Libra Men: Players or Just Playful?

Here's a question for those with experience with Libra men.

Are they players or do they like to stick to one person at a time?

I am best friends and former friends of plenty of Libra men. I even dated one at one point in my life and I still in the end find him weak (though he was a marine.) But he was weak because he couldn't confront me and instead just believed without saying something untrue about me (he thought I cheated on him with a guy and went home to have sex with him after leaving him in a club. OK I'm an aquarius and Irish, so I don't cheat on anyone. I was livid months later that he simply believed this nonsense! I am loyal to the core so it was completely unbelievable. In my own experience with that guy it took him a year to decide that he could commit to me though we were friends and friends only for that time. (No one gets to kiss me unless he's ready to know how I feel about it and him.)

But I'm still great friends with different libra men. In fact one I know is the coolest. He's engaged and with his fiancee he's the most romantic guy you would ever see. She's a lucky lucky girl and he's completely in love! I personally love seeing that because it means that love can find us all and in my heart I love seeing other people find romance. Anyhow he'll tell you straight out that he was a complete player and at one point dated 3 girls at one time regularly for months and none of the girls ever confronted him on where he was earlier that day. (He bed hopped with them all.) I know he was a complete player and the girls fell for him so easily.

So in my guess if a libra decides that you are the one for him then he can be romantic, sweet, kind hearted, etc. But the libra man can be the biggest player of all and use romantic gestures to get what he wants without any commitment inside him. (A scorpio man might be magnetic and attract alot of women, the scorpio men I know seem to understand that a woman gets emotional when kissing and sex start. So the scorpio man is kind of more aware of being a player when he does certain things and he'll hold back more. A libra man isn't so into other people and more into what they want to do with no thought to anyone but themselves except when they fall in love.) The libra man can fall hard for a woman.

I dated a libra man for 6 months and he was romantic and "acted" sincere in the beginning,i always noticed he looked for attention everywhere he went and yes he is very popular which i did not mind.As time went on I noticed he was treating our relationship very casually kinda like we were friends and me being a sagittarius or just being me. I am upfront honest always so I did not understand the grade school games he would present to me.I do not believe he was with anyone else but I honestly feel if i stayed with him any longer he would be capable of cheating.I know couple of other libra men also and they are so similar it scares me and we are very attracted to eachother tons of chemistry but I doubt I would date 1 again since they are very secretive and manipulative,they are better as friends in my opinion

I agree that libra men can be the biggest players of all!! They do in such a cute romantic way you will not even realize you are getting deceived.I was completely suprised that he turned out that way.

They make AWESOME friends, and they are very SWEET.

I completely agree Lady M... Libra men are great friends to have. And who knows perhaps someday one will turn out perfect for me in the future (if Mr. Cap doesn't and he has a head start). But I take everything any Libra guy that i know at the moment with a grain of salt and a happy smile. (I wouldn't judge any Libra guy on his bday alone, but the nice 'players' are definately there.)

smiley

not every relationship ends in marriage. MOST relationships fail. It is no one's fault. I hope you realize that this is meant with kindness.

I think libra men are idealistic with relationships and there kindness can be taken for weakness. But if they do love you, im sure they'll love you alone forever. But yes they are flirts and very social.

Thanks for the input, everyone. I'm just going to see how it goes. I'm not in any rush to settle down, but I also don't want to be played. I would rather someone be up front and say "Hey, I'm seeing other people" and let me decide if I can deal with it rather than finding out 3,4, or 5 months down the road that he withheld this info.

Like I said the Libra men I know fall hard when they actually fall in love. So there is hope and they are very into big romantic gestures.

So I know the complimentary comments can make the heart flutter and make you hope for more, but these guys are experts in making a girl feel that. So they can be huge players UNTIL they are truly in love. Then when the ideal is found then the girl will be very happy with her man.

ladyvie, how do they act if the person they're pursuing turns them down? i ask because i'm not sure exactly how i feel about him and i am guilty of dishing out that gooey-gooey mushy sweet talk, too.

