moodiness in relationships

...if one of you is bummed does it seem to set the whole mood down? i like to be alone when i am in a bad mood and if i say that i need my space it instantly sends some folks pouting and moody...even angry or sad. maybe its the way i do it...i try to be tactful, but come on...i don't understand where their mood should be so dependent on mine. it feels like way too much pressure for one person to have to hold the "happy" key...so to speak. is it just that i am with guys who are too sensitive? i have a lot of fire and air in my chart but my sun sign is water.

I'm an Aquarius, Cancer Moon & I'll admit that my moods do fluctuate frequently. BUT, when I'm really down, I like to isolate myself from others b/c even when I want others to be there for me, I'd still rather keep the pity-party or the "bad company" to myself. One thing I'd hate is for others to refer to me as the friend who gets on their nerves b/c of all the emotional attention I require; I'd hate to be seen as the friend that everybody wants to distance themselves from strictly b/c of what's going on in my life that they either can or cannot handle. So I just isolate myself, briefly explain that I'm going through "something" without giving much detail & once that part is over, I could care less how others take it. If anything, I see doing this as me doing my friends a favor. I'm so used to being there for others, so when I'm down, I feel that me keeping it all in is me saving them from having to deal with any of my negative feelings or mood swings. I hate it when others try to make me feel guilty for not opening up to them. Yes, I get it, that's what friends are for. BUT, friends are also there to respect & support you & how you chose to deal with things in your life. I know that misery loves company & I try not to be that company. I almost feel guilty or bad when I decide to hang around others when I'm in a funk, b/c no matter how down I am, I'm not that selfish that I feel others need to feel the impact of what I'm going through too. Idk, that's just me.

When it comes down to mood swings while being in a relationship, things can be kind of complicated. It's like, on 1 hand, your partner is supposed to be there for you during the times when you're the most down. BUT, on the other hand, if you abuse that & expect for your partner to ALWAYS deal with your mood swings (and forgetting that they too might be just as down as you are) then that's when normal & regular mood swings can turn into fights & reasons why the relationship isn't or won't be working out much longer. I've had one of those "sensitive" types as a boyfriend before. Whenever he was mad, he couldn't stand it to see his friends/family acting as if life was 1 big party. When he was down, he'd make sure that 1. Everybody knew it & that & almost to the point where he was expecting a world-wide pity party every single time & 2. Everybody FELT it. When he had his mood swings, he wouldn't even try to get himself together before joining a group of people. He had the mentality that "what you see is what you get" & that since the people around him were his friends, that they should be able to handle & tolerate the good AND the bad that came with his personality & also with the circumstances in his life. Sometimes he'd vent & show his mood swings just for the sake of getting attention & having a pity-party MORESO than venting about it as a way of getting everything out as a form of healing or "getting over it."

when i get moddy i just go off to myself no matter what, cuz other ppl's vibes will make my mood worse cuz u can tell they see the moodiness and how its not fitting with their mood, i get to myself so i can do what i feel without feeling somekind of confinement, thats what makes me moody too and then i think of random shit and need to get to myself to go deeper into it so i can understand why it changes mmy mood. basically i leave ppl alone and just leave when im moody cuz being around ppl when i dont feel liek it makes shit 10x worse