Literally why are girls like this?...

Insecurity. They want to size you up to see if you are better than they are, to validate their subconcious lack of self worth.

Because they are girls duh.

Problem might not be the girls. It might be that your ex has not fully moved past the relationship with you, and constantly brings you up. If this is the case, I actually understand why an exes new bae will cyberstalk his old flame.

It's things like this why I stay off of social media.

In most societies women are raised to compete with one another on a shallow level. An undeveloped woman who has not found her worth and camaraderie with other women yet, will always look to compare. It's just the way it goes. We have all done it, or had it done to us. I've experienced both sides at certain stages of my growth as a woman.

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Problem might not be the girls. It might be that your ex has not fully moved past the relationship with you, and constantly brings you up. If this is the case, I actually understand why an exes new bae will cyberstalk his old flame.

It's things like this why I stay off of social media.

Ahhh this make sense. I agree. I hate social media too. Been staying away from that shit.

People don't have to know about me, my life and I. My life is much more happier without social media.

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I used to be really active on social media, and while never really involved in the drama myself, that crap would blow up my phone with notifications, and I'm the type that gets annoyed very easily by them. Like you, life is happier without it, and a lot quitter as well *cyber fist bump*

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Problem might not be the girls. It might be that your ex has not fully moved past the relationship with you, and constantly brings you up. If this is the case, I actually understand why an exes new bae will cyberstalk his old flame.

It's things like this why I stay off of social media.

Ahhh this make sense. I agree. I hate social media too. Been staying away from that shit.

People don't have to know about me, my life and I. My life is much more happier without social media.

I used to be really active on social media, and while never really involved in the drama myself, that crap would blow up my phone with notifications, and I'm the type that gets annoyed very easily by them. Like you, life is happier without it, and a lot quitter as well *cyber fist bump*

Yeah, it's draining and I am not keen to know what other people are doing.

And besides, it made me feel crazy when I was there. Like I wanna stalk on my exes. So, without that shit, my life is going the exact way I want it to be. 😉

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I think all of us get stalk-my-ex syndrome to some degree, so I can definitely see how social media can make the temptation to do so even worse. Actually, it just seems to make everything worse, no matter what it is haha!

Yeah, if I want to know what someone is up to, I'll ask. That is far more interactive than sending messages.

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Problem might not be the girls. It might be that your ex has not fully moved past the relationship with you, and constantly brings you up. If this is the case, I actually understand why an exes new bae will cyberstalk his old flame.

It's things like this why I stay off of social media.

Ahhh this make sense. I agree. I hate social media too. Been staying away from that shit.

People don't have to know about me, my life and I. My life is much more happier without social media.

I used to be really active on social media, and while never really involved in the drama myself, that crap would blow up my phone with notifications, and I'm the type that gets annoyed very easily by them. Like you, life is happier without it, and a lot quitter as well *cyber fist bump*

Yeah, it's draining and I am not keen to know what other people are doing.

And besides, it made me feel crazy when I was there. Like I wanna stalk on my exes. So, without that shit, my life is going the exact way I want it to be. 😉

I think all of us get stalk-my-ex syndrome to some degree, so I can definitely see how social media can make the temptation to do so even worse. Actually, it just seems to make everything worse, no matter what it is haha!

Yeah, if I want to know what someone is up to, I'll ask. That is far more interactive than sending messages.

Right— Just ask, why even bother to go through that route. Meh...

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Convenience, maybe? I don't know. I just know that I'm old school, and prefer to see the person's eyes I'm interacting with register the things I'm saying. Especially if it pertains to something dramatic.

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Problem might not be the girls. It might be that your ex has not fully moved past the relationship with you, and constantly brings you up. If this is the case, I actually understand why an exes new bae will cyberstalk his old flame.

It's things like this why I stay off of social media.

Hmm interesting actually..yeah because when I met this guy he was like my bestfriend and when his ex girlfriend broke up with him he always either bad mouthed her or just brought her up in some way shape or form. I ended up dating him obviously and it was actually all he talked about to me too but then soon got over it. She too his ex flame followed me on my Instagram and tried adding me on Facebook when it should’ve been the other way around like me doing it😂 I might have had my snoop but I certainly didn’t get so involved like I didn’t care about her she was the past and he was now mine. Lol good luck to the future one!

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Problem might not be the girls. It might be that your ex has not fully moved past the relationship with you, and constantly brings you up. If this is the case, I actually understand why an exes new bae will cyberstalk his old flame.

It's things like this why I stay off of social media.

Hmm interesting actually..yeah because when I met this guy he was like my bestfriend and when his ex girlfriend broke up with him he always either bad mouthed her or just brought her up in some way shape or form. I ended up dating him obviously and it was actually all he talked about to me too but then soon got over it. She too his ex flame followed me on my Instagram and tried adding me on Facebook when it should’ve been the other way around like me doing it😂 I might have had my snoop but I certainly didn’t get so involved like I didn’t care about her she was the past and he was now mine. Lol good luck to the future one!

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Ahh, but you did have a little snoopity-snoop! 😉 It's just natural to be curious. It doesn't even have to be the new partner that does it. Someone who knows him or related to him that you meet can bring up an ex of his, and that will be enough to play the curiosity strings. But yes, a more secure woman really isn't going to care all that much more than a passing whim.