Weight Gain

i think a lot of people gain some weight when they're in a relationship (my boyfriend totally got a little padding in the tummy this year) and im definitely guilty of not working out like i used to but how would you feel if your partner gained a lot of weight?

Depends where 😛

In all seriousness, for me it bugs me more as a health thing, not a weight thing.

Btw, so whatever came up regarding your dude's vegas trip? Was he a dirty filthy whore? Or did he make you proud? 🙂

Posted by VirgoHero
Depends where 😛

In all seriousness, for me it bugs me more as a health thing, not a weight thing.

Btw, so whatever came up regarding your dude's vegas trip? Was he a dirty filthy whore? Or did he make you proud? 🙂

obviously he maintains that he was an angel and that they didn't have strippers lol

i bring this up though because i was with my bf the other day and his friend and his girlfriend came over and she got very big. i hadn't seen her for a couple months but September wasn't THAT long ago. she wasn't really skinny before but i wouldn't call her chubby or thick either, just regular. my bf normally doesn't comment on these sorts of things but when they left he was like HOLYSHITWTFHAPPENED. definitely not pregant either (or i hope not because we dranks lots of wine)

Maybe it's medical .. like a fucked up thyroid. Good thing your boyfriend had enough couth not to make any weird faces in her presence, and only had a shallow reaction in her absence.

Normally, when people gain a lot of wieght in a relationship (when it isn't a medical issue) .. it's usually a psychological/emotional issue.

People, for the most part, want to maintain their image, and this includes their physique .. a guy wants to have those 6 pack abs and women want a tight ass. Being comfortable in a relationship doesn't normally trickle down to a person losing apart of their self esteem, as it pertains to their physical bodies.

However, when a person has emotional issues with a partner, even minor ones .. they tend to eat more. It's pyschological and they don't even realize they are doing it until the wieght becomes evident.

Monitor yourself .... you will likely find yourself eating more, or junks when you are upset or unhappy, like just after a fight which hasn't been rectified yet.

It makes you feel comfortable, satisfied ...... the aspect that is currently missing.

^^^tis true. i mostly munch out of boredom when im cooped up inside and i only hole up in the house if im upset about something.

i'm not sure if i'd say anything, but i'd definitely hint. extra weight is not attractive.

Well my ex gained weight at one point, and it was significant but I didn't care. He still looked good to me, and his dick was bigger and longer so I aint mad at that. 😉

I haven't gained or lost any weight when in a relationship or breaking up from one.

Depends on the circumstances. Did someone lose a job? Have a baby? Recently under a lot of stress? Is the relationship in turmoil? Has any kind of infidelity or betrayal happend lately? I mean there are several different reasons why someone would "let go" of themselves in any particular period of time. If my man gained weight b/c of a job loss or b/c of a death in his family, for example I wouldn't hold it against him. BUT eventually, I'd expect for him to get his weight management under control. Not necessarily back to what he used to be. But I believe that when someone "eats" their feelings, that's an indication of a lack of proper management in some way, shape or form. So if anything, I'd expect for my partner to eliminate or regulate whatever was causing the weight gain. It's no different than if I noticed my partner picking up a smoking or drinking habbit; I'd expect them to identify the problem of WHY the habit started in the 1st place so that then the next step would be in properly managing that problem. Of course it's unrealistic to expect a partner to stay at the exact same size & weight throughout the course of the entire relationship; that's a fairy tale..and mainly b/c even the person complaining might eventually have a bout with their own weight..It comes down to how strongly & physically attractive your partner was before the weight gain. If a big part of their attractiveness was in how they were shaped (waist or muscles for example) it's understandable that weight gain, which might take away that original "sexiness' could be a problem. Big enough of a problem to leave that person? Of course not. In some cases where relationships are already on the rocks though, weight gain can be the final straw