AprilGaspard
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Men and babies
As a child(free) woman, I find a lot of men DO want kids whether they already have some or not so it has often been annoying whenever I state the fact I don't want kids, back when I was single I would run into a lot of men who wanted kids with whoever they end up in a relationship with, whether they already had some or not.
I would be wary of someone who you're not in an actual relationship saying this to you, though. Of course, I don't understand the urge to procreate in the first place, but you are also "kind of "considering it... I can surmise you think it is weird as well since you're here asking about it.
I would be wary of someone who you're not in an actual relationship saying this to you, though. Of course, I don't understand the urge to procreate in the first place, but you are also "kind of "considering it... I can surmise you think it is weird as well since you're here asking about it.
Posted by GuardianAnu
As a child(free) woman, I find a lot of men DO want kids whether they already have some or not so it has often been annoying whenever I state the fact I don't want kids, back when I was single I would run into a lot of men who wanted kids with whoever they end up in a relationship with, whether they already had some or not.
I would be wary of someone who you're not in an actual relationship saying this to you, though. Of course, I don't understand the urge to procreate in the first place, but you are also "kind of "considering it... I can surmise you think it is weird as well since you're here asking about it.
Weird because I have never had a man ask me to have his child before. So it's shocking
I bet he has a Cancer Mars.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.
Posted by AprilGaspardIndeed. Sounds all kinds of red flaggy to me.Posted by GuardianAnu
As a child(free) woman, I find a lot of men DO want kids whether they already have some or not so it has often been annoying whenever I state the fact I don't want kids, back when I was single I would run into a lot of men who wanted kids with whoever they end up in a relationship with, whether they already had some or not.
I would be wary of someone who you're not in an actual relationship saying this to you, though. Of course, I don't understand the urge to procreate in the first place, but you are also "kind of "considering it... I can surmise you think it is weird as well since you're here asking about it.
Weird because I have never had a man ask me to have his child before. So it's shocking
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Posted by QuantumIdk... He's a Capricorn male
I bet he has a Cancer Mars.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.
Some guys want kids as much as women do. A dude from my past got back in touch and got all crazy because he was dead set on getting married and having kids and had me in his sights. It was a bit much.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamYep.
Some guys want kids as much as women do. A dude from my past got back in touch and got all crazy because he was dead set on getting married and having kids and had me in his sights. It was a bit much.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamWasn't looking for judgement. Just a little advice. But thanks. Next time u can skip my posts and judge someone else.
Some guys want kids as much as women do. A dude from my past got back in touch and got all crazy because he was dead set on getting married and having kids and had me in his sights. It was a bit much.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
Posted by AprilGaspardI guess it depends on your age. I have a question, are you two going to live together to raise the child? Food for thought on raising a child in an environment where the parents may not be, and doing it by intention rather than by accident.
I've been googling the subject "are men usually as aggressive as woman about having kids" for a while and I've come across this site a few times so I decided to create an acct and maybe get some opinions. I don't want to ask my friends and family because their too close to the situation and won't give me a clear opinion. Their more so worried about the benefits I would possibly reap.
Anyway... Situation is... I've been sleeping with a guy for about a yr now. No attachments, just having fun and enjoying each other. Well the other day we had a conversation about our future and what we wanted to happen and I brought up the fact that I wanted another child but at the rate my love life is going, it's not going to happen. Well by and by, he asked if I would have his child. He was very serious and is waiting for me to give him an answer. As crazy as it sounds, I'm kind of considering it. We are both financially stable so the child would be well taken care of. Yes we both do have other children. All of mine are teenagers and he has a teen and a 7yr old. Mine are by my ex husband and his are from a past relationship. My question... Do men go thru a period where they want more kids?
I think men have biological clocks, just like women do. I think the stereotype of men being scared of children is rather over done and there are plenty of guys who may be scared of the IDEA of a tiny human depending on their protection till the end of days, but also thrilled at the notion for whatever reason.
Posted by GenniePosted by AprilGaspardI guess it depends on your age. I have a question, are you two going to live together to raise the child? Food for thought on raising a child in an environment where the parents may not be, and doing it by intention rather than by accident.
I've been googling the subject "are men usually as aggressive as woman about having kids" for a while and I've come across this site a few times so I decided to create an acct and maybe get some opinions. I don't want to ask my friends and family because their too close to the situation and won't give me a clear opinion. Their more so worried about the benefits I would possibly reap.
Anyway... Situation is... I've been sleeping with a guy for about a yr now. No attachments, just having fun and enjoying each other. Well the other day we had a conversation about our future and what we wanted to happen and I brought up the fact that I wanted another child but at the rate my love life is going, it's not going to happen. Well by and by, he asked if I would have his child. He was very serious and is waiting for me to give him an answer. As crazy as it sounds, I'm kind of considering it. We are both financially stable so the child would be well taken care of. Yes we both do have other children. All of mine are teenagers and he has a teen and a 7yr old. Mine are by my ex husband and his are from a past relationship. My question... Do men go thru a period where they want more kids?
