Looking up ex's or past flings/relationships on social media

Posted by blvckphvse

I basically feel that if someone is still that curious about their ex they shouldn't be in a new relationship. End of story. You're not going to be curious about someone you aren't thinking about, so if you are still thinking of an ex, let that ship sail before trying to start over..

I wouldnt go that far. Depends on the relationship. You're always going to think about someone you once loved no matter how long it's been. Every once in a while my first love pops in my head or in a dream. I dont think about him all the time but every once in a blue moon. I have looked him up out of curiosity but not because I long for him. Its been 18 yrs since I last saw or talked to him.

Yes I feel there are many reasons we look up people from our past.

Is there actual contact with the person? Why does it matter if someone is looking a person up? People are naturally nosy and curious.

It wouldn’t bother me as long as there was no messaging back and forth.

Yes I feel exactly the same as you on this x

I think it matters your intentions. To look & see what your ex is up too ( cuz you are curious how they are)is a lot different than trying to get back with them.

I’ve looked up someone for closure, had some look me up with closure & had someone look me up cuz I was divorced & he wanted a chance. ( all 20-25 years later)

Thing is that if you’ve loved someone deeply, you always care, there are memories and it is just part of your life. It doesn’t necessarily mean you want anything with them. Make sense of your life in mid-life yeah. Now if it’s recent, that’s different.

It’s okay to be curious about people who meant something to you in the past. Doesn’t mean you want to re-live that relationship/friendship or even remotely interested in reviving anything.

I only got curious about two people from my past. I casually dated one and exclusively dated the other. I found both of them to be a lousy person underneath the facade of a nice guy. I basically saw them for what they were and always wondered if women genuinely liked someone like them. I would think both of them would die alone given how disgusting they were in their thoughts. Anyway, I got curious and checked. One is single and the other is getting married to a doormat.

I know every goddamn thing all my exs are up to. Hell, I even know every thing my lovers ex's are up to...... I know what everyone is up to! haha. Its the age of posting your business on the internet....its to be expected.

Never did it.

I haven't had the best experiences breaking up.. So I tend to lock that door shut once it's over.

Is it okay? Sure curiosity is okay. More than that I'd start questioning motives.

Like most everything, it depends on your intent.

If your looking them up to get in contact and rekindle a sexual/emotional relationship behind your current partners back...yeah not a good look.