Once a cheater, always a cheater?

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Once a ___, always a ____. (Explain your reasoning)

Secondly, do you guys TRULY believe that once a cheater, always a cheater?

For those who say YES, once a cheater always a cheater, what is your reasoning behind your mindset?
1. Are you only assuming he'll always be a cheater b/c he keeps cheating on YOU persay? Have you ever taken into consideration that maybe it's just YOU that he doesn't respect & that it might be diff. if he were with someone else?
2. How can you personally prove that the person who cheated on you/on someone you know, that they continue to cheat for the rest of their lives? I ask this question assuming that most of us stop keeping up with that person's new flame(s) after a while. How can you convince yourself that he/she will ALWAYS be a cheater if you're not even there to witness him/her in their next relationship with someone else?

I personally believe that "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is ONLY true when the person who cheats doesn't fully acknowledge their ways. If a person finds small ways to justify WHY they cheated, there's a HIGH liklihood that they'll continue to cheat until they finally, "GET IT!" However, some people only have to hurt the WRONG MF & they'll learn their lesson the FIRST time (I'm sure all the men who got their wackers cut off by their crazy wives/girlfriends won't ever cheat again!) HA!

My beliefs:

1. Once a sex offender, ALWAYS a sex offender. Even sex offenders themselves say that the thoughts never go away. Them actually REACTING to those disgusting thoughts might never happen again, BUT those thoughts never go away. Once someone even allows their mind to "go there" there is NO turning back.

2. Once a phony, always a phony! It's harder to convince a fake person that they are fake more than it is to convince someone of anything else. Fake/phone people NEVER believe that they're fake/phony & if they actually do believe it, they justify it and/or make excuses for it. Phony people all have 1 thing in common: DENIAL.

3. Once you make the decision that you are attracted to the SAME sex, there is NO turning back. Through denial, a person may try their hardest to supress OR deny their attraction to the same sex, BUT the emotional/psychological attraction NEVER goes away once it's been activated.

I think it depends on their reason for cheating. I have cheated, would I cheat again? I like to say no but unfortunately I folow the same patterns everytime. My reason for cheating: because I am a pathetic wimp and cant get myself out of relationships in time. Not trying to justify my cheating at all but it has always been as a way out of the relationship rather then me trying to have my cake and eat it.

I am working on this, and in my last relationship, I told the guy that we need to split up because I am going to cheat on him if we stay together (still a wimp because I didnt actually break up with him, just told him to break up with me). And I suppose it depends on the definition of cheating, I am an emotional cheat, not the type to go out sleeping with people behind someones back, but I am initiating a new relationship before ending the one that I am in.

I do however believe that people can change (like I am trying to) I know a lot of guys from when I was at school who were cheating on their partners who have found the right girl, settled down, and are disgusted with the way they were when they were younger, I know girls who are the same. But I also know the ones who dont give a fuck and will continue to cheat because they continue to be forgiven for it!

@Librasun: Good points. There are some people who def. DO change their scheming ways. Those ways may not change over night, BUT some people actually DO have a conscious & acknowledge that cheating didn't fix/solve WHATEVER problem they were having.

So many cheaters are ONLY sorry that they got caught & NOT b/c they actually cheated. They spend so much time trying to cover up/explain/justify the cheating that they leave no time to actually process what the hell mess they just made!

And true, some men change when they meet the right woman, BUT it's not the woman who all of the sudden makes him change. It's the MAN who for some reason randomly decided to put his own cheating ways to the side. It's just that some men conveinantly decide to put those ways away for good around the same time they just so happen to meet someone they consider amazing. Hell even a man who has the best woman in the world might still cheat, if anything b/c he can. Sad but true