I think men have biological clocks, just like women do. I think the stereotype of men being scared of children is rather over done and there are plenty of guys who may be scared of the IDEA of a tiny human depending on their protection till the end of days, but also thrilled at the notion for whatever reason.
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He is 38 and I am 32. No, we will not be living together. As of now. That was brought up during the conversation but we would need to further discuss it.
Posted by AprilGaspardOh you poor silly girl. That wasn't judgement. It was honesty. You don't like it, you can just not post on the internet?Posted by rockyroadicecreamWasn't looking for judgement. Just a little advice. But thanks. Next time u can skip my posts and judge someone else.
Some guys want kids as much as women do. A dude from my past got back in touch and got all crazy because he was dead set on getting married and having kids and had me in his sights. It was a bit much.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
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"I've been casually fucking some guy for a year and now we're contemplating having a child together."
Yes, this sounds logical. You wanted advice and you got it, but let me clarify since your comprehension is lacking-
RED FLAGS AHOY.
Posted by GenniePosted by AprilGaspardI guess it depends on your age. I have a question, are you two going to live together to raise the child? Food for thought on raising a child in an environment where the parents may not be, and doing it by intention rather than by accident.
I've been googling the subject "are men usually as aggressive as woman about having kids" for a while and I've come across this site a few times so I decided to create an acct and maybe get some opinions. I don't want to ask my friends and family because their too close to the situation and won't give me a clear opinion. Their more so worried about the benefits I would possibly reap.
Anyway... Situation is... I've been sleeping with a guy for about a yr now. No attachments, just having fun and enjoying each other. Well the other day we had a conversation about our future and what we wanted to happen and I brought up the fact that I wanted another child but at the rate my love life is going, it's not going to happen. Well by and by, he asked if I would have his child. He was very serious and is waiting for me to give him an answer. As crazy as it sounds, I'm kind of considering it. We are both financially stable so the child would be well taken care of. Yes we both do have other children. All of mine are teenagers and he has a teen and a 7yr old. Mine are by my ex husband and his are from a past relationship. My question... Do men go thru a period where they want more kids?
I think men have biological clocks, just like women do. I think the stereotype of men being scared of children is rather over done and there are plenty of guys who may be scared of the IDEA of a tiny human depending on their protection till the end of days, but also thrilled at the notion for whatever reason.
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That's all this is- a case of the biological clocks running low on battery life.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamI actually did mind ur post up until the "all there... ATM"... Judgement. I don't mind the truth... But the lil jab could've been left out. But hey... I guess some ppl are just naturally unhappy and they try to cast that on others in anyway that they can. Again... If u feel u need to make Judgmental comments, please skip my posts. Thank u ma'am! Good day!Posted by AprilGaspardOh you poor silly girl. That wasn't judgement. It was honesty. You don't like it, you can just not post on the internet?Posted by rockyroadicecreamWasn't looking for judgement. Just a little advice. But thanks. Next time u can skip my posts and judge someone else.
Some guys want kids as much as women do. A dude from my past got back in touch and got all crazy because he was dead set on getting married and having kids and had me in his sights. It was a bit much.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
"I've been casually fucking some guy for a year and now we're contemplating having a child together."
Yes, this sounds logical. You wanted advice and you got it, but let me clarify since your comprehension is lacking-
RED FLAGS AHOY.click to expand
Posted by blackphasedepends on the house it sits in.Posted by QuantumThat's odd cause I am a Cancer Mars and do not want them at all. Different for the men?
I bet he has a Cancer Mars.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.click to expand
Mine sits in the 11th house, my friends are the things I nurture like a mother. Only recently in the last couple of years have I given thought to ACTUAL children, meanwhile I'm like whoohoo 40, heres looking at you kid!
Posted by blackphaseIDK...I have it too and I avoid kids like the plague. It's just something I've read in multiple places.Posted by QuantumThat's odd cause I am a Cancer Mars and do not want them at all. Different for the men?
I bet he has a Cancer Mars.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.click to expand
I imagine it's probably combined with other Cancer placements.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
It's definitely a thing. Some guys want kids and they get to a certain age and start to stress it. Granted, I've only seen it with guys who didn't already have a kid(s) of their own. Also, with the exception of a gay acquaintance who had a baby with his hag, these guys wanted partner commitments. Not to say they aren't partners in raising their child, but you know what I mean.
And ditto the red flags.
Thank u
Posted by AprilGaspard
I've been googling the subject "are men usually as aggressive as woman about having kids" for a while and I've come across this site a few times so I decided to create an acct and maybe get some opinions. I don't want to ask my friends and family because their too close to the situation and won't give me a clear opinion. Their more so worried about the benefits I would possibly reap.
Anyway... Situation is... I've been sleeping with a guy for about a yr now. No attachments, just having fun and enjoying each other. Well the other day we had a conversation about our future and what we wanted to happen and I brought up the fact that I wanted another child but at the rate my love life is going, it's not going to happen. Well by and by, he asked if I would have his child. He was very serious and is waiting for me to give him an answer. As crazy as it sounds, I'm kind of considering it. We are both financially stable so the child would be well taken care of. Yes we both do have other children. All of mine are teenagers and he has a teen and a 7yr old. Mine are by my ex husband and his are from a past relationship. My question... Do men go thru a period where they want more kids?