Probably relieved.

Libras need time to think things through. We want to make you happy but we will do so at the sacrifice of self. This is where problems come in.

Assume he is seeing others unless he states otherwise. I don't know a Libra who is short on admirers.

If you rush us into emotional intimacy or ESPECIALLY a commitment ... at some point we will rebel. We will do it but become unstable and start looking for escape.

I'm the same way. I don't want to be rushed or forced into a committment. And it's funny. Aren't both Libra and Taurus ruled by Venus? So you'd think we'd want to be in a relationship.

I deal with it as honesty as I can. I actually have an issue expressing my emotions more when I get involved with someone. But I believe strongly in being honest and not giving people false hope.

OK this leo guy who surprised me with a night at the theater when I only said I'd go to dinner to talk about work... when I saw him make this huge gesture I told him that I was honored and flattered that he would do such a thing. I also told him that someday the right girl would appreciate such a great gesture. But I told him that it's never going to be me because my heart isn't involved.

At first he argued that I should be flattered, that I must have been into him at some point, etc. But he finally after a few more tries believed me and I'm hoping he means that we can be friends without his heart leaping.

I hate it when someone is dishonest to me or gives me a false impression. So if I want people's honesty, I have to remember that I believe in karma or that 'do onto others' stuff. If I lied, then I'm inviting someone to lie to me.

Course I learned this lesson after a guy I thought that I 'loved' completely lied to me and had another girl behind my back. I learned about 'the other girl' when I saw in the open window he had another girl in his place, and before you think 'stalker' on my part, he lived next door to me and knew I was going out with friends that night. For my part I wish the pair of them every happiness and as far as I'm concerned they deserve each other. He didn't deserve me and obviously never did. (But I have to be honest now too. When this happened I simply went to my apartment, cried my heart out in the bathroom, and never said a word on what I saw. I did tell him that he could go to hell in some not so nice terms at the time but never explained what set me off because I didn't want more lies.) I believe that he's now admitting to dating the girl, but I don't know or care.

Geez that was so long ago for me. I only say it because I don't want a player and I've been played royally. And the lesson I learned is to be honest with everyone. Telling people and giving them false impressions only hurts others.

And I have another example of how I deal with men who express interest in me. The Aries guy I went out with last week. When I realized that for months I was living in denial and I still wanted Mr. Cap in my life, I told Mr. Aries in person that I think he's a wonderful guy, very nice, a great guy, but I'm still in love with an ex. He understood and said he understood completely how I felt as he'd been there. He's still very nice to me. (Last week I lived in a dream world reuniting with Mr. Cap but I'm pretending that I work or something these past few days.)

players!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Awww, sorry to hear that, DAngel.

I've heard that they're both players but very committed individuals once they decide to settle down.

I've had this Libra man pursuing me - very charming, very intelligent, very successful, from another country (I'm a sucker for accents), etc. Things got a little close for me so I started to back off. He pursued a little longer afterwards, but then gradually backed off, too. I didn't think he'd back off so abruptly, so I asked him about it and he said that he's just been busy. I can believe that, so I let it go. He called once in a matter of 3 days and text msg'd me twice. On Friday, he left me a VM saying he hopes to see me when he gets back from his vacation. Blah...not sure how to decipher that.

DAngel, yes I called him back as soon as I heard the message, but he was unloading his car at the airport. He had to cut the call short, so the call was very short. But I understood he needed to check his baggage and himself at the gates.

I texted him later that night telling him to have a great vacation

nah, no roses. he doesn't strike me as that sentimental.

i did tell him that i'd miss him while he was away...that didn't even get a reply.

Houston

I don't think he has decided how he feels yet. Let him do all the I like you ... I miss you stuff first.

Just be happy and affectionate when you are together.

They are bloody assholes!!