relationship, a child, and an annulled marriage with the rich handsome guy. I couldn't trust him, so what good was he as a partner? None as far as I'm concerned.

It's about who makes you feel happier to be around. And who you can have a loving and relatively peaceful relationship with. Not money, power, or looks.

I can dig this too. I actually dated a Sag that was pretty well off. A real estate developer to be exact, but I couldn't stand him after a while. He gave me everything I wanted, but didn't give me what I needed so I dumped him for a man who was younger & did give me what I NEEDED, who wasn't well off, had an average job...& you know what, I loved him to the moon.

It's not all about money, but he has to be able to be a provider, protector. I have my own career, make my own money but I cannot, & will not date a completely broke dude, I'm sorry. No one wants a loser, what so he can think that I'm his meal ticket? Oh hell no. He has to have something to offer me because dust does not pay the bills...

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i agree. a man has to provide the basic necessities of life. food

food water shelter.

Posted by DMV
food water shelter.

Only for himself though. I think it's a bad idea for women to be "taken care of" by men, especially for necessities... I'd feel like I was in debt to him. yickkkkk not good

My aqua ex was homeless, for the most part. His abusive mother kicked him out as soon as he was legal. When we met, he was staying in a rented room, though he was behind on rent. He lived in a small town, so finding a job was hard. Then, he moved here and lived in my dorm for two months before he had to go back for court, and he stayed there. Though, he stayed in a shelter. He has been in a shelter since then, minus a month, and now he's staying in a college dorm for basically free, and going to college. I didn't need to tell his life story, but oh well. Basically, he had hardly any money except for his unemployment checks, and he was at a dead end. But, like Marilyn said, as long as he has goals and is trying to achieve them, I can live with that. Even if he ended up having a really shitty job, I wouldn't care. At least he had one. I don't rely on men, that's my personal thing. But, if he needed my help to get there, I would have helped him. Money is not a deal breaker to me. Nor is background. I care about the person I'm dating, how well we connect, and what his personality is like. Though, it would be a deal breaker if he had no intention of working or doing anything with his life. I'm not going to be a mother to a grown man who enjoys doing nothing but sitting and playing video games.

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Posted by DMV
food water shelter.

Only for himself though. I think it's a bad idea for women to be "taken care of" by men, especially for necessities... I'd feel like I was in debt to him. yickkkkk not good

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how can he expect to have a wife if he can only take care of himself? if he can only support himself, whats left for her and his soon to be family?

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Posted by Scenic
My aqua ex was homeless, for the most part. His abusive mother kicked him out as soon as he was legal. When we met, he was staying in a rented room, though he was behind on rent. He lived in a small town, so finding a job was hard. Then, he moved here and lived in my dorm for two months before he had to go back for court, and he stayed there. Though, he stayed in a shelter. He has been in a shelter since then, minus a month, and now he's staying in a college dorm for basically free, and going to college. I didn't need to tell his life story, but oh well. Basically, he had hardly any money except for his unemployment checks, and he was at a dead end. But, like Marilyn said, as long as he has goals and is trying to achieve them, I can live with that. Even if he ended up having a really shitty job, I wouldn't care. At least he had one. I don't rely on men, that's my personal thing. But, if he needed my help to get there, I would have helped him. Money is not a deal breaker to me. Nor is background. I care about the person I'm dating, how well we connect, and what his personality is like. Though, it would be a deal breaker if he had no intention of working or doing anything with his life. I'm not going to be a mother to a grown man who enjoys doing nothing but sitting and playing video games.

At you guys age I think it's totally fine that he's got a shitty job and is a broke college student. That's how it is when you're that young. Now it's a completely different ball game if he's still on that at 30. A man who is completely taken care of by his woman doesn't tend to treat her right. He resents her after a while. No bueno.

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yup. if u cant take of yourself at 32...kill yo self. goes for both men and women

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Posted by DMV
food water shelter.

Only for himself though. I think it's a bad idea for women to be "taken care of" by men, especially for necessities... I'd feel like I was in debt to him. yickkkkk not good

how can he expect to have a wife if he can only take care of himself? if he can only support himself, whats left for her and his soon to be family?

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I don't know, I think you kind of have to look at the big picture.

Right now, my boyfriend makes less money than me. He is self supporting, but he doesn't have a lot of extra cash right now.
I make probably 15-20 grand more than him at this point. I also am completely self supporting, and I also support my son. I also don't have a lot of extra cash right now.

