southernbeauty
@southernbeauty
18 YearsLibra
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Mind Games
ah... mind games.
Personally what I have experienced is those who play them are not confident within themselves - there are emotional issues going on - ego trips are being taken.
I also feel that all of us at some point in our lives do experience them ...reason being, to understand them and learning how to handle them along with gaining our inner strength.
I am VERY grateful for the men who brought their games to my table because now I am able to recognize the red flags and stop them on a dime. Through these experiences i have also realized that one cannot change the game player, it is not about me, it is my responsibility to take care of myself - knowing what i want and what i do not want.
Not too long ago i met a "player" - i knew it was not going anywhere so i did not invest myself. he kept after me no matter how many times i told him i was not interested...nothing worked until......................i spoke his language.
he likes to play cards.
he had texted me wondering why i had not called him in awhile - my response?
one needs to know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em - i folded awhile back.
he replied that maybe i folded too early
my response - all the cards have been played.
that worked for a few weeks and soon another call came in - (once i say i am finished, i am.) i will not take his calls.
life is so much more enjoyable when each person is open and honest - i just do not have time to play those silly games.
Next!
Personally what I have experienced is those who play them are not confident within themselves - there are emotional issues going on - ego trips are being taken.
I also feel that all of us at some point in our lives do experience them ...reason being, to understand them and learning how to handle them along with gaining our inner strength.
I am VERY grateful for the men who brought their games to my table because now I am able to recognize the red flags and stop them on a dime. Through these experiences i have also realized that one cannot change the game player, it is not about me, it is my responsibility to take care of myself - knowing what i want and what i do not want.
Not too long ago i met a "player" - i knew it was not going anywhere so i did not invest myself. he kept after me no matter how many times i told him i was not interested...nothing worked until......................i spoke his language.
he likes to play cards.
he had texted me wondering why i had not called him in awhile - my response?
one needs to know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em - i folded awhile back.
he replied that maybe i folded too early
my response - all the cards have been played.
that worked for a few weeks and soon another call came in - (once i say i am finished, i am.) i will not take his calls.
life is so much more enjoyable when each person is open and honest - i just do not have time to play those silly games.
Next!
my last relationship was all about mind games and manipulation. from now on i try and do my best to avoid as many mind games and be as honest as possible. at the end, mind game come to the end as any game and nobody really wins.
yes, I think everyone plays mind games in the beginning especially- while you are trying to get to know the other person. I know I did and was being played- until we got to know each other. Then, as time went by- we got to know one another and the guards were let down. The mind games slowed way down. Sometimes still, when I was vunerable- I might play alittle again. But after time- the honesty meant more than anything. Didnt want to play no more. And so, I was done. I do agree that- when you play- learn your player. My player got played because he taught me how. In the end, I realized it would bring too much drama everyday- into a place where I didnt want to hurt no more (my heart)-and with them- it is nothing but ego.
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