opinions on hickies

I know everyone has their own definition of hickies. I just wanted to tell my friend the different opinions of others on hickies. If someone gives you a hickey is it to mark their territory ? Or out of spite of love making got little rough ? I just want to see others opinions

There is an element of marking territory....which the possessive part in me digs a lot.

I see it more as being lost in the carnal part of sex/kissing.

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

Posted by Tharealher
I know everyone has their own definition of hickies.

...there's more than one definition of what a hickey is?

...since WHEN?

By "definition," do you mean "opinion/view" on hickies?

Posted by Damnata
There is an element of marking territory....which the possessive part in me digs a lot.

I see it more as being lost in the carnal part of sex/kissing.

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

The guys I've known who were into this were all about the possessive/marking thing.

It's immature and insecure, tbh.

"Hur dur, I want to mark you. Me possessive caveman and want to show it in a tacky way." *grunt grunt*

Generally, sometimes it happens. But when a dude is doing it with intention, blegh.

My first longish term boyfriend when I was 18 or so gave me one more of out curiosity - we agreed on trying it.

After that I knew that I never want to get one again. It hurt in a way that was unbelievably unpleasant, like rug burn, and it looked awful - lose/lose. Breaking blood vessels, no thanks. Also the older a person gets often the longer it takes to heal from that kind of thing. I try to take care of my body, not damage it or allow others to damage it knowingly.

I'm not into being possessed/owned. I don't get involved with men who are into that.

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Posted by Damnata

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

Well I'd be damned...

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You know how that goes man.

But yeah, they exist? lol.

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Posted by Damnata
There is an element of marking territory....which the possessive part in me digs a lot.

I see it more as being lost in the carnal part of sex/kissing.

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

The guys I've known who were into this were all about the possessive/marking thing.

It's immature and insecure, tbh.

"Hur dur, I want to mark you. Me possessive caveman and want to show it in a tacky way." *grunt grunt*

Generally, sometimes it happens. But when a dude is doing it with intention, blegh.

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Yeah, I get what you mean.

To me it's a ...signal of complicity. It goes past the immature/insecure show off thing. It's a "You're mine, do.you.get.it?". Like world gets reduced to us two and that's the way things are because they can't possibly be otherwise.

That part adds a mental play on the already physical turn on.

My sag bit me on my arm a few weeks ago.

Of course it left a mark. I told him it was gross and not to do it again. It looks tacky when it's visable.

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Posted by Damnata

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Posted by Damnata

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

Well I'd be damned...

You know how that goes man.

But yeah, they exist? lol.

Oh, I know how that goes...

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We should have a poll with Aries Mars peeps and bodily harm.

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Posted by Damnata

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Posted by Damnata

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

Well I'd be damned...

You know how that goes man.

But yeah, they exist? lol.

Oh, I know how that goes...

We should have a poll with Aries Mars peeps and bodily harm.

You're an Aries mars too?

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Yeah, Moon conjunct Mars in Aries.

I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

I always got told it was marking territory not had many dudes ever do that to me ever except one. But i think they are trashy as fuck really.

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

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Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

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I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

Guess I'm just going to have to give it to them straight, "I own you now" after the first time.

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See now thats hot. My taurus mars likes to make veiled threats of a similar variety.

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

Guess I'm just going to have to give it to them straight, "I own you now" after the first time.

See now thats hot. My taurus mars likes to make veiled threats of a similar variety.

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just...lmao @ any fixed placement and "veiled"

i'm a leo venus...i'm into being catered to covertly!

i'm a taurus mars...i'm into subtle ownership!

...and so on.

i'm a leo moon, i like discrete attention...

ahahahaha

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Posted by SuperMercurial

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

Guess I'm just going to have to give it to them straight, "I own you now" after the first time.

See now thats hot. My taurus mars likes to make veiled threats of a similar variety.

just...lmao @ any fixed placement and "veiled"

i'm a leo venus...i'm into being catered to covertly!

i'm a taurus mars...i'm into subtle ownership!

...and so on.

i'm a leo moon, i like discrete attention...

ahahahaha

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22

Posted by SuperMercurial

Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

Guess I'm just going to have to give it to them straight, "I own you now" after the first time.

See now thats hot. My taurus mars likes to make veiled threats of a similar variety.

At first you'd think so, but then you'd be getting daily reminders that you're their's forever while at the same time them never verbally confirming to be yours. That's earth signs in a nutshell imo.

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Oh :/

Well in that case Now I know why I always dodged earth signs

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Posted by Damnata

Posted by AfternoonDelights22

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

Guess I'm just going to have to give it to them straight, "I own you now" after the first time.

See now thats hot. My taurus mars likes to make veiled threats of a similar variety.

just...lmao @ any fixed placement and "veiled"

i'm a leo venus...i'm into being catered to covertly!

i'm a taurus mars...i'm into subtle ownership!

...and so on.

i'm a leo moon, i like discrete attention...

ahahahaha

haha that reminded me of one instance in my last relationship, when I was like "you don't give me enough attention" and he was like "I have to sleep sometimes" and I was like "are you dreaming of me though" *face palm*

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lmao

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Posted by Damnata

Posted by AfternoonDelights22

Posted by SuperMercurial

Posted by AfternoonDelights22

Posted by SuperMercurial

Posted by AfternoonDelights22
I liked them when I was younger for attention seeking reasons as in aye look at me I got some action last night. Beware or my Libra moon might charm it's way into your pants too.

