So me and this guy have been dating for like a year now before this we were like best friends. Its all good when we meet up, it's fun and we get along for the most part, he'l constantly make fun of me in a friendly teasing way of course and takes care of me at the time. But for me there are a few issues and i've put up with it a long while, recently it's been getting too much to handle though because I knew how he was with his exes in comparison.
With one ex for example he wrote her love letters and was so affectionate towards her brought her gifts, celebrated her birthday and valentines day, the other ex I saw the kind of stuff he wrote to her in text messages. Like caring thoughtful messages. even I miss you, I wanna hold you, I love you etc etc. So that's one thing that's missing, any kind of emotion. Im not an overly emotional person myself but it would be nice for him to show me some expression of emotion. I guess it's weird because we started as friends and at that transition point he said he felt more for me and he likes me in the more than friends way as his feelings developed. But since that point he just doesn't express himself. I don't much either but as the man I expect it from him first. when I bring it up he comes out with all kinds of reasons such as the previous women gave him sex and that love is physical and emotional and he does bring that up a lot. I don't believe in sex before marriage. he says he holds back because of that as if ill get all the emotions if I give.him the physical side of things.
The next issue is in between us meeting up he barely initiates messages, but when I do he's pretty friendly enough and replies quick enough, when I stop initiating for a while he'l be like.where have you been why didn't I message and I thnk well why didn't you.
The last few weeks I became moodier with.him as evrything was building up. First I said let's meet on tuesday about two weeks back he was lik I should know he doesn't meet on tuesday and to meet friday (he makes a fuss over what day we can meet too ) or the following week, I said ok but I was ill the following week ..n then the week after that which ws last week he cancelled because he has to help his friend with his wedding plans, but most of that week I knew he ws simply going out with his friends and enjoying himself. BUT he dd say he hadn't seen them in months so I thought ok fine. I got a little angry over all that still and he just laughed at me n said why am I going so crazy but when I stopped talking to him for a while he kept messaging me trying to cheer me up and then said ok we.can go away on holiday for a few days. That's the only time in a long time he's made an effort to keep me in is life.
Two days ago now what happened was I showed him a picture of a couple of instagram and said they look so in love and look what he says about her. I said you should be more affectionate like.him you're just cold and empty. He then proceeded to make a comment which did it for me. He said maybe if you dressed up like the woman and actually made an effort to dress up I would be like that with you. he was half joking half being serious but that really didn't help. its like he's coming up with yet another reason why he isn't the way I want him to be. he then said if you need help I can get you someone who can help you dress better. Also it doesn't help the fact that I know he follows about 700 woman on instagram whther they're make up artists or models, but complete randoms. Its just weird to me to follow that many woman. I usually stick to a few celebrities maybe and a few people I know.
anyway that was enough for me at that time I just flipped and said you know what you do what you like and I'll do what I like and he said alright good luck so I blocked.him on social media. and we havnt spoken since.
I just don't know what to do now did I take it.too much to heart because he is constantly kidding around with me and am I over reacting. I feel like deep down he definitely has a soft spot for me since we have been friends for a good eight years now and it ws better when we wer friends because since it.became "more" iv just not seen eye to eye with him and he doesn't give me what I want I.e the emotions and according to him I don't give.him anything sexually and that's what he wants