Letting someone else move in

Scenario: A friend wants to move in with you & your spouse for a long period of time (4+ months) for whatever reason.

Would you be ok with it?

Would the deciding factor be about the reason they need to move in to begin with? (example: them falling homeless or them wanting to get away from an abusive partner)

Would it matter if the person moving in was the opposite sex of your partner (example: Your hot best friend)?

Would you reconsider the relationship if your partner insisted that they move in against your wishes?

Are these type of situations usually a no-no & a recipe for disaster?

Thoughts?

Posted by krysrenee7
Scenario: A friend wants to move in with you & your spouse for a long period of time (4+ months) for whatever reason.

Would you be ok with it?

Would the deciding factor be about the reason they need to move in to begin with? (example: them falling homeless or them wanting to get away from an abusive partner)

Would it matter if the person moving in was the opposite sex of your partner (example: Your hot best friend)?

Would you reconsider the relationship if your partner insisted that they move in against your wishes?

Are these type of situations usually a no-no & a recipe for disaster?

Thoughts?

Disaster.

Yes, I would have an issue if "partner insisted that they move in against your wishes."


Helping the friend who needed a home or escape from an abusive partner does NOT mean it has to be in YOUR home.

I saw this debate on Facebook today. This lady, who's married, in a group asked everyone for advice.

Long story short: Her best friend moved in. Her husband was ok with it until the best friend started butting into everything & bad mouthing him to her (the typical bitter single girlfriend). The friend even disrespected her husband verbally a few times. Her husband got fed up & demanded that the friend move out. Instead of honoring her husband's wishes and ultimatum, she told him that her friend wasn't going anywhere. The husband moved out. I'm not sure if he/she filed for divorce afterwards though b/c she never mentioned it in her post.

I couldn't believe it! 1st off, there's no way she should've went against her husband's wishes! Secondly, he was an idiot for allowing a 'friend' to put him out of his own house!!! Lmao

But surprisingly, a lot of people had different opinions about this. Some sided with the wife, some with the husband. Some said the husband was in the wrong for leaving, and some said the husband was in the right for leaving & saying to hell with his wife & her 'friend.'

Everybody with opposing viewpoints had really good points though!!

I was just curious what some of you would think or do in this scenario

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by krysrenee7
Scenario: A friend wants to move in with you & your spouse for a long period of time (4+ months) for whatever reason.

Would you be ok with it?

Would the deciding factor be about the reason they need to move in to begin with? (example: them falling homeless or them wanting to get away from an abusive partner)

Would it matter if the person moving in was the opposite sex of your partner (example: Your hot best friend)?

Would you reconsider the relationship if your partner insisted that they move in against your wishes?

Are these type of situations usually a no-no & a recipe for disaster?

Thoughts?

Disaster.

Yes, I would have an issue if "partner insisted that they move in against your wishes."
Helping the friend who needed a home or escape from an abusive partner does NOT mean it has to be in YOUR home.

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When I was 17, I asked my parents if my friend could move in with us. I wanted her to get away from her abusive boyfriend. And no one else would let her stay with them. My parents told me that their house wasn't a hotel lmao

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by krysrenee7
Scenario: A friend wants to move in with you & your spouse for a long period of time (4+ months) for whatever reason.

Would you be ok with it?

Would the deciding factor be about the reason they need to move in to begin with? (example: them falling homeless or them wanting to get away from an abusive partner)

Would it matter if the person moving in was the opposite sex of your partner (example: Your hot best friend)?

Would you reconsider the relationship if your partner insisted that they move in against your wishes?

Are these type of situations usually a no-no & a recipe for disaster?

Thoughts?

Disaster.

Yes, I would have an issue if "partner insisted that they move in against your wishes."


Helping the friend who needed a home or escape from an abusive partner does NOT mean it has to be in YOUR home.

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That ^^^^

^^^ Love your response. Seemed very unbiased, rational & logical. Just my opinion though.

I'd want to say yes b/c helping others is a quality in me that I've had long before I got married and is just naturally who I am (my husband knew this going in).

However, I wouldn't ever go against his wishes, especially considering 4 months of helping a friend could cause 4 years of marital problems. Not worth it. And if a friend was any kind of a real 'friend' they wouldn't have it any other way either.

I'd feel guilty though. But not so guilty that it was at the expense of my marriage.