But now I'm not really fond of them.

Ahhh so that's why guys in high school always wanted me to give them one. I felt like they were offering up ownership to me lmao. Earth sign problems.

Rofl Yeah sorry to break it to you earth folks

Guess I'm just going to have to give it to them straight, "I own you now" after the first time.

See now thats hot. My taurus mars likes to make veiled threats of a similar variety.

just...lmao @ any fixed placement and "veiled"

i'm a leo venus...i'm into being catered to covertly!

i'm a taurus mars...i'm into subtle ownership!

...and so on.

i'm a leo moon, i like discrete attention...

ahahahaha

haha that reminded me of one instance in my last relationship, when I was like "you don't give me enough attention" and he was like "I have to sleep sometimes" and I was like "are you dreaming of me though" *face palm*

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😐

my ex gave me three small hickies on my forehead when I was asleep, as a joke, one bang in the middle and two to the side of it... he found it hilarious. That's what you get for dating a prankster I guess... so...many... pranks. -__-

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Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by Damnata
There is an element of marking territory....which the possessive part in me digs a lot.

I see it more as being lost in the carnal part of sex/kissing.

I'm Romanian so I can't fathom people who don't bite.

The guys I've known who were into this were all about the possessive/marking thing.

It's immature and insecure, tbh.

"Hur dur, I want to mark you. Me possessive caveman and want to show it in a tacky way." *grunt grunt*

Generally, sometimes it happens. But when a dude is doing it with intention, blegh.

LOL! i love your Neanderthal impressions of us men.

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Haha. That's what it boils down when the guys are all about doing it to mark territory, all primal and shit.

And yes, they are immature, as someone else denied. When someone is doing it with intention, where it's visible, that's just immature and trashy as shit.

I also said that sometimes they just happen. Shit happens. I can't recall if I've ever had any on my body, but I did have a bruised lip one time and it was just an accident.

Posted by Jardsi
my ex gave me three small hickies on my forehead when I was asleep, as a joke, one bang in the middle and two to the side of it... he found it hilarious. That's what you get for dating a prankster I guess... so...many... pranks. -__-

Dahell?

Posted by OceanBoy88
I dont like hickies in visible places. If i have them or give them, they are in places that any type of clothing will cover. They feel good though. I always say something if my neck might get a hickey. Its not that im trying to look available, but i dont like feeling like i have no decency. Going to work... boss stares at the red flare on your neck. Talking to friends.... stares at the red boil on your neck. Talking to strangers.... stares at a volcanic eruption on your neck. Talking to children.... stares at solar flare on your neck.

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I can get heat rashes in the summer. Guess where— I was struggling with a heat rash one summer and made it a point to inform my bosses just in case some asshat customer bitched about it. haha.

"Heat rash! Not hickey, I swear!"

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Posted by Jardsi
my ex gave me three small hickies on my forehead when I was asleep, as a joke, one bang in the middle and two to the side of it... he found it hilarious. That's what you get for dating a prankster I guess... so...many... pranks. -__-

Dahell?

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Yup!

Posted by Dastard
You feel like dying and just the day after, here you are, talking about hickies. I guess you weren't so depressed after all. Why am I not surprised?

It looks gross to see it on people's necks, and classless too, especially if you can't hide it with a little make up.

I'd rather be bruised up in areas of my body I can hide from the public.

I don't care for my coworkers, family, friends, and strangers to know that I got down lastnight.

Posted by Dastard
You feel like dying and just the day after, here you are, talking about hickies. I guess you weren't so depressed after all. Why am I not surprised?

You can mind your business. Thank you. Anyways back to the topic.... —?✊

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Posted by Tharealher

Posted by Dastard
You feel like dying and just the day after, here you are, talking about hickies. I guess you weren't so depressed after all. Why am I not surprised?

You can mind your business. Thank you. Anyways back to the topic.... —?✊

Your posts are truly fascinating. How did you learn to say "I want attention" in so many different ways?

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Well thanks for the attentiom then cause you keep giving it. It doesn't take a monkey to figure that out. —?

Get them shits off me.

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Posted by Jardsi
my ex gave me three small hickies on my forehead when I was asleep, as a joke, one bang in the middle and two to the side of it... he found it hilarious. That's what you get for dating a prankster I guess... so...many... pranks. -__-

Dahell?

Yup!

How the feck could you stay asleep?

Chloroform?

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-shrugs-

I did wake up eventually and wriggle out of it, yelling at him, but by that time I was already hickied. I punched him several times after I looked in the mirror but he was laughing so much it was really hard not to find the funny side.

nope I don't like hickeys or marks on me. gross.

even when I was younger, with my ex husband.

thankfully I got with men who don't want to " Mark" me that way.

like ooohhhhhhh I got a hickey. they're so gross plus I keep thinking....all that blood going to my skin like that.

so awful!!! and bruising...I get upset when I bump into a furniture and I get a big bruise.

Me personally, I think they're gross and unprofessional. I've been talking to a Pisces girl who told me that if things got hot and heavy that she'd probably leave one on me, but not intentionally.

I really prefer her not to and I suggested that she could leave them in other places where no one could see them.

I don't mind them.

How do men feel about getting a hicky from a woman? (Or at least her trying to give him one)

trashy.

it's like a mix of dracula fetish and marking ones "territory" like an unsnipped tomcat.

I like them in invisible places. Reminds me of the night we had.