Libra Man and Cancer Break up.

I'm a Cancer woman that has been in a relationship with a Libra man, the last 5 months. We had been friends for over 3 years, in and out of each other lives. The last time around we had build a very strong foundation and built a relationship from it. Things were amazing, strong, happy, give and take, but he always kind of had control of things. The last couple of months have been hard, we struggled at times, but always kept the communication open. He had issues with his ex, where she kept his son from him and it completely destroyed him, emotionally and mentally, this then put strain on us. He has recently broken up with me as he couldn't cope with the stress and as part of it felt like I would put more stress on him with the issues in our relationship and he can't mentally handle it. He is refusing to give our relationship a chance, slowly I said and has shut off from me. Is this the end of us? Is there a chance he will return? I definitely feel like he is the one I am meant to be with.

That's a hard one, really feel for you, but you haven't really said what kind of issues you have had in your relationship with him?

I found the Libra I was with controlling, never outwardly though, but always steering our relationship where he wanted it to go, rather than both of us having an equal balance. I think that can be a trait of Libra males, until they are 100% sure of you.

I seriously would consider, no matter how hard, backing away yourself, take time for yourself to actually step back and look at the situation. Do you really want to be involved in a situation where an ex is making issues as well? Don't let yourself become one just by wanting to be around him, even as his support. Ultimately you cannot enter or be considered in this where there is a child involved.

Step back, let him miss you and give him his time to sort his life out.

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I'm a Cancer woman that has been in a relationship with a Libra man, the last 5 months. We had been friends for over 3 years, in and out of each other lives. The last time around we had build a very strong foundation and built a relationship from it. Things were amazing, strong, happy, give and take, but he always kind of had control of things. The last couple of months have been hard, we struggled at times, but always kept the communication open. He had issues with his ex, where she kept his son from him and it completely destroyed him, emotionally and mentally, this then put strain on us. He has recently broken up with me as he couldn't cope with the stress and as part of it felt like I would put more stress on him with the issues in our relationship and he can't mentally handle it. He is refusing to give our relationship a chance, slowly I said and has shut off from me. Is this the end of us? Is there a chance he will return? I definitely feel like he is the one I am meant to be with.

No, I don't think it's the end.

I have been through similar issues with my Libra man. I don't have time to rehash it for the thousandth time on here but it's similar. We just got back together after over a year apart. In 2012, he also ran away but this time lasted much longer. It was because of stress, depression and other issues.

You have to ask yourself if it's worth it.

He is very similar in the way of controlling, like he had a certain way in which the relationship was going and the standard of it, which I didn't mind because I felt he was actively being fully involved in all that we did.

But now I look at it, he controlled the break up and everything that surrounded it, I just have to be ok with it and let it happen. We have only been broken up 4 days and there has been no contact and I won't contact him at all.

Our problems came about when his ex started causing problems and I stepped up and gave it back, which I have come to learn that is has absolutely nothing to do with me, no matter what. I told him that I will support him through it but I will have nothing else to do with it. The problem with his ex made is resent each other, therefore he felt I shut down from him (which at times i did) he needs weren't met (at times they weren't) I felt he also backed off and would speak to and treat me like crap.

I know he is mentally run down, depressed and needs space, for how long? I don't know. It kills me because I never thought we'd end up like this. I love him but i also know he loves me too, no matter how cool he is playing it and how distant he is. He is a beautiful, gentle, caring soul that just gets controlled by his ex because she has the power over their son and I'm the one that copes the other side.

Not making any contact with him is the hardest, but i hope that he comes to miss me and realises I am the one for him also.

We did get back together recently after a 3 day separation, which I fought so hard to be back with him and he agreed to give us another chance. We were back on for 2 days and then late at night out of the blue he messaged me saying he couldn't continue, he didn't feel a connection with me anymore and he's head was at breaking point. I haven't spoken to him since then, that was 4 days ago.

I forgot to mention that there was a pattern to him pushing me away and then pulling me back in, now he has just seemed to completely cut ties with me..

So, today my Libra ex messaged me, to see that I am doing ok and he still cares for my welfare. Is that all it really is with these libra man or is he missing me and potential for his return?

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So, today my Libra ex messaged me, to see that I am doing ok and he still cares for my welfare. Is that all it really is with these libra man or is he missing me and potential for his return?

What's the update?