This was just a conversation with me and a co worker last week. Recently he's been thinking about having another child and he's almost 40. So I guess men do have "baby fever!"
Posted by LadyTatePosted by AprilGaspard
I've been googling the subject "are men usually as aggressive as woman about having kids" for a while and I've come across this site a few times so I decided to create an acct and maybe get some opinions. I don't want to ask my friends and family because their too close to the situation and won't give me a clear opinion. Their more so worried about the benefits I would possibly reap.
Anyway... Situation is... I've been sleeping with a guy for about a yr now. No attachments, just having fun and enjoying each other. Well the other day we had a conversation about our future and what we wanted to happen and I brought up the fact that I wanted another child but at the rate my love life is going, it's not going to happen. Well by and by, he asked if I would have his child. He was very serious and is waiting for me to give him an answer. As crazy as it sounds, I'm kind of considering it. We are both financially stable so the child would be well taken care of. Yes we both do have other children. All of mine are teenagers and he has a teen and a 7yr old. Mine are by my ex husband and his are from a past relationship. My question... Do men go thru a period where they want more kids?
This was just a conversation with me and a co worker last week. Recently he's been thinking about having another child and he's almost 40. So I guess men do have "baby fever!"
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Is he married or in a relationship?
Posted by AprilGaspardYou poor thing. smh.Posted by rockyroadicecreamI actually did mind ur post up until the "all there... ATM"... Judgement. I don't mind the truth... But the lil jab could've been left out. But hey... I guess some ppl are just naturally unhappy and they try to cast that on others in anyway that they can. Again... If u feel u need to make Judgmental comments, please skip my posts. Thank u ma'am! Good day!Posted by AprilGaspardOh you poor silly girl. That wasn't judgement. It was honesty. You don't like it, you can just not post on the internet?Posted by rockyroadicecreamWasn't looking for judgement. Just a little advice. But thanks. Next time u can skip my posts and judge someone else.
Some guys want kids as much as women do. A dude from my past got back in touch and got all crazy because he was dead set on getting married and having kids and had me in his sights. It was a bit much.
As someone else said, it's pretty red flag worthy. ...like a lot. The fact that you're considering it says you aren't exactly all mentally there with the logic atm.
Tbh, it sounds like both of you are going through a sort of mid life/quarter life crisis. Your kids are older and you miss the baby in the house. The entire idea sounds immature and impulsive.
Reminds me of this, actually.
"I've been casually fucking some guy for a year and now we're contemplating having a child together."
Yes, this sounds logical. You wanted advice and you got it, but let me clarify since your comprehension is lacking-
RED FLAGS AHOY.
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Posted by blackphaseI love kids and if I could open my heart to every kid who needs live I wouldPosted by QuantumNo i have read the same thing.. We tend to be nurtures, and I guess that's where it comes from. I also have Venus in Cancer.. but I just have too dark of an outlook on the world to even consider bringing a child into it. And yes, I am the same as you, I try to avoid kids at all costs.. I don't really like spending a lot of time around children. I get irritated after awhile of having to entertain them and don't have the patience for it at this point in my life.Posted by blackphaseIDK...I have it too and I avoid kids like the plague. It's just something I've read in multiple places.Posted by QuantumThat's odd cause I am a Cancer Mars and do not want them at all. Different for the men?
I bet he has a Cancer Mars.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.
I imagine it's probably combined with other Cancer placements.click to expand
Absolutely not. Having a child with someone who you say you are just having a fling with? You both already have kids. Money doesn't make up for adult messes. I don't know...
too many wrongs
and yes, men like to spread their seed
Posted by blackphaseThe 9th house is a house of knowledge, travel, and philosophy. But it's also a house that promotes being "unencumbered" by responsibility while you go off to search for your truth. It's not good or bad, it's just what it is. The 9th is normally ruled by Sagittarius, so that gives you a clue what it does to your cancer mars.Posted by GennieMine is in the 9th. I am a very nurturing person, but prefer to nurture animals and am the same as you.. My boyfriend and friends are the ones that I nurture like a mother aside from animals. I tend to attract partners and friends that are drowning in turmoil and in need of nurturing.Posted by blackphasedepends on the house it sits in.Posted by QuantumThat's odd cause I am a Cancer Mars and do not want them at all. Different for the men?
I bet he has a Cancer Mars.
I read somewhere that a lot of Cancer Mars men are fascinated with fathering children.
Mine sits in the 11th house, my friends are the things I nurture like a mother. Only recently in the last couple of years have I given thought to ACTUAL children, meanwhile I'm like whoohoo 40, heres looking at you kid!
I got pregnant earlier this year.. It sort of opened my eyes a bit and had me actually considering keeping it, although it was something I said that I would never do. This isn't a world I want to bring children into, but the decision actually weighed on me a lot heavier than I expected it to. But in the end I knew what was right for me and most importantly the child.click to expand
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