What does your partner's choices in EXES

say about them?

?? when you are left scratching your head and going why would he/she ever be with that person?? do you judge, a little?

hahahahahahha

Posted by tiziani
LOL @ feb16

I don't know. I hate to give the cookie cutter answer but honestly when you love them, the past choices say absolutely nothing at all. Every love is a new opportunity. I learned that from BeautifulSoul.

Thank you sir. 🙂 I've learned from you as well.

can you share why Sugaries?

Think about it this way: They've upgraded!!

Posted by truecap
Think about it this way: They've upgraded!!

that's true LOL but some make me wonder, like how the hell couldYA?

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
can you share why Sugaries?

We were out last weekend and he said I date people beneath my league...but then he hinted that maybe he wasn't as successful as my last ex. "I'm not a professional fighter" Maybe he was just trying to come at me from different angles to get me to express how I felt about him but it rubbed me the wrong way so I brought up his exes. I really need to stop playing tit for tat...never resolves anything.

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hmm, yeah he was feeling insecure about the "professional fighter". For sure he was fishing with you.

When you see your partner's ex, or hear about how bad they are. Does it make you feel worse about yourself, as if he has bad taste in women?

Posted by truecap

When you see your partner's ex, or hear about how bad they are. Does it make you feel worse about yourself, as if he has bad taste in women?

When two people break up, it's usually due to feelings spiralling so far down, that they become bitter.

If the partner I was with now spoke of his ex, I would remain sound of mind enough to realize that he speaks from the perspective of how she was at the break up and not how she was when he was in deep with love.

Am I to guess assume from answers in here that most people don't think that deeply into it, and only respond to the shallow surface when regarding feelings?

Posted by truecap
When you see your partner's ex, or hear about how bad they are. Does it make you feel worse about yourself, as if he has bad taste in women?

Truecap, not so much what you hear about her but when you do see her unexpectedly and realize that she's really nothing like you, I mean REALLY NOTHING. You are left wondering, what did he see in her? Shallow, I know, it's mostly based on appearances.

Funny how you would think a topic about looks... as this is seeming, would have more male interests posting then women.

he definitely dated beneath him. I see sooooo much more in him, then I look at his ex'es and be like "whyyyyyy?" U can do soooo much better!!!

Posted by xdimplez
that he chooses girls that are a reflection of himself, or that feeds into his insecurities.

that he likes power, and girls he can control and manipulate

what he doesnt understand is, that not all girls the same. some girls may be submissive to his demands, while others question him and defy him

and eventually, the girls turn into women and they out grow him.

I like this 🙂

I have never judged them by how bad their ex was.

Pisces- The only thing I ever thought about his ex was I wondered why she hated him so much and to me it was a red flag. Because she seemed like a pretty normal person, and the things he claimed she said and did (which I found out were true) were very awful. I know some people who know her, and they are pretty normal. Lookswise, she looked kind of like me, similar body type, short brunette.

Cap- His exes were very young, and in some cases under 21, even in his late '30's. He dated a lot of strippers. A few of them moved in and he paid their bills or at least put things in his name. To me this says that he liked to be in charge, and be the daddy, and the hero.

Scorp-This is the only one that stumps me. His choice of exes is not surprising- have all been younger than him, all blonde. At least 2 were Sagittarius women. So it would appear that he likes fun, adventurous, sporty types. So why he picked a much older, brunette, Cappy woman this time is totally beyond me. He did tell me when he met me that he was looking to "settle down", however.

Posted by xdimplez
that he chooses girls that are a reflection of himself, or that feeds into his insecurities.

that he likes power, and girls he can control and manipulate

what he doesnt understand is, that not all girls the same. some girls may be submissive to his demands, while others question him and defy him

and eventually, the girls turn into women and they out grow him.

Does it make you wonder if he sees you this way? As one of those type of girls?

i LOVE to hear about my man's exes.
not to judge him, though.
just because i like to know all about him...curious.
none of that influences my feelings towards him.
everyone has to practice to make perfect.