Never Married and forty!

why do women say a man is afraid of commitment when he is in his forties and never been married? just asking because i am tired of hearing the negative judgement.

Honey, it could be worse. If you were a woman, you'd be called "left-over, old maid that no one wanted to marry"🙂

But all jokes aside, are you afraid of commitment deep down? No Ma'am i am not afraid of commitment.I just do not want to commit to the wrong thing. when i meet that one who is perfect for me i will commit and of course be faithful. I know ya'll say that is hard for a man,but it is possible.

Basically, I'm curious about the question.

Never married? I might think there was either an issue with him being too critical or whether there was an issue why other women aren't interested in him.

Long term relationships, but never married? I might think, well, he just hasn't met the right girl yet.

Another thing I might wonder is if he is a momma's boy, where no girl can either compete with mom or no girl measures up to mom.

I do understand about being afraid of choosing the wrong one. Plus, it really is hard to find a quality person that is just perfect for you. But if you found decent, quality people, is it possible you subconsciously are too critical and find too many flaws in everyone? No one is perfect.

Could it be possible you have ridiculously high standards that would be impossible for any woman to meet? Just asking you to think a little deeper into your subconsciou.

You don't have to answer here, publicly, but please consider what I said.

Basically, yeah, its a red flag that needs to be investigated before moving forward. Sorry, but I'm being honest here.

O.K. STOP TALKING ABOUT ME RIGHT NOW ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

lol @tate.

As for the topic, there's a forum on the ASK.MEN.com about women and men over 40 and never been married.
they call the women "selfish and self-centered" and don't care about people but herself. However, they believe that men over 40 may have DIFFERENT reasons. -_-
hmmm...isn't it similar though if that's the case. Although, not talking about they are selfish, ect, and maybe some of them are, but they say men wouldn't be on that list. ah well. maybe they are james bonds? or the 40 year old virgin types.

just google it, since i don't want to link the forum, but i just googled, men and women over 40 never married.

I'LL DO THAT

40 is still YOUNG seriouslyyyy

AT 46 IF I AM GOING TO DO IT , IT SHOULD BE SOON.

Posted by james tate
AT 46 IF I AM GOING TO DO IT , IT SHOULD BE SOON.

get on the train already

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by truecap

Basically, I'm curious about the question.

Never married? I might think there was either an issue with him being too critical or whether there was an issue why other women aren't interested in him.

Marriage (just like having children) is optional and ISN'T compulsory. When are silly misguided women going to wake up and realise this?

World peace? More like burn every published fairytale book in existence (along with Walt Disney and Hollywood)...

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True, but he asked why women assumed he had commitment issues. I was being honest and threw a list of questions, things to ponder on, out there and said that the reason(s) should be investigated (meaning before I made a heavy investment in this guy). I didn't say I assumed anything. Those are just the thoughts I go through in my head. These thoughts are not misguided - I look at it as being cautious before I get my heart broken. Weighing all the angles never hurt anyone, ya know.