I'm also a lot older (12 years) than him, which is why I currently make more money.
However, I am a teacher. I do not make a ton of money and I never will. Yes, I get raises, but they are very small increments. Also there is a limit to our pay scale.
Whereas, he is just starting out in his career, he already makes only 15-20 grand less than me, he is getting raises at the rate of 7% a year so far, so in a few years, his income will surpass mine, with no "cap" on his salary.

Also, think about it- we are both self supporting, but we are each making a rent payment, water, electric, internet, etc. If we were to get married or move in, then we are both going to pay less, which puts more extra cash in our pockets.

I would not date someone who couldn't support himself, because I would be afraid he would try to sponge off me.

Posted by Theultra79

Posted by Scenic
My aqua ex was homeless, for the most part. His abusive mother kicked him out as soon as he was legal. When we met, he was staying in a rented room, though he was behind on rent. He lived in a small town, so finding a job was hard. Then, he moved here and lived in my dorm for two months before he had to go back for court, and he stayed there. Though, he stayed in a shelter. He has been in a shelter since then, minus a month, and now he's staying in a college dorm for basically free, and going to college. I didn't need to tell his life story, but oh well. Basically, he had hardly any money except for his unemployment checks, and he was at a dead end. But, like Marilyn said, as long as he has goals and is trying to achieve them, I can live with that. Even if he ended up having a really shitty job, I wouldn't care. At least he had one. I don't rely on men, that's my personal thing. But, if he needed my help to get there, I would have helped him. Money is not a deal breaker to me. Nor is background. I care about the person I'm dating, how well we connect, and what his personality is like. Though, it would be a deal breaker if he had no intention of working or doing anything with his life. I'm not going to be a mother to a grown man who enjoys doing nothing but sitting and playing video games.

At you guys age I think it's totally fine that he's got a shitty job and is a broke college student. That's how it is when you're that young. Now it's a completely different ball game if he's still on that at 30. A man who is completely taken care of by his woman doesn't tend to treat her right. He resents her after a while. No bueno.

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I agree. When I met my ex-husband, in college, he used to work at a tire store, now his bonuses are 3/4 of my annual salary! lol.

as Wutang so eloquently put, C.R.E.A.M

Posted by Theultra79

Posted by venusianbull
Beautifully said ultra.

Thank you VB. I miss you! Hope we'll be seeing u around more often.

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Miss you too lady! Ohh, I'm always round somewhere.
😉

Posted by Scenic
I don't rely on men, that's my personal thing.
Money is not a deal breaker to me. Nor is background. I care about the person I'm dating, how well we connect, and what his personality is like. Though, it would be a deal breaker if he had no intention of working or doing anything with his life. I'm not going to be a mother to a grown man

Nicely put.

I love a sensitive man because he can fulfill me emotionally and physically. Stuff for me is just that... stuff.

But I do understand how people express love differently. Acts of service being one my Saggi friend relates to best. She used to be with a Pisces (horror show) who liked to "gift" and is now very happy with an Aries who enjoys "doing".

A sensitive man can express his emotions in many ways and it's not all about being mushy. Like when he plays you a beautiful song he's written for you, his eyes well up with emotion... then he tells you to bend over and assume the position. I'm the only one who ends up in tears. whoop! :O

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Posted by DMV
i cant date a broke dude.

I don't think ANY woman can date a broke dude. I don't give a damn what they say. Who wants to date a loser? Please I wouldn't even want to fuck 1. He would totally turn me off.

i can if he is on the come up. he must have a tangible plan to move up and be actively working on it. ie mogul in the making 🙂

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Well duh! Of course silly 😛 he has to be about something. Have goals, a plan...you know, not a bum.

Posted by ninjafish
I love sensitive men, but I hope for that sensitivity to be tempered with emotional strength/resilience. I don't want him breaking down all over the place and being completely unable to cope with the vicissitudes of life. Granted, I have been with unstable men like that and stayed with them, but now I'm looking for something a little more solid. And don't get me wrong, I do still care for those types of people and hope they get the help that they require (professionally and otherwise), but I'm personally done playing saviour-martyr for the time being.

I see things like the ability to express one's sensitivity, a well-developed sense of compassion/empathy, and a generous and loving heart as great strengths in an individual, and these are traits that I adore in others.

Love and kindness towards animals is a MUST for me, and if they lack that, it's not going to work.

I swear you are like the ONLY Pisces I like 😛. Hahaha...

You're right. There is a difference between sensitive & sucker. Somehow people misconstrue the 2.

one with whom there is physical and mental chemistry.