KaptainKhaos
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Just call him/her.
Posted by KaptainKhaosyeah me too !
Hey guys and gals. I've been in several situations where some one I'm interested in isn't calling me as much as I'd like and I'm unsure as to whether or not its appropriate to call. Sometimes I don't call, sometimes I do, sometimes the person call me, and sometimes I just ask google. (I know. Stupid right?)
One of the times I asked google an amazing (and super comforting) article came up about initiating contact popped up and changed how I deal with contacting guys. I feel like it can help some of the lost souls that flow through dxp confused about whether or not they should call their love interest. Even those of you that don't struggle with the "should incall?" question might appreciate this article.
To briefly sum it up tho: JUST CALL. Be yourself always and know that there are BILLIONS of people on the planet, so if it doesn't work out with the person you like.. you've got tons of options!
http://www.gettingtotruelove.com/2012/01/04/the-worst-thing-you-can-do-when-he-hasnt-called/
Posted by 4ND5That's probably a good thing : D
i won't answer.
Didn't read the article, but if someone isn't calling you as often as you'd like, then I would definitely bring it up. Just keep it light and don't make any assumptions or accusations. Something like, "So, I've noticed you don't call very much. Why is that?", should suffice.
Some people need to be in constant contact with the person they're dating, others, not so much. So just because someone isn't calling you frequently, doesn't necessarily mean they're not interested, it could just mean that they don't place much value on communicating over the phone.
From there, you can then decide if a compromise is necessary, or reconsider your compatibility. Personally, I find it tedious to be on the phone all the time, and I've generally dated guys who've felt the same way.
Some people need to be in constant contact with the person they're dating, others, not so much. So just because someone isn't calling you frequently, doesn't necessarily mean they're not interested, it could just mean that they don't place much value on communicating over the phone.
From there, you can then decide if a compromise is necessary, or reconsider your compatibility. Personally, I find it tedious to be on the phone all the time, and I've generally dated guys who've felt the same way.
If he NEVER or hardly ever calls you, then don't call him because he's really not that interested. Otherwise, it should be 60/40 with him doing most of the calling. There's nothing wrong with calling a man, however, there's a fine line between chasing and being interested.
However, if you're in an actual relationship, then you're free to call as often as you'd like.
However, if you're in an actual relationship, then you're free to call as often as you'd like.
The article states: "Here’s the simple answer. If he hasn't called and you really want to talk to him, if he’s the right guy for you and you’re the right woman for him, it won’t matter. None of it. You can call if you want to; he can call if he wants to. You can wait if you want to, or don’t wait if you don’t want to."
True, so true. If it's the right relationship and you're right for each other, IT WON'T MATTER.
Just keep in mind that if it's the right guy for you and you're the right girl for him, you won't have to ask yourself if you should call or not. He won't leave you wondering. He won't leave you hanging. He won't go a week (or two or four) without contacting you.
True, so true. If it's the right relationship and you're right for each other, IT WON'T MATTER.
Just keep in mind that if it's the right guy for you and you're the right girl for him, you won't have to ask yourself if you should call or not. He won't leave you wondering. He won't leave you hanging. He won't go a week (or two or four) without contacting you.
Posted by Arielle83Some girls call so much, they drive their man crazy and start getting on their nerves.
If you keep score then you're already losing.
why are all the posts in italics?
Posted by truecap
it should be 60/40 with him doing most of the calling
And why is that, exactly?
... because men and women are NOT equal?
It's pretty much just common sense .... that should have been learned at 5 years old on the play ground.
You know if someone likes you or not, because they will act like it.
If they do like you, and you like them, then you form mutual terms of relating.
If they don't like you, even if you like them ... then you back away and let them live without you, since that is what they want
It's not any more difficult than that
Posted by MsFiskPosted by P-AngelBecause i forgot to close it in my post with a backslash.
why are all the posts in italics?click to expand
That explanation might was well be in Klingon ..... shit went right over my head.
Thanks for clarifying, even though I don't understand.
Posted by P-AngelBrilliant, considering that's what Truecap just said.
It's pretty much just common sense .... that should have been learned at 5 years old on the play ground.
You know if someone likes you or not, because they will act like it.
If they do like you, and you like them, then you form mutual terms of relating.
If they don't like you, even if you like them ... then you back away and let them live without you, since that is what they want
It's not any more difficult than that
Posted by P-Angel+1
It's pretty much just common sense .... that should have been learned at 5 years old on the play ground.
You know if someone likes you or not, because they will act like it.
If they do like you, and you like them, then you form mutual terms of relating.
If they don't like you, even if you like them ... then you back away and let them live without you, since that is what they want
It's not any more difficult than that
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One of the times I asked google an amazing (and super comforting) article came up about initiating contact popped up and changed how I deal with contacting guys. I feel like it can help some of the lost souls that flow through dxp confused about whether or not they should call their love interest. Even those of you that don't struggle with the "should incall?" question might appreciate this article.
To briefly sum it up tho: JUST CALL. Be yourself always and know that there are BILLIONS of people on the planet, so if it doesn't work out with the person you like.. you've got tons of options!
http://www.gettingtotruelove.com/2012/01/04/the-worst-thing-you-can-do-when-he-hasnt-called/