Relationships---Just Venting

I'm amazed by some of the things I've read on dxpnet, regarding men, women, cheating and relationships. It's pretty sad that by reading these posts, I understand why more and more people are remaining single and/or are having "open" relationships. That's just MIND BLOWING to me. I'm not a traditionalist, I'm only 25yrs., and I understand that we are all human and monogamy is an unnatural occurrence...but I am becoming more and more positive that this way of thinking allows us to make excuses for ourselves, and the fact that we (UNFORTUNATELY) are unable to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions...are we really sooo lazy to turn down true relating?

I have cheated, once, and I will continue to beat myself up for it. The fact that I've cheated haunts me in every one of my relationships to this very day. Of course, I tell myself not to be too self critical, for I am only human. But when I'm honest w/ myslef...YES, I'am human which is why my ex forgave me and still talks to me today...but, I also broke the heart of someone EXTREMELY special in my life, and I will always be shameful...he didn't deserve that. It's one thing to play the field, date around and be upfront about it. It's another to say you are committed to someone, but still have "relations," w/ other people, i.e., sexual, flirty, or anything that would be disrespctful to your partner.

To those of you who follow the latter trend in your relationships...GOOD LUCK! That fear of spending your life w/ only one person is what will prevent you from ever truly knowing what it's like to not only love someone, but to have that someone truly love you, back...and I mean the way a Man loves a Woman. It's funny to hear men say that they don't care if their wife hangs out w/ other guys...or women say that their man can flirt, but at least he's coming back home to me...That is UTTER SHIZNAT! As humans, we are also territorial...and there's nothing wrong w/ feeling like your man/wo-man is yours and no one elses! Yes, as Humans, we are free to roam...but you know what, if you've pledged committment to someone...roam w/ tact and respect...don't do to your partner what you wouldn't want done to yourselves...

Those who disagree w/ me, that's fine, and I welcome all responses. But I'am conviced that those who do not agree have a low sense of respect for themselves (no matter how much you want to preach about how happy you are!)--BYE :-)

Happy to let you vent! I agree with what you said. Cheating is not cool though and I don't believe I would ever do that. But as they say-Never say Never 🙂

"Last thing, forgive yourself already! And, if someone ever cheats on you, plan to call it even and forgive them too." That's definitely some sound advice!

I remember your story...no, didn't forget to call you a "disrespecting low-life a $ $ #013"...never intended to.

NO...it's not ok to be discrete and not get caught...if that was the behavior in question, that person is a pussy!

ciao ciao!

Hey Mr. Nice

I'm a leo. I'm also in a very exciting relationship, and i'm happy. This has nothing to do w/ my cheating past...I only mention it to prove my point regarding why I could never be in an open relationship, and why people need to have more respect for themselves and their partners instead of taking the easy way out by promoting open relationships. Yes, i do still beat myself up from time to time...but I'm not wallowing in guilt. Thanks for